Pet Peeves in Personal Ads

[BiloxiCouple]

People who contact you and they don't have any pictures and barely three sentences in their profile. I guess they don't realize how serious they are.

[exploringRM]

I skimmed the previous posts, so maybe these were metioned, but I just caught a profile that annoyed me...and while I'm here I'll vent just a little more...

1) Profile names that imply the people are new (newfun4us, juststarting...) but you see that they have been members of the online site for 4 years!


2) Similar to the profile name, profile descriptions that say they are new, or no experience, but based on how lone they have had a profile in combination with certs, you can assume they are experienced. Not that I'm looking for newbies, but at least update the profile to match current events.

3) Not updating their ages.

[dodgechevy]

Originally Posted by exploringRM

I skimmed the previous posts, so maybe these were metioned, but I just caught a profile that annoyed me...and while I'm here I'll vent just a little more...

1) Profile names that imply the people are new (newfun4us, juststarting...) but you see that they have been members of the online site for 4 years!


2) Similar to the profile name, profile descriptions that say they are new, or no experience, but based on how lone they have had a profile in combination with certs, you can assume they are experienced. Not that I'm looking for newbies, but at least update the profile to match current events.

3) Not updating their ages.

To be fair about the names, it's hard to go back and change them once everyone you know gets to know you by that name.

For example how about our name????!!?!??! Dodgechevy?!?!?! come on

Story goes like this, we made a profile real quick like, to start thinking about the lifestyle. Ended up going to our first party a month later with that name and the rest is history.

[The Fuse]

Pet peeves? "We can't post pictures because of his job..." when there are pictures of the woman which are readily identifiable.

I was just on Swing Lifestyle and saw one of those profiles. There are pictures of the woman's very significant, custom tattoos in the public gallery. It says she shows them to anyone. So anyone who knows her on a social level will instantly know who she is, and therefore who he is. So I don't believe it's his job that keeps them from posting an anonymous picture of him, say in jeans and a white T-shirt, cut off at the neck.

[exploringRM]

Good point dodgechevy on the profile name change thing. The profile that set me off was one that had new in the profile name AND the profile said they were new, but had been active for years based on the member since date.

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Pet peeves? "We can't post pictures because of his job..." when there are pictures of the woman which are readily identifiable.

I was just on Swing Lifestyle and saw one of those profiles. There are pictures of the woman's very significant, custom tattoos in the public gallery. It says she shows them to anyone. So anyone who knows her on a social level will instantly know who she is, and therefore who he is. So I don't believe it's his job that keeps them from posting an anonymous picture of him, say in jeans and a white T-shirt, cut off at the neck.

So true.

We recently took down pics and made our faces private. It wasn't because of his job, but our jobs. We weren't as cautious at first, but I've recently felt the need.

xoxo, N (N is she and S is he)

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by bellsandwhistle

So true.

We recently took down pics and made our faces private. It wasn't because of his job, but our jobs. We weren't as cautious at first, but I've recently felt the need.

xoxo, N (N is she and S is he)

So now that your faces are private (so are ours), do you still have public pictures up that show prospective playmates what body types they are dealing with, for both of you?

I forgot to mention another thing about the profile from two posts ago (with no pictures of him, but her pictures pretty much identified her in a vanilla way). The profile's handle was composed of their two first names.

And they are not posting an anonymous picture of him because of his job?

Give me a break!

[PB&J]

How about this, on the subject of peeves, not pics- couple on a Canadian site we're on- saying they've just moved in June and want hep[sic] breaking in their hot tub- fair enough, except they've had the identical ad for a full year since LAST June, and they "updated" their ad the other day and didn't even bother to correct the spelling error.

[Babysteps]

Ok, here's my pet peeve. Now I know why we're all here, and what our motivations are, and that the "end result" we're all in search of IS of an adult nature.......BUT......is it really necessary to spell out IN SUCH A GRAPHIC MANNER, the types of activities sought, descriptions of body parts, etc. Maybe I'm wrong, and it's a GOOD thing to be so specific, but to me, it sometimes comes off in bad taste.

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

So now that your faces are private (so are ours), do you still have public pictures up that show prospective playmates what body types they are dealing with, for both of you?

I forgot to mention another thing about the profile from two posts ago (with no pictures of him, but her pictures pretty much identified her in a vanilla way). The profile's handle was composed of their two first names.

And they are not posting an anonymous picture of him because of his job?

Give me a break!

I took some pics of myself to display and he's got to get on that. If a couple would like to see more pics, we'll gladly attach some to an email.

As for pet peeves, I'm sure it's been mentioned a lot, but pure genital shots are a major turnoff.

[NCfuncouple98]

Originally Posted by bellsandwhistle

I took some pics of myself to display and he's got to get on that. If a couple would like to see more pics, we'll gladly attach some to an email.

FYI - A lot of folks will not exchange pics through email - we are one of those couples. We'll open private pics on the sites, but we do not even send face pics through regular email, and I know many feel the same way.

We figure we pay to be a member of 3 sites, and we have plenty of pics to share, public or private. Too much implication to send them through email, even regular face pictures - read about the family where their pictures were found on an ad in Czech? Taken off of facebook!

We had some emails with a couple the other night who have NO pics on Swing Lifestyle except one in her bikini top. They wanted to meet up with as at the club and asked "how will we know who you are?" My response: I would happily open our private pictures, however, since you have no pictures to open in return, our names are "XXXX", I guess you'll have to track us down.

[bellsandwhistle]

Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

FYI - A lot of folks will not exchange pics through email - we are one of those couples. We'll open private pics on the sites, but we do not even send face pics through regular email, and I know many feel the same way.

We figure we pay to be a member of 3 sites, and we have plenty of pics to share, public or private. Too much implication to send them through email, even regular face pictures - read about the family where their pictures were found on an ad in Czech? Taken off of facebook!

We had some emails with a couple the other night who have NO pics on Swing Lifestyle except one in her bikini top. They wanted to meet up with as at the club and asked "how will we know who you are?" My response: I would happily open our private pictures, however, since you have no pictures to open in return, our names are "XXXX", I guess you'll have to track us down.

Perhaps "gladly" was the wrong word choice.

We don't mind attaching our face/full profile pics (the un-nekkid ones) to emails, if we're both confortable.

We're cautious, but feel that you have to give a little to get a little....or maybe a lot. Being more of an exhibitionist, I enjoy having some sexy shots on AFF and other sites.

We never meet anyone alone and I'm sure we have public pics floating around from various vanilla social activities. It's not as though we lend our address out or our place of employment.

ETA - No pics through our joint email, but through AFF we will attach more. Just wanted to clarify that fact.

[CnD4evr]

our pet peeve is only having pics of the lady half of a couple. It bugs us when they are listed as a couple and only one is shown. Either the guy is dog ugly or something seriously wrong with the profile. I am sure this has been noted before but we just had to mention it.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by CnD4evr

our pet peeve is only having pics of the lady half of a couple. It bugs us when they are listed as a couple and only one is shown. Either the guy is dog ugly or something seriously wrong with the profile. I am sure this has been noted before but we just had to mention it.

Yes, this has been mentioned before, and by me more than my fair share . It is a big pet peeve of mine.

I just have to say, I have been surprised how many times the "hidden" male half is attractive. Mostly we find out by meeting the couple at a party or meet and greet, then looking at their profile later and seeing only pictures of the lady. So, there is hope for some of those couples.

[ALilOEverything]

It's a pet peeve when couples make completely new profiles to make the necessary changes to make themselves appear more favorable. I believe they do this because of all the people who have blocked them... it gives them a fresh start but it feels like they are hiding something to me. This is one example why I have a problem with this:

Last week we were contacted by a couple who had a huge age difference (17 years) where the female half wasn't even drinking age. Well I see they just made a new profile and is now she has suddenly aged 3 years and is old enough to drink (obviously the same couple). It's already a pet peeve when people lie about their age but this is even worse. People need to be making an informed decision when it comes to drinking with minors and it doesn't let unsuspecting people to chose not to.

I'm sure there are valid reasons for making a whole new profile, but chances are we'll shy away.