Pet Peeves in Personal Ads

[starryeyes]

Ok... now we have a few questions.... (got us thinking, dangerous very dangerous)

How many of you are offended by misspelled words?

Or words used out of context?

Or by "text style" wording (not to be confused with textile... refer to previous question)?

Do you prefer words to be spelled out?

Should we create a poll for this or is there already one?

[Dynamar]

Yes, yes, yes and yes. Call me a snob, but I pass on those who cannot spell or use correct grammar or punctuation.

[JustAskJulie]

I can deal with to an extent. An occasional misspelling or typo doesn't bother me. There are words that I know I misspell 90% of the time and I do try to catch them, but I knowing that I try to be forgiving of the same in others. What really annoys me is when people use text speak. It's fine for texting - unless you have Palm or a Blackberry or some other phone with a full keyboard, but it should not carry over to other forms of communication.

[swingcouple69]

Originally Posted by starryeyes

Ok... now we have a few questions.... (got us thinking, dangerous very dangerous)

How many of you are offended by misspelled words?

Or words used out of context?

Or by "text style" wording (not to be confused with textile... refer to previous question)?

Do you prefer words to be spelled out?

Should we create a poll for this or is there already one?

I don't know that any of these are offensive alone. When someone messages, doesn't use periods, capital letters, non stop "text style" wording that can sometimes be a problem for me. We may or may not give a "we're not interested response" depending on the profile. But if the subject of the message is similar to one I recently received "hey hun" or the first line of the message is something like "ya wanna fuck". Its a pretty sure bet that they are going to get a "no thank you" response from us.

Simply because we're not looking just to have sex with as many people as we can. We're looking for people that we can be friends with too. We have kids and we have picnics that we invite our swining friends and our families to. We're not "crass" or rude people and we really wouldn't want to be friends with "crass" or rude people, let alone expose them to our families.

Is that stupid?

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by starryeyes

Ok... now we have a few questions.... (got us thinking, dangerous very dangerous)

How many of you are offended by misspelled words?

Or words used out of context?

Or by "text style" wording (not to be confused with textile... refer to previous question)?

Do you prefer words to be spelled out?

Should we create a poll for this or is there already one?

I'm not offended per se...but it drives me batty when common words are misspelled. Like supercalifragilisticexpealidocious. Ok, sorry...I'm just entertaining myself there. I know it's easy to transpose letters, like 'teh' instead of 'the'. If you are the one typing it up, let the hubby read it before posting it so he can proofread it.

Out of context words do get to me a little. I assume you are talking about words that sound the same, but have different definitions? Like instead of athestically pleasing, they write ascetically pleasing? Not to be mean about it, but if you don't know the definition/use of a 'big' word...don't use it. I'm not trying to be ugly with that statement, it won't impress me if you use it incorrectly.

I do prefer words to be spelled out and I don't really like receiving an 'text-style' message, unless of course it is an actual text message.

Am I picky? Do I critique profiles or email people to tell them what is wrong in their profiles or emails they send? Um, no. That would be kind of rude unless they asked me to do so.

Maria

[warkman]

I think in forum thread posts, neither occasional misspelling nor occasional bad grammar, given the cut and paste nature of word processing, is a turn off. Like Julie, text speak annoys me. Malapropisms and other incorrect word usage incite possibly undue snobby discrimination in me. It doesn't mean that the person isn't nice, good, or smart. It just elicits a feeling of discomfort that would most likely make me look elsewhere. Folks tend to look for others who share similar backgrounds, be it religious beliefs, level of education, political viewpoints, etc. What those thresholds are vary greatly from one person to another. In a personal ad, however, I would hope to put my best foot forward and carefully, thoughtfully, put myself out there with one that was thoroughly proofread.

[edmustang]

Originally Posted by starryeyes

How many of you are offended by misspelled words?

Or words used out of context?

Or by "text style" wording (not to be confused with textile... refer to previous question)?

Do you prefer words to be spelled out?

Should we create a poll for this or is there already one?

Me...sometimes...YES!...yes...sure.

I'm on board with you, starryeyes. Occasional misspellings or misuse of words is okay, so is the occasional common colloquialism; like "kinda", or "gimme". But when you've read a message or ad twice and are still not sure of what was being said, that's just sloppy. (See, I even started a sentence with a conjunction! The stick up my butt is pretty small! Conjunction Junction...what's your function?... ;-) )

I see it all the time on eBay and on Swing Lifestyle. No doubt I'll get flamed for this, but I've noticed that it's more prevalent in people from the Midwest.

You may now start casting stones...

[WesternSwing]

I wouldn't say we are offended by such things, but it does drive us crazy because it makes the profile very hard to read and also gives us an idea of how much care and concern they put into writing it, which could carry over into other aspects of our relationship with them - whatever it may be.

An incomplete profile or one that just says "Just ask me" under each section is even more annoying.

[The Fuse]

I am a snob about many things, but...

I'm not looking to marry the people whose ads I read. If I can understand them, a certain amount of bad grammar and number of spelling errors is okay. Some of the smartest people I know can't spell. I always prefer someone who has facility with the language, but I already am too picky -- I'm not going to add that kind of stuff to the list of things that make me say "No way!" until it interferes with communication enough to annoy me.

[travcouple]

Originally Posted by edmustang

Conjunction Junction...what's your function?... ;-

hooking up words and phrases and clauses

[Ellyanne77]

I can over look misspelled words, but I have a real problem with people who talk or type like they were off an epsiode of Rosanne. I live in the south and think that there is nothing as sexy as the eloquent southern draw of a womans voice, but there is a big difference between that and sounding like the lady at the grocery store yelling at her children like an illiterate hic. I actually got an email on Swing Lifestyle telling us to check out his "Ole Lady". It made me throw up in my mouth a little.

[lovenestduo]

Regional "quirks" and even broken English doesn't bother us. Spelling does, mainly because it's hard to find a program that doesn't have spell check nowadays. Do we not deserve the little time required for you to right-click on all those red underlined words? And don't even get us started on "text speak". Those people deserve their own little place in hell.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by Ellyanne77

I actually got an email on Swing Lifestyle telling us to check out his "Ole Lady".

This is something that folks from my part of Ohio used to say. Of course, my sweetie uses it to. In reference to me...which I find highly ironic since I'm 14 years younger than him. It still drives me nuts though. Sheesh, call me the live in, playtoy, girlfriend, whatever...but not old lady. lmao

But I think he says 'old' and not 'ole'...although that makes me think of o le, like a Spanish word. lol

Maria

[des1re06]

Spelling and grammar are a big deal, as well as one liners in profiles.

Hubby just looks at the pictures.

The profile review post here is one of the best tools I've seen for helping to fix this problem. Newbies take note:
Couples Profile Reviews



Mrs. D

[petra6998]

I personal hate it when there is words spelled wrong in the tag lines. If you can't take enough thought to spell the tag line right why would I want to look in the profile. A few words spelled wrong in the profile is fine. But it drives me nuts in the tag line. I don't mind the use of slang words and that in the profile or when we are chatting or even words spelled wrong in chats because I do it when I am trying to type fast or I am thinking faster than I type.

I hate being called the "Old Lady" my husband started calling me that when we were dating for only 3 months and I made it a point that I am not his old lady and if he wants a old lady he can look elsewhere, well I haven't heard him say that in the past 12 years.