TO BI or not to BI is that the question???

[EbonynJon]

Hi Everyone,

I just wanted to say that I enjoy reading this board and feel the compassion that is shared by fellow members of this site.

I am new at this, so I am not sure if this questions has been posted.

If I partake in sexually encounter with a woman, soley for the purpose of pleasing my husband, Am I bi-curious or something else?

My husband and I have been swinging for several years now and just this year we had our first experience with a FMF 3some.

Sometime after this took place I was helping my husband pack, for a business trip out of town for a couple of Months, and in our conversations about our encounter he said to me" It's ok to invite (third person) over to stay with you".

I was kinda puzzled with is statment, since our encounter was soley for his pleasure, I enjoyed see him get so aroused, and know I would do it again...

and now just wonder if I am considered bi-curious or a bi-faker

[JustAskJulie]

Sounds like "bi-faker" would be more appropriate since from the way you put it you aren't interested in women at all. Personally, I can't see doing something to that extent just to please your husband tho which makes me wonder.

Are you attracted to women at all?
Do you enjoy seeing women together in pornos?
Did you reciprocate (go down on the other woman)?

I would say that answering yes to any of these makes you at least bi-curious.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[anandjeff2]

I think you have to consider Julie's questions but also to ask yourself if you enjoyed your encounter personally with the other woman. If you did it soleyl for your husbands sake and have no interest otherwise then you are straight perfoming Bi for hubbys satisfaction. If you enjoyed any part of it or think about it with pleasure then you have to examine yourself a little closer and ask yourself why you enjoyed it. You might be Bi but have not faced that tendency in yourself. I myself knew I was Bi years ago but it wasnt exactly something you bring up at the dinner table. If I had known years ago my husband would have accepted it then things would have been very different..however I dont think he was ready to know before the present. It is hard for many women to accept that they are Bi since society is very negative about it..but if you can be honest with yourself about sexual matters then you can probably be honest about your own sexuality with yourself

An

[asr999]

OK, I know this is going to sound "bi-screwed" to the feminist out there but...

I don't care what the mans background is.... He gets off thinking about his woman with another woman.

And another dumb thing.... all woman are bi bi... not curuios.... If I met a woman that hasn't entertained the idea of going down on another woman...well, she must be a standin for the real thing.

Women offer so much to the world, and most men are greatful for each and every time they get to enjoy a womans offerings. But to think that women were placed here for man and man alone, .... not on our movies.

Originally posted by anandjeff2:
I think you have to consider Julie's questions but also to ask yourself if you enjoyed your encounter personally with the other woman. If you did it soleyl for your husbands sake and have no interest otherwise then you are straight perfoming Bi for hubbys satisfaction. If you enjoyed any part of it or think about it with pleasure then you have to examine yourself a little closer and ask yourself why you enjoyed it. You might be Bi but have not faced that tendency in yourself. I myself knew I was Bi years ago but it wasnt exactly something you bring up at the dinner table. If I had known years ago my husband would have accepted it then things would have been very different..however I dont think he was ready to know before the present. It is hard for many women to accept that they are Bi since society is very negative about it..but if you can be honest with yourself about sexual matters then you can probably be honest about your own sexuality with yourself

An

We say, that I'm bi-"SOMEtimes". Does that count as bi-"screwed"? *lol*

IF/WHEN it happens (the chemistry has to be right), I enjoy going down on my female partner(s) more than being on the receiving end from another female. I prefer hubby between my legs, giving me oral/penetration pleasures ANY day!

Not all the time, that we get together with our couple-friends, that we have any bi-experiences at all. Sometimes we do, and sometimes we don't, we just stick to the male-female play sessions most of the time.

I don't dream & drool over another woman, wanting her body, wanting to feel her up, licking her all over, needing to nibble on her nipples, etc...You know what I mean guys. *lol* I find a male to be more attractive and appealing to me than a woman does for me. Again, it's that chemistry thing that has to be there, or it won't work for me.

But when the chemistry is there between the two of us (females), a woman's body is SO sensual, passionate & sexy, the way she moves, the pleasures she seeks, her smell, the taste, the experience of her in the moment of passion, I'll be more than happy to make it happen for her, in the sense of erotic pleasures. Now you REALLY know what I'm talking about, huh guys?

ANYway....Just thought I'd add my 2 cents in! More like $1.50. *lol*


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[EbonynJon]

Ok...to all that have wondered, if I enjoyed it or not (with a sly smile). I don't kiss and tell..lol

I had no problem with fulfilling my husbands fantasy, in fact I think want turned me on more than ever was the look on the face of my man. I don't have any hang-ups about women at all. I love admiring and being admired by other woman so actually Julie may have misunderstood my question.

What I was trying to say, is quoted frankly very well by the wife of canadianmwcouple." I don't dream & drool over another woman, wanting her body, wanting to feel her up, licking her all over, needing to nibble on her nipples, etc...".

The intimacy play with a woman is very nice in the moment, however it is not something I think I need to do on my own.

[Stratecpl]

Hi... well you just met your first standin for the real thing...Me!!! Ain't no way in hell I have or ever would consider sex with another woman!!! This myth that "ALL women are bi...never ceases to amaze me or it never ceases to piss me off!"

Originally posted by asr999:
And another dumb thing.... all woman are bi bi... not curuios.... If I met a woman that hasn't entertained the idea of going down on another woman...well, she must be a standin for the real thing.

Connie..(standin and damn proud of it too!)
My motto..."Dick's..Not chicks!"

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by asr999:

And another dumb thing.... all woman are bi bi... not curuios.... If I met a woman that hasn't entertained the idea of going down on another woman...well, she must be a standin for the real thing.

The difference between bi & bi-curiuos is basically whether or not you have acted on your thoughts/ desires yet. As for every woman being bi? I don't think so, that's quite a stretch.

Sounds like a line a woman would use - "ah come on, you're bi you just don't know it yet."

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by EbonynJon:
I love admiring and being admired by other woman so actually Julie may have misunderstood my question.

What I was trying to say, is quoted frankly very well by the wife of canadianmwcouple." I don't dream & drool over another woman, wanting her body, wanting to feel her up, licking her all over, needing to nibble on her nipples, etc...".

The intimacy play with a woman is very nice in the moment, however it is not something I think I need to do on my own.

I don't think you have to dream and drool over another woman to be bi. It pretty much comes down to did you enjoy it and are you attracted to other woman (do you find them physically attractive)? Maybe it's not on the same level as you do men and maybe you are more picky (I know that's how it is for me).. but when it comes down to the only way I'd say you are a bi-faker (as you put it) is if you are doing this solely for your hubby's pleasure.

I have sex with a lot of guys as much or more because I know my hubby enjoys watching it, but that doesn't mean I like guys any less.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by EbonynJon:
What I was trying to say, is quoted frankly very well by the wife of canadianmwcouple." I don't dream & drool over another woman, wanting her body, wanting to feel her up, licking her all over, needing to nibble on her nipples, etc...".

Ahh, don't I wish.

Actually, you're getting the wives mixed up. I believe you were referring to the better half of CyberMWCouple, not us, CanadianCouple.

Now, if I ever DID hear my wife speak those magic words "licking her all over, nipple to nipple"...

Dan

[Stratecpl]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie:


Sounds like a line a woman would use - "ah come on, you're bi you just don't know it yet."

You would not believe how many times I have heard that line!!!! LOL now you see why I get so riled up over this subject! LOL

Connie



[This message has been edited by Stratecpl (edited 06-29-2001).]

[EbonynJon]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie:
I have sex with a lot of guys as much or more because I know my hubby enjoys watching it, but that doesn't mean I like guys any less.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

I don't feel I like woman any less, however I don't fee compelled to seek sexual favors from them outside of our play together. Just as I would not want to with another man.

It's more exciting, and sexual when we are together.I gues I am some what of an exibitionist for him when it comes down to pleasing him...
I am not saying that I am puttng my on pleasure aside to please him, because again what makes him lose control is what turns me on...lol YOU GOTTA know what I mean... I LOVE to keep him in awe, and wondering what I will pull out of my magic hat this time...lol.

Ebony

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by CanadianCouple:
Now, if I ever DID hear my wife speak those magic words "licking her all over, nipple to nipple"...

Dan

Now you have just met your second, standin for the real thing lady. As I told Dan, dream honey because it's NEVER happenin. I tell Dan, you try it and I'll concider it. You see I tell him this only because I know I'll NEVER have to concider it.
Please don't get me wrong. If that is what you like, more power to you. Me personally it is a complete turn off.


Connie, good motto.

Janette of CanadianCouple

[This message has been edited by CanadianCouple (edited 06-30-2001).]

Connie,

Better be careful, some dicks ARE chicks! And some chicks HAVE dicks too! *lol*

Which reminds me of a g/f of mine years ago, her...Nevermind, I'll save this one for maybe another forum!


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[Stratecpl]

Well, concerning the BI issues at hand....

OK, I'm one of (probably) the last STRAIGHT men left on Earth who does not enjoy seeing two women together. OK, if you want to throw gasoline on the fire, be my guest. But I do not have any need or want to see two women together. I fantasize about seeing my wife with other men. She, on the other hand, fantasizes about seeing me with other women. Sounds hard to believe??? Maybe so, this day and age. I mean, is there anything WRONG with doing what NATURE actually intended for us to do???

I read on another thread that all women are BI-BI whether they know it yet or not. Really???

WRONG. No way, man. Not in MY house, anyhow.

If you other men enjoy seeing two women together, that's fine with me and my wife. You'll just never play with us, is all.

And you women who really, truly enjoy the company of other women, that's just fine too. To each their own, you know.... But if you really do NOT enjoy it but do so just to please your husband, then look who's being controlled. I thought women these days tried to take more control over their own lives, rather than have some guy dictating their every move to them. Why not insist on hubby having intimate sex with another MAN?? I'm sure you'll get some definite answers there, FAST, saying that it's DIFFERENT!!!

But is it REALLY different? I ask you. There are a lot of intelligent folks on here, whose opinions I respect very much. But what about it, folks? Is the "Double Standard" fair or what???

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl