How important is Yahoo

[Ellyanne77]

We have been on Swing Lifestyle for a little over a month now. Being that we are new we are still receiving numerous emails a week. However, it seems that 90% of the people want us to chat on Yahoo. We clearly state on our profile that we do not Yahoo due to privacy concerns. I guess we don't understand why you pay for a site that is taylored to fit what you need to read about other couples only to constantly be redirected to a second party chat program.
It is unfortunate becuase we are most likely missing out on some pretty interesting couples. We actaully turned away a 27 year old single bi female (i know we are crazy) because she said she likes to yahoo with couples to see if their is a connection before she meets them.
I guess my question is, how important is Yahoo? Those of you who have had Swing Lifestyle profiles for awhile, please tell us, do we need to change our position on this?

[JustAskJulie]

I personally don't do Yahoo chat either mainly because I don't do online chat. For those who prefer chat, I can see why they would prefer Yahoo over chatting through Swing Lifestyle built - in chat program. The main reason being that they can have Yahoo open while they are doing anything else and it is very easy to chat while doing something else in Yahoo. However, when you are trying to chat through a program that is built into a site like Swing Lifestyle you have to have that site open and you are constantly having to flip back and forth if you want to do something else.

[couple85602]

Like "Julie" says...we use Yahoo chat just because we are more comfortable using that program rather the the slow cumbersome chat program built into Swing Lifestyle. We don't make it a requirement before meeting someone, but it is nice being able to quickly chat about pretty much anything off of the top of your head for a while.
We don't understand the privacy concerns, as you can pretty much remain anonymous.

[rpu3]

I don't know what your privacy concerns are about Yahoo, actually. I don't see where I leave all my personal data behind for Yahoo to sell or lose on a couple of my accounts.

You don't even need to have the actual Yahoo! chat program installed on your computer. You can use Webmessenger by Yahoo which is internet based instead of downloading the program.

I don't like the Swing Lifestyle chat function, and I don't like having to leave Swing Lifestyle open just to communicate. Yahoo chat is pretty innocuous if I'm running it in the background or off to the side while doing other work on the computer.

I think missing out on some interesting people would not be worth insisting on Swing Lifestyle chat. Just my opinion, though.

[sweet_tna]

I prefer Yahoo as well, for the reasons already mentioned. While chatting isn't a requirement for me, I do enjoy it. As for privacy, I've not found that to be an issue.

Do you need to change your position? Only if you find that sticking with Swing Lifestyle for chats is causing you to miss out on meeting some great people.

[incognito989]

I won't deny, it's important to us.

Contacts through Swing Lifestyle, or other means are slow and not as interactive. With yahoo (or other chat programs) we can find out very quickly if we're going to be compatible. There's no back and forth of email or messages, no lag time.

To be honest, chatting with someone is often an easier way to get to know them than talking to them in person.

As Julie mentioned, you don't need to have a window to Swing Lifestyle open all the time when you have a 3rd party messaging system. It sits in your taskbar, waiting for messages.

Also important to note - you can set yourself 'invisible' to everyone, or just specific contacts, in the event that you don't want to appear online to some folks.

We created a yahoo ID just for chatting with couples, and it worked out ok. No privacy issues, as we only disclose what we want to disclose over chat.

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by incognito989

As Julie mentioned, you don't need to have a window to Swing Lifestyle open all the time when you have a 3rd party messaging system. It sits in your taskbar, waiting for messages.

Also important to note - you can set yourself 'invisible' to everyone, or just specific contacts, in the event that you don't want to appear online to some folks.

We created a yahoo ID just for chatting with couples, and it worked out ok. No privacy issues, as we only disclose what we want to disclose over chat.

Not big chatters, but when we do, it is Yahoo for the reasons listed above and also the archive feature. It is nice to be able to read back over the chat log if you have archive turned on. During the actual chat, you are reading quick and formulating a quick response, so it is easy to miss bits of info that you can pick up rereading the log.

[Pepper & Drew]

Well, I guess if you want to meet more people, you will need to change your position. We like to chat with folks before meeting them, and we use Yahoo. You can't tell all you need to know about a couple in four paragraphs, and to us, it's less "out there" than giving someone your cell phone number. There is the chat function on Swing Lifestyle, but we have it disabled on ours because we've had way too many weirdos try to contact us that way.

I would be wary about your complete reluctance to chat at least once before meeting, but then again, we'd just tell you that we could meet at a social and go from there.

It's up to you whether you want to yahoo.

Pepper

[lovenestduo]

We're among the few that don't Yahoo. Or msn for that matter. Hell, we've even got text messaging on our phones disabled.

A while back we used to do the msn thing when someone requested it but found it was too much trouble. The majority seemed to be more interested in having cybersex than making plans to meet. If we didn't remember to turn it off or set it "away" we were accused of ignoring people or having lewd messages pop up at the worst times. You can't get to know someone who's hiding behind a keyboard.

The whole text culture is strange. Here we are in the 21st century and we have gone from telephones back to the telegraph.

[tribbles]

We will chat on yahoo but not for long...way too often the person isn't really going to meet anyone. It's just cyber stuff for them. So...if you don't wanna chat, really quickly find a place to offer to meet...a party or a coffee house. Offer it up and if they go for it, great. If not, move on.

[WesternSwing]

We don't Yahoo allot, probably mostly with those we already know. In our experience those that we haven't met that want to IM usually turn out to be guys trying to gain your trust and share pics. Had one of these recently in fact... all was good then "hey, do you have pics you can show me?" Yup, they're on our profile, what you see is what you get until we know you better.

Also, IM takes allot of time out of a day. In fact, it can kill a productive day if I log-on at work.

So if you don't want to IM, than don't. It won't hurt your chances of meeting people who really want to meet face to face.

Now after a recent experience with Yahoo! Answers ask me what I think of that.

[sexcupid]

We use Yahoo. Again, because the Swing Lifestyle chat is a pita to use. And some folks use it to swap pics back and forth.

I usually have my status message set to away or busy, but will respond if someone we know wants to talk (since I'm at home all day right now).

If you feel you are turning down good potential playmates because of your stance, then maybe you should consider changing it? Set up a dummy account, no one is saying you have to fill out all the information on the profile that is public.

Good luck!

Maria

[redeye69]

I also was im the other day and very soon was asked for photos which made me suspicious so i checked and there profile had some glowing verifications does this make them more legit or can they be doctored also?

[Ed & Bunny]

I guess my big thing is I would like to get a feel for a person before handing out a phone #. I am not sure what your privavy issue is but giving out your number to a complete stranger seems more troublesome than using yahoo. Plus with some peoples comments about people wanting to cyber, we like finding that out on the yahoo stage. We can then just block them. If we had to wait till after a phone call...... You do know that with a phone # you can get someones full name and address. Just my .02 cents.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by redeye69

I also was im the other day and very soon was asked for photos which made me suspicious so i checked and there profile had some glowing verifications does this make them more legit or can they be doctored also?

Like anything they can be doctored. If they have friends that are on the site their friends can leave them the certs... or if someone really wanted to stretch they could even create multiple accounts and leave themselves glowing certifications.

You really just have to trust your gut on things.