How to tell a couple you're not interested?

mr_n_mrs_oz · 08-01-2008, 02:23 PM

I was wondering how you tell a couple that your not interested. I feel that it is very childish not to respond to an email. However I am not sure how to tell couples in a nice way that we are not interested in them without hurting someones feelings. Any advice? Thanks in advance

The Mrs.

2insandiego4u · 08-01-2008, 02:30 PM

We just posted this in another thread - here's how we respond:

Thank you for contacting us! We feel it is best to be honest in this lifestyle, and we just do not feel the spark we are looking for. We wish you the best in you search!

Take care, xxxxx & xxxxx (signature and names optional)

Just say no, nicely and politely. That is all that is necessary.

If they can't handle some rejection then this lifestyle is not for them.

two42lovers · 08-01-2008, 02:30 PM

"Thank you for the nice email. We don't feel it is a match, but we do wish you the best sexy adventures! OXOXOX"

mr_n_mrs_oz · 08-01-2008, 02:32 PM

Oh thank you both those are both awesome way to respond thank you!

**LikeMinds321** · 08-01-2008, 03:15 PM

You might find some interesting reading on this topic in the Archive forum under Saying No Gracefully.

LM

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-01-2008, 04:29 PM

"thank you but we are not interested." I know it seems blunt but it's short and simple and leaves no room for question.

I've gone back and forth over the whole to reply or not to reply. If there has been ANY back and forth we reply. If it's simply them contacting us whether or not their is a reply is based largely on what their contact was (if it's obvious they didn't read our profile then I see no point in paying them more respect than they gave me).

2insandiego4u · 08-01-2008, 04:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I've gone back and forth over the whole to reply or not to reply. If there has been ANY back and forth we reply. If it's simply them contacting us whether or not their is a reply is based largely on what their contact was (if it's obvious they didn't read our profile then I see no point in paying them more respect than they gave me).

We always reply back to couples, but not single guys. The profile clearly says we will find them if we're interested.

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-01-2008, 05:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 2insandiego4u

We always reply back to couples, but not single guys. The profile clearly says we will find them if we're interested.

Ditto that.... and....
Our profile clearly states that if you contact us you should include a picture (or two) that shows BOTH of you (either in your profile or attached to the contact). So if that requirement is not met, or if they are writing wanting only g/g while the boys sit and watch (which we also state we aren't looking for) then I believe our answer has already been given (had they bothered to read).

jdavisauto · 08-01-2008, 11:22 PM

We feel that honesty is always the best we just response back as. "Thank you for your e-mail and interest, but unfortunately at this time we must decline your offer".

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08-01-2008, 02:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
mr_n_mrs_oz Registered Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7 Location: COS, CO Status: Couple SLS Name:Mr_n_mrs_oz	How to tell a couple you're not interested? I was wondering how you tell a couple that your not interested. I feel that it is very childish not to respond to an email. However I am not sure how to tell couples in a nice way that we are not interested in them without hurting someones feelings. Any advice? Thanks in advance The Mrs.

08-01-2008, 02:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
2insandiego4u ♥♥♥ Lovin' This! ♥♥♥ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 479 Location: San Diego Status: Couple SLS Name:2inSanDiego4u	Re: How to tell a couple? We just posted this in another thread - here's how we respond: Thank you for contacting us! We feel it is best to be honest in this lifestyle, and we just do not feel the spark we are looking for. We wish you the best in you search! Take care, xxxxx & xxxxx (signature and names optional) Just say no, nicely and politely. That is all that is necessary. If they can't handle some rejection then this lifestyle is not for them. __________________ SLS/AFF/TSS/SZC Profile Name: 2inSanDiego4u - "Doggie Style is Mandatory."

08-01-2008, 02:30 PM	#3 (permalink)
two42lovers Luv seeing friends quiver Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 298 Location: California central coast Status: couple SLS Name:two42lovers Blog Entries: 2	Re: How to tell a couple? "Thank you for the nice email. We don't feel it is a match, but we do wish you the best sexy adventures! OXOXOX" __________________ Tell the people you love how you feel, and do what your heart tells you.

08-01-2008, 02:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
mr_n_mrs_oz Registered Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 7 Location: COS, CO Status: Couple SLS Name:Mr_n_mrs_oz	Re: How to tell a couple? Oh thank you both those are both awesome way to respond thank you!

08-01-2008, 03:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 Let's get comfortable... Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 8,497 Location: On the couch Status: Married to Mr LM	Re: How to tell a couple? You might find some interesting reading on this topic in the Archive forum under Saying No Gracefully. LM

08-01-2008, 04:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,082 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 58	Re: How to tell a couple you're not interested? "thank you but we are not interested." I know it seems blunt but it's short and simple and leaves no room for question. I've gone back and forth over the whole to reply or not to reply. If there has been ANY back and forth we reply. If it's simply them contacting us whether or not their is a reply is based largely on what their contact was (if it's obvious they didn't read our profile then I see no point in paying them more respect than they gave me).

08-01-2008, 11:22 PM	#9 (permalink)
jdavisauto Together we are one Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 337 Location: Las Vegas Status: couple SLS Name:jdavisauto	Re: How to tell a couple you're not interested? We feel that honesty is always the best we just response back as. "Thank you for your e-mail and interest, but unfortunately at this time we must decline your offer". __________________ Stop laughing or I WILL put my clothes back on.

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