Pictures of "stuff" in profiles

[LikeMinds321]

So many swingers include pictures of stuff in their profiles.

I see pictures of motorcyles, boats, sandy beaches at posh resorts, cars, RVs, pets, you name it, if they own it or have been there, some people seem compelled to show it to you.

Now if the people are included in these pictures, I have no problem with that. But the pictures that I'm talking about are ones that don't include themselves.

These type of pictures have become a pet peeve of mine, I don't care for "stuff" pics. I don't care what they own, I don't care if they have a second home on an island they want to show me, I don't care what their pet looks like.

I wonder, are these people trying to find people who have these same things? Or do they post these pics because it is how they define themselves, and without "stuff" they have no sense of themselves, no way to define who they are?

I have found that profiles with pictures of objects or vacation spots they've visited that do not include themselves in the picture keep me from wanting to contact them. I feel that if these objects are what makes them who they are, and I have nothing in common with these objects, then we probably won't have anything to talk about because all they'll want to talk about is their stuff.

What's your view on this subject?

LM

[fun4Ds]

I'm with you Likeminds, however I think some people who show their stuff are either proud of what ever they are showing, or just looking for things in common .

We approve profiles and x rated pics for sls now, and you wouldnt believe what stuff we see. It goes with the other thread about outstanding things people say, to things that turn you off in profiles. We have been from amazed, to just plain grossed out .

What stuff have you, or others here seen that just make you say... hummm ?

[Chris&Amelia]

Okay, we have pictures of "stuff" on SLS, such as us playing golf (a comedy of errors if you ever saw one...), or us on vacation to Cancun, or our dogs. But we have those in our personal galleries. If you would like see those, feel free to ask and we will gladly open it up. Don't care to see them? That's cool too.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

I think some people who show their stuff are proud of what ever they are showing...

I'm sure they are. But why use a swinger ad to show off the stuff you have that you're proud of? Makes me think if I met some of these people they'd bring a 3" photo album along on the first meet to start up a conversation, "Here's little Raymond winning his skateboard tournament, and Suzie atop the cheerleader pyramid, and our Harley's just after we waxed them before heading out to Sturgis."

I've seen profiles with default and public pics that are nothing but stuff; a miniature train collection, petunias in a pot, and stuffed animals are some of the oddest.

When someone includes one picture of stuff along with seven pics of themselves, no problem, but when you look at a profile and there's no people - only stuff - I'm left thinking they need to set up a MySpace profile if they want to share this much personal stuff laying around their house and in their yard.

LM

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Chris&Amelia

Okay, we have pictures of "stuff" on SLS, such as us playing golf (a comedy of errors if you ever saw one...), or us on vacation to Cancun, or our dogs. But we have those in our personal galleries. If you would like see those, feel free to ask and we will gladly open it up. Don't care to see them? That's cool too.

But you are with your stuff, right? That's what I'm talking about, be in the picture with it, and it's cool.

But if people don't show themselves, only show their stuff, that isn't cool.

LM

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

But you are with your stuff, right?

Well, yes. Except for the dogs. Us taking pictures of the dogs generally consist of us following them with a camera while yelling "Stop! Sit! For the love of God, please SIT DOWN!" hoping they'll stay still for the three lousy seconds...

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

But if people don't show themselves, only show their stuff, that isn't cool.

I stand corrected, then. This sounds like those people who post either pics of just half of the party, or who post pics with only her or only him, but never both of them together...

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Chris&Amelia

Well, yes. Except for the dogs. Us taking pictures of the dogs generally consist of us following them with a camera while yelling "Stop! Sit! For the love of God, please SIT DOWN!" hoping they'll stay still for the three lousy seconds...

I do have a soft spot in me for pets. I will "aahhh" over a pet picture before a kid picture.

I think many times people put a default pic up of something they own because they think it assures them of anonymity. But I think doing this is much more revealing and risky.

Put a pic of your custom car, or your detailed Harley, or your boat with "Starry Night" scripted on the side and you've just outed yourself.

Think about that.

We don't even have certified pictures of us in our home that would show parts of our house that our family and friends could identify us by. People close to us don't know what we look like half naked, but they will recognize the decorator bowl they gave us at Christmas sitting on the coffee table next to my bare ass.

LM

[sweet_tna]

We don't have any "stuff" worth taking pictures of, so you won't find that in our profile, lol!

I'm guessing those who do take pics of their cars, boats, or motorcycles are proud of them and want to find others with similar interests. And for those that post pics of these items without themselves in the pic (especially the public pics) makes me think they're naive enough to believe that it's less revealing than putting themselves in the shot. Either way, I generally go, "Next!" when I come across profiles like these.

=)

[good times]

Actually, I have found that I really like it when people do this. The reason for that is it has been our experience that folks that post pictures of their car, boat, plane, horse, or all the pictures of them were taken at some resort, helps us weed out non-compatible playmates. Without exception, when we have met folks that posted these things, that is all they had to talk about, which makes for a very boring evening. It never seems to occur to them that, the reason I don't own a (insert whatever it is here) in the first place, is because I am not interested in it in the least.

[two4youinswva]

I don't really get the pictures of "stuff" either.

HOWEVER:
If someone were to post a picture of themselves hosting a social on a nice 30 foot "party boat" they owned, well, I could see our interest rising a bit, due to our interests in the ummmm, aqua-sciences.

Just sayin'

[SW_PA_Couple]

Guilty as charged, Your Honor. But we ask the court's mercy before the sentence is declared. One picture in included in a place within our on-line profile where free members cannot see it, all others showing our un-obscured faces, that shows the back end of a small, two-seat convertible automobile. The sentiment displayed on the registration plate is intended to emphasize the earnest intent we have in finding lifestyle people.

Michael

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

The sentiment displayed on the registration plate is intended to emphasize the earnest intent we have in finding lifestyle people.

Ok, I had to perv your profile to see exactly what it said.
Very cool! I like it!

I think it would be even cooler if you could get the same pic, with the two of you sitting in the car, looking over your shoulders, back at the camera.

[Additude]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

So many swingers include pictures of stuff in their profiles.

I see pictures of motorcyles, boats, sandy beaches at posh resorts, cars, RVs, pets, you name it, if they own it or have been there, some people seem compelled to show it to you.

Now if the people are included in these pictures, I have no problem with that. But the pictures that I'm talking about are ones that don't include themselves.

These type of pictures have become a pet peeve of mine, I don't care for "stuff" pics. I don't care what they own, I don't care if they have a second home on an island they want to show me, I don't care what their pet looks like.

I wonder, are these people trying to find people who have these same things? Or do they post these pics because it is how they define themselves, and without "stuff" they have no sense of themselves, no way to define who they are?

I have found that profiles with pictures of objects or vacation spots they've visited that do not include themselves in the picture keep me from wanting to contact them. I feel that if these objects are what makes them who they are, and I have nothing in common with these objects, then we probably won't have anything to talk about because all they'll want to talk about is their stuff.

What's your view on this subject?

LM

I don't want to sound mean or anything, but your statement sounds purely pre-judgemental to me.

If they for example have included any pics of themselves, then I think it's fine. If they have absolutely no pics of themselves, then they don't have pics of themselves and I'd still contact them if their profile was interesting. Some people make all their pics private so that's almost the same as no pics.

On the flip side of what your saying, it could be that someone see's a pic of their vacation spot and says to themselves, "Hey We've been there, so have they"....or "Nice Harley....we ride Harley's also".....

My point is it could go both ways.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Additude

I don't want to sound mean or anything, but your statement sounds purely pre-judgemental to me.

I understand your point, and I don't see it as mean at all.

Do I consider pictures in a profile as a way to judge others? Yes, and I think everything about a profile is there as a way to help us judge whether we want to contact someone. I don't feel it's being "judgemental" - as in harsh - to consider pictures in a profile along with what the profile says to decide if we have an interest in meeting someone.

For me, pictures are just one part of how I form an opinion by carefully weighing how someone presents themselves.

LM

[JustAskJulie]

I am with the concensus that as long as they do include pictures of both of them, I don't mind if they have other pictures of other stuff that helps to define their interests. If those were their ONLY pictures, or even their primary pictures, I would say it would definately be a problem.

I think part of the issue you are dealing with comes from the site that you use and that they allow pretty much anything (it seems) to be posted as a picture with a profile (even as a primary picture), from cartoons to bikes, to whatever, possibly to the point that some people don't even include pictures of themselves at all.... and it would leave me wondering on THOSE ads if they were even real ads. I would look at them and assume (which is what I did the first couple of times I looked at the site in reference) and assume that those were fake (template) ads placed there by the site owners to fill space.