Why are you so rude to people on your profile?

[jdavisauto]

We was looking through some profiles on SLS and found that many people are just rude on their profile. This is not just on SLS but other swingers sites as well. Just seems like on SLS there’s more (that could be because we are on SLS more then the other sites). Some came right out and call people fatties, ugly and old fucks on their profiles. One profile stated: “If you are a ugly person you need not to contact us. We only want people as good looking as us“. Some of their profiles makes them so unattractive no matter how good looking they think that are. We know that everyone has their preference but why be so rude to people about it? Are they so full of them self’s that they just can’t find a nice way to state their preference?

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by jdavisauto

We was looking through some profiles on SLS and found that many people are just rude on their profile. This is not just on SLS but other swingers sites as well. Just seems like on SLS there’s more. Some came right out and call people fatties, ugly and old fucks on their profiles. One profile stated: “If you are a ugly person you need not to contact us. We only want people as good looking as us“. Some of their profiles makes them so unattractive no matter how good looking they think that are. We know that everyone has their preference but why be so rude to people about it? Are they so full of them self’s that they just can’t find a nice way to state their preference?

In any sufficiently large group, there's bound to be a few jerks. I don't know if SLS exhibits more or less of this. No idea.

Personally, when I view a profile and see people refer to others that aren't quite like them in derogatory terms, I don't care if I'm like them or not. Next!

There's a huge difference between "We're physically fit, and hope you are too" and "We're in good shape and won't play with lazy physical slobs" but the goal is the same.

Some people are just rude.

[BiloxiCouple]

I would rather found it on their profile that they are assholes versus meeting them in person and wasting more time to find out.

It doesn't matter how good looking you are, someone else is tired of your shit.

[socolais]

let sleeping dogs lie.

If they're getting all the action they want, then I'm happy for them.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

It doesn't matter how good looking you are, someone else is tired of your shit.

There's plenty of people you can take a look at and think "OH MY GOD! [S]HE IS *#()@$*()@# HOT!"

Then, when you get to know them and find out what a total kneebiter they are, you can never look at them in the same way again. Instead, you think "Oh, yeah, whatever. [S]he's got a great body, but I can't even begin to imagine being in bed with that thing!"

[spvcouple]

We agree with Biloxi...better to find out a bit about them upfront...before you waste anytime with them. Personally, we have rarely met this type of person. But when we have, it doesn't matter how hard he is, how wet she is or how perfect the breasts are... we walk the other way.

K and D

[two42lovers]

We haven't seen much of that - certainly isn't a majority...

Sounds like they are morons - why give them a second thought?

[rpu3]

There are plenty of people who are rude jerks in real life. Why would a profile on a swinging website be any different?

At least the profiles are honest as to their mode of operation and those who don't in such a way can pass those profiles on by. Saves some of us a lot of time by their "honesty".

[cpl4funindel]

We've seen those types of profiles on SLS as well... A real turn off.

While physical attraction has a part to play in all this, if that's the way it's presented they just went ugly in our views. I suppose in some respects though, it's nice of them to make it obvious they're jerks up front...

P&S

[PB&J]

There was a profile on a site we're on which was all in caps, horribly spelled, and really really bitter because as far as I could tell, they'd never been able to hook up. They changed it daily, it got more and more shrill, and then they just.... disappeared. What a relief.

[good times]

Interesting, while I think a lot of times people could say these things a little more diplomatically, they are stating what they want or don't want. Being a person who pretty much says what is on his mind in real life, these profiles don't bother me at all. Furthermore, based on all the emails we get from people who obviously haven't read our profile, I can kind of understand the direct blunt approach some use. And honestly, if we thought they were hot and that we matched what they were looking for it wouldn't keep us from contacting them.

So I have to agree with what someone else said above, if it works for them, it doesn't bother me in the least.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by PB&J

There was a profile on a site we're on which was all in caps, horribly spelled, and really really bitter because as far as I could tell, they'd never been able to hook up. They changed it daily, it got more and more shrill, and then they just.... disappeared. What a relief.

Probably a relief for them too.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by PB&J

There was a profile on a site we're on which was all in caps, horribly spelled, and really really bitter because as far as I could tell, they'd never been able to hook up. They changed it daily, it got more and more shrill, and then they just.... disappeared. What a relief.

Their profiles give you an insight into their personalities.

It continues to amaze me how little time some people actually put into their profiles and expect so much in return.

Just like when you go to party/club looking for a hookup. You look at how they look, how they dress, how they talk and many other factors. Certain things will interest you and other things will turn you off. These things give you an insight into their personalities just like the profiles that are listed online.

First impressions are important even on-line. So you really should take your time and have a well written profile with appropriate pictures.

So if you want to be taken seriously, take a bathe, use spell check, dress nice, take a nice picture (of both of you), explain what you are looking for, brush your teeth, use appropriate punctuation... Got the idea

[fun4Ds]

Sometimes I think they put something in there because of what happened. Either when they met someone in the beginning, or recently.

Some just seem that way to me. Like they are taking a jab at someone on purpose.

[Fox n Hound]

No one has mentioned that some profiles are just not real to start with, just some clown jerking us while they jerk themselves. They just want to see what they can stir up, but maybe we could be wrong.

The one statement we have seen most is, "no previous fatties" what a shame to make that statement. Diplomacy is worth a kings ransome.

Fox N Hound