Speaking Of Ads........

[red96]

Recently we have had a couple of real Jerks respond to our ad on AFF. We always try to respond to all inquiries with a personal note whether it is to decline an offer or pursue one. Occasionally we will use the quick reply feature of the site if we have a lot of messages to respond to. It seems that replying with a note tends to piss some guys off if we decline them. One guy actually said my wife was to PRETTY to be real WTF?, another said we were lying about her age. She is 47 but looks much younger, he decided she had to be younger than 47 and wanted to argue the point !( it made no sense to us. Why would a woman lie and say she was older than she is?) Another decided we declined his offer because we only have High School diplomas and weren't smart enough to know when a good thing came along. My first inclination is to fire right back at these people. We were never rude to any of these guys and do not understand what brought about their replies, i though of all kinds of nice little comebacks to send them but really didn't want to get into an on-line pissing match with anyone. Would you send the remarks that you come up with or just consider the source and ignore them? I really hate taking crap from anyone, it is not in my nature to do so. What I end up doing is blocking them from having further contact with us but then I stew about not replying to their asinine messages.
Sorry for the long post I guess I just needed to vent, thanks for listening

Dave

[sweet_tna]

Welcome to the internet. Unfortunately, the relative anonymity gives some people the feeling that manners are no longer necessary. Consider the source, and don't dignify those emails with a response. Just block 'em and move on.

By the way, while I wouldn't appreciate being called a liar, I would love for people to insist I don't look my age.

=)

[realcplub2]

Life is too short to allow the IDIOTS to bother your time, Esp on AFF

We reply to all emails as a personal courtesy... And yes we have the rude and sometimes weird replies too.. Just hit the delete button and forget em..

Trust me, they are thier own undoing.. just think of it in this way.. Unless they are the second coming.. they arent getting anywhere ANYWAY.. thier poor manners or in ablilty to converse even if by EMAIL isnt going to serve them well is it?

Like I said, just forget em.. and instead of getting pissed, chuckle to yourself, as you imagine the people that THEY DO connect with..

Oh God NOOOOOOOO!

[cocpl2007]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

Life is too short to allow the IDIOTS to bother your time, Esp on AFF

We reply to all emails as a personal courtesy... And yes we have the rude and sometimes weird replies too.. Just hit the delete button and forget em..

Trust me, they are thier own undoing.. just think of it in this way.. Unless they are the second coming.. they arent getting anywhere ANYWAY.. thier poor manners or in ablilty to converse even if by EMAIL isnt going to serve them well is it?

Like I said, just forget em.. and instead of getting pissed, chuckle to yourself, as you imagine the people that THEY DO connect with..

Oh God NOOOOOOOO!

Couldn't agree more!

[newlythree]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

Life is too short to allow the IDIOTS to bother your time, Esp on AFF

We reply to all emails as a personal courtesy... And yes we have the rude and sometimes weird replies too.. Just hit the delete button and forget em..

Trust me, they are thier own undoing.. just think of it in this way.. Unless they are the second coming.. they arent getting anywhere ANYWAY.. thier poor manners or in ablilty to converse even if by EMAIL isnt going to serve them well is it?

Like I said, just forget em.. and instead of getting pissed, chuckle to yourself, as you imagine the people that THEY DO connect with..

Oh God NOOOOOOOO!

This one here is right on the money!!!! Be glad you didn't hook up with the degenerates that have forgotten how to act like a grown up. You could give them the benefit of the doubt; maybe their parents forgot to teach them manners Speaking of which....there is no of knowing for sure if they even are of legal age.
We do the same...respond to each message we get. We have yet to get any rudness back but I am sure that time will come. I have a feeling we would just block that user and keep on with our bad (or naughty I should say) selves.

[3sumff]

Red69,
Don't even give it a second thought. Whenever we have come across some jerk, we just block them. You would think they would have some class, but they don't. Which to me is very surprising and sad. Aren't we all adults on here?????

[cplnuswing]

Just block them and move on.

#1, acting like that, pretty good odds they aren't for real to start with, and even if they were, not someone you would want to play with, and #2, firing back at them while satisfying just prolongs the online relationship leaving hope in their mind something might come of it.

[gatorvol64]

Ignoring and blocking them are good. Now, follow that up with not wanting to respond. It is easier to say rude things via the internet than face to face. However, that doesn't make it right. People who do this aren't going to be successful swinging.

Instead of "not being smart enough to know a good thing", by just ignoring them you are smart enough not to waste your time on them. They don't deserve even the time you spend stewing.

Vol

[red96]

The not to smart comment came after we politely declined a "Gentleman's" offer to meet. After that message we didn't reply, just blocked him. From the message he sent you would have thought he was Gods' gift to the Swinging Lifestyle. I guess I just do not understand why some people feel the need to rude when you reject an offer from them. I was brought up to show people respect and rude behavior was not tolerated, but also not to back down from a fight if I was right in my thinking. Sometimes it is hard to resist the urge to fire back at them but I/ we do resist. We realize it is a total waste of time and energy. I have also wondered to myself if these types actually make any connections or if they are on the site just to mess with people. Maybe it is because we are new to this some think we are desperate to make a connection. Nothing could be further from the truth, to us this is a hobby, something we do for fun. We are very selective in who we interact with and if either of us do not like their message or their profile we move on. Maybe replying to all messages is a bad idea after all, from now on if someone sends a message we do not like we will simply block them. That would be a strong indicator that we are not interested in them and we would get any more crap from them. Thanks to everyone for their advice and for helping us figure things out.

Dave