Couples Profile Reviews

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Scoobers

We have been having terrible luck lately with emails.

I don't think it's you profile that is holding you back. It looks great. Maybe you will have to adjust your expectations for what an S L S (or any other on-line) profile will produce. Have you been getting out to meet-n-greet events and such to meet people?

[good times]

Originally Posted by Scoobers

we are Scoobers on Swing Lifestyle. Thanks!

While I agree with the others that your profile is well written and seems to convey what you are looking for, I can see a couple of reasons why you may not be having much luck.

The first one is obvious, to me at least. That is that you seem to be looking for a relationship, rather than play partners. In other words, you are what we commonly call a "friends first" couple. While I see that this is what you really want, the reality is most folks are looking for play partners first, if they become friends later that is fine, but not essential. In other words, that alone will severely limit the amount of potential prospects. While Swing Lifestyle is filled with folks looking for the same thing you are, very few of them actually ever find it. On the other hand, many of us have made great life long friends of people we have played with. But had we wanted to make friends with them first, we not only would have never played, but we would never have become friends either.

The second thing may seem minor, but it is an automatic decline for us and a lot of others we know. That is that you list your weights as zero. When zero is listed for the weight and, as in your case, the pictures are not clear enough to indicate whether your body type would be compatible, most automatically assume the worst and pass.

While some may be put off by your ages, I doubt if that is a very big deal to most. It certainly would not be for us.

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by good times

The first one is obvious, to me at least. That is that you seem to be looking for a relationship, rather than play partners. In other words, you are what we commonly call a "friends first" couple. While I see that this is what you really want, the reality is most folks are looking for play partners first, if they become friends later that is fine, but not essential. In other words, that alone will severely limit the amount of potential prospects. While Swing Lifestyle is filled with folks looking for the same thing you are, very few of them actually ever find it. On the other hand, many of us have made great life long friends of people we have played with. But had we wanted to make friends with them first, we not only would have never played, but we would never have become friends either.

This is right in there with what I was saying but good times went into much greater detail and explained it very well. This is both a positive and negative depending on what you want your results to return and I think good times even gave an excellent example of why you may want to avoid this (even though we prefer it )

Originally Posted by good times

The second thing may seem minor, but it is an automatic decline for us and a lot of others we know. That is that you list your weights as zero. When zero is listed for the weight and, as in your case, the pictures are not clear enough to indicate whether your body type would be compatible, most automatically assume the worst and pass.

I completely missed this because I was focusing on your written profile. Mrs. Diggs and I are funny in the fact that she notices age, height/weight and profile in that order but the profile has the most weight. I on the other hand notice age range, pictures and then profile with profile having the most weight. If I notice I'm out of the age range, I'll blow past the profile completely as I respect their requests. We both do not like "0" in the weight. We have seen heavy people do this as well as very slender people. It is just a red flag when we see it.

been wanting to use that one.

It make us assume that they are self conscious and right off the bat you start assuming other things and start picking apart the profile.

[Adam-n-Eve]

Hello!

We've been swinging now for a couple of years and our profile has evolved over that time. As we learn more about the types of partners we're looking for, we're trying to create a profile that attracts more compatible playmates, but without sounding jaded or demanding. We know how easy it can be to let negativity creep into your profile and would like to avoid that at all costs -- even if it means being less direct or specific.

After having made our most recent changes, we wanted to get some unbiased feedback and make sure we're still achieving our goals overall.

Would you please look at our Swing Lifestyle profile by clicking on eve_n_adam after name: to the left, and give us your opinion?

We're under the impression that anyone should be able to see our public Swing Lifestyle profile by clicking on that line (you don't have to be an Swing Lifestyle member), but please let us know if you can't see it and we'll post the text here.

Please be honest and direct, and if you can tell us a little bit about yourself (newbie vs. veteran, soft vs. full swap, etc) that would help too. If you are offended by anything, it would also help if you'd tell us why.

Thanks!

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Adam-n-Eve

After having made our most recent changes, we wanted to get some unbiased feedback and make sure we're still achieving our goals overall.

1. You have a picture showing both of you together. To me, that's the most important thing for any on-line profile. And you both, by the way, look great.

2. I believe you have over explained a couple of things -- your feelings on same-room activity, the need to receive a picture when you hear from someone and your disinterest in soft swap. They should all be there but could simply be said more briefly.

Looks good.

[DiscreetDesires]

I agree with SW_PA_Couple. It's great to have a pic of both of you in the profile, and the over explanation.

The only thing I have to add is that while it's great to have a pic of both of you, the male half does not look that happy in the picture.
He looks almost confused. Other than the expression on his face, the picture is GREAT!!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Adam-n-Eve

Please be honest and direct, and if you can tell us a little bit about yourself (newbie vs. veteran, soft vs. full swap, etc) that would help too. If you are offended by anything, it would also help if you'd tell us why.

Thanks!

I like your profile. It has a friendly, inviting, relaxed tone to it and includes things I like to hear.

We started swinging in 2004, I've read many profiles and prefer seeking couples through profiles (as opposed to clubs), we are a full-swap couple who is also open to solo play, and we require pictures.

I think your nude picture is one of the nicest I've seen because you are not engaged in sex. Sounds odd maybe, but I think it's refreshing to see the type of photo you have.

I would recommend removing "(people can be a little to free with their jadedness sometimes)" because it is a complaint statement in your profile and it gave me the feeling that behind it were some very negative thoughts.

This statement I believe is missing a word and I've filled one in (in bold) so you can see where I stumbled when reading:

"which unfortunately means that we miss out on a lot of great couples..."

Also here, I think you have a double negative, which turns the statement to a positive - a "yes" instead of a "no" - and I think you mean to convey that soft-swap isn't enough. Remove the third "not" to get that message across:

"As a whole, we're not interested in soft-swap; it's not not enough for us."

Great job overall.

LM

[DigginIt]

Hey Adam-n-Eve! Yes, there are a few little things here and there that have already been pointed out but I'd have to rate it as a great profile. It reads very well and you have everything clearly laid out. Not to mention you are a sexy couple!

The only suggestion I would make and EVERYONE does this but I don't think they know how to fix it. You may not even notice because I'm sure you have granted YOURSELF access to your personal pictures but for those of us that do not have that access ... we see your default photo, then several spots where is says "private picture" "private picture" 15 more photos ...

If you go into your Tools, Manage Pictures and there on the page you will see a link under your Public tab that says "Change Sort Order", simply move all of your public pictures to the top of the list and all of those "private photo" place holders will go away and your public photos will show. Everytime you add a new photo, they go to the top of the sort order and if they are private then you have to move them down to the bottom of the list.

Make sense?

Originally Posted by Adam-n-Eve

Hello!

Please be honest and direct, and if you can tell us a little bit about yourself (newbie vs. veteran, soft vs. full swap, etc) that would help too. If you are offended by anything, it would also help if you'd tell us why.

Thanks!

Mrs. Diggs and I have been swinging for almost a full year! We will celebrate our Swing Anniversary on the 22nd of this month. We are a full swap, mostly same room with the occasional exception that pretty much has only two rules that haven't been thrown to the curb ... safe sex and always together.

Nothing really offends us but if you are talking about pictures/profiles then we prefer the softer photos like you have posted versus the ones that look like they should be in Hustler. That's because we want to have sex like that but we are still attached to the romantic side of sexual encounters.

We also enjoy a well thought out profile versus three bullet sentences under each category because you can tell a lot about a couple that way and it gives you a foundation for a potential connection when the physical may be borderline.

Cheers!

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

. . .I think your nude picture is one of the nicest I've seen because you are not engaged in sex. Sounds odd maybe, but I think it's refreshing to see the type of photo you have. . .

I'll second that motion. All in favors show your hands. The "ayes" have it. Hands down.

[nola40scpl]

howdy, newbie to the forums here, definitely not new to swinging. i've read some pretty good critiques on other forums and have seen some pretty good 'don'ts'. one that has stuck out is try to avoid the cliches. how many people do you know are actually looking for diseased druggies? and what the hell did ken and barbie do to people? turn them down? i think you get the point. use the space for something useful to potential suitors.

that being said, the first thing that makes me click away from a profile is when i see HWP. this is the most over used cliche i have seen yet. for example, as visually appealing as you two are, according to the latest charts, neither of you are HWP but overweight, (google BMI charts) so you see how this can be turned against your favor. yes, there are people out there THAT picky. perhaps a 'we tend to be attracted to body types similar to ours' would be a little less 'self serving'.

the rest of the profile is direct and to the point. well written with a tad of redundancy as stated previously. there is no doubt what you are looking for in play partners. adding the HWP 'requirement' tends to make it a little transparent. you may as well have just made your tag line 'FAT PEOPLE STOP EMAILING US!'

[Adam-n-Eve]

Originally Posted by DiscreetDesires

I agree with SW_PA_Couple. It's great to have a pic of both of you in the profile, and the over explanation.

The only thing I have to add is that while it's great to have a pic of both of you, the male half does not look that happy in the picture.
He looks almost confused. Other than the expression on his face, the picture is GREAT!!

Yeah, I kind of have a problem with that. But it's literally a life-long issue of people telling me I look stern or unhappy. I try to do better, but the fake smile ends up looking dorky.

[Adam-n-Eve]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I like your profile. It has a friendly, inviting, relaxed tone to it and includes things I like to hear...

...I think your nude picture is one of the nicest I've seen because you are not engaged in sex. Sounds odd maybe, but I think it's refreshing to see the type of photo you have.

Thanks. We kind of prefer that ourselves, but then that's why we went with that kind of picture.

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I would recommend removing "(people can be a little to free with their jadedness sometimes)" because it is a complaint statement in your profile and it gave me the feeling that behind it were some very negative thoughts.

Point taken. The statement about jadedness is a jaded statement. You're 100% correct.

Thanks for the call out on the typos too.

[crystalpleasure]

We'd be interested in some constructive (or destructive) criticism of our profile on Swing Lifestyle, Crystalenjoyment

Mr & Mrs Crystalenjoyment

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by crystalpleasure

We'd be interested in some constructive (or destructive) criticism of our profile on Swing Lifestyle, Crystalenjoyment

Mr & Mrs Crystalenjoyment

Well constructed, good writing style, grammar correct -- plus one

Looking for people who share the same fantasies -- that's OK to say but you'd do better to explain what those fantasies are. Better yet, explain what your goal in the lifestyle are.

Honest and direct -- plus one

Your two pictures say a lot about your manicurist but very little about you -- Minus One.

You look like you are on the road to success. Keep up the good work.

~Michael

[MulderNScully]

Okay, Scully and Mulder will bite, but it will also reveal our true identities for the first time. To say we are not open to some scrutiny to maximize our on line experiences as a couple in the Lifestyle is both fruitless and senseless. We welcome any constructive criticism you and our cohorts can give.

On Swing Lifestyle it is: EdNBrenda2004

On SwingerZoneCentral it is: EdNBrenda2008

Any advice is welcomed...Thanks in advance.