A question for Quin (and others)

Chicup · 10-10-2002, 11:44 AM

Recently we ran across a woman who enjoyed giving oral sex to other women, but not receiving.

I'm curious to where this falls into your definition (you know where it falls in mine

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Quin · 10-10-2002, 07:22 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Chicup:
Recently we ran across a woman who enjoyed giving oral sex to other women, but not receiving.

I'm curious to where this falls into your definition (you know where it falls in mine )

My definition of this person: A stupid, stupid, woman who likes to be used...she probably likes to be abused also. Did you try to smack her around a few times?

Quin

Quin · 10-10-2002, 07:25 PM

Oh and btw, maybe there was a reason she couldn't indulge in allowing someone between her thighs, orally. There are several reason that could possibly prevent her from receiving.

Your definition for her...I'm not even going to go there, bet the legs of the wife spread so fast it made everyone's head swim.

Quin
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Chicup · 10-10-2002, 09:05 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Quin:
My definition of this person: A stupid, stupid, woman who likes to be used...she probably likes to be abused also. Did you try to smack her around a few times?

Quin

Quin you are a very bitter woman with very narrow views. The reason she told me she didn't like to receive was because she didn't enjoy being the center of attention.

Another woman I knew like this told me she just wasn't that interested in it but really enjoyed pleasing her friend because she was her friend and her friend enjoyed it. This girl also liked to give BJ's more then have sex herself. She was very giving, thats what she enjoyed most, and I wouldn't call that being used.

OhioCouple · 10-10-2002, 09:47 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Chicup:
...she just wasn't that interested in it but really enjoyed pleasing her friend because she was her friend and her friend enjoyed it. This girl also liked to give BJ's more then have sex herself. She was very giving, thats what she enjoyed most, and I wouldn't call that being used.

Think about what you have written here. This gal wasn't interested but wanted to please her friend so she complied? The gal that was on the receiving end used her...plain and simple in order to fulfill her own selfish needs.

She likes to give BJ's and doesnt care to have any sort of reciprocation? I dunno, I've been around a while and really haven't come across someone who's only goal is to satisfy someone else, casting to the wind their own needs, unless they have been abused.

I do not feel that Quin is narrow minded in her thinking, in fact I do think that she has more of a grasp on reality than you do. If the gal that you used to describe is a personal friend of yours, take a second thought and assess her overall situation. Should you not do so, well my friend, you are as guilty as the abuser.

Lori

Chicup · 10-10-2002, 10:01 PM

The last time I checked sexual enjoyment includes doing what you enjoy doing.

The first girl really enjoys sex but is self conscious about it in group situations.

The second enjoyed recieving sex (hetro) well enough, but really got enjoyment out of pleasing others, seeing the look on their face and making them feel good. Its not like she was some road whore others used to get off without caring about her.

Its really amazing how people decide what pleases them is what sex IS about. Just because you are not happy unless you are the one getting off doesn't mean that everyone is. Same way people are straight/bi/homo, and that doesn't appeal to everyone. YOU would feel used, she didn't/doesn't.

OhioCouple · 10-10-2002, 10:25 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Chicup:
Another woman I knew like this told me she just wasn't that interested in it but really enjoyed pleasing her friend because she was her friend and her friend enjoyed it. This girl also liked to give BJ's more then have sex herself. She was very giving, thats what she enjoyed most, and I wouldn't call that being used.

Please feel free to correct me if I am wrong but you leave the reader to believe that both scenarios are the same person, totally contradicting your last post.

You may want to review your prior posts before hitting that "add reply" button in the future.

Lori

[ October 10, 2002, 10:29 PM: Message edited by: OhioCouple ]

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-11-2002, 12:00 AM

I can think of a couple of things to add here as for why a woman might enjoy giving but not receiving.

1. If it's a group situation, I am that woman. I don't like to be the center of attention and I can't get off with a room full of people watching me. I can't get into it because I'm too distracted by the audience. So I will whole heartedly give and give but when it comes to receiving I will turn it down.

2. Perhaps she has issues about her body. She may be uncomfortable having someone go down on her in general. I used to be this way thanks to an ex who had issues with going down on girls. I got over it tho

In any rate, I have to say that if someone is willing and ready to give orally and enjoys doing so to the same sex then they are at least bi (assuming they also enjoy the opposite sex).

sportync · 10-11-2002, 10:00 AM

I think it's important to remember that everyone has their own special thing that turns them on. Everyone is an individual, and everyone is different. I'm not a child molester, thank God, and can't for the life of me understand why someone would be sexually turned on by engaging in sexual acts with young children, but obviously, there are people out there that are thrilled by such activity. I know some women who love to give bj's, and don't necessarily feel that the guy must return the favor in kind...they just enjoy having a cock in their mouth. Likewise, I thoroughly enjoy giving pleasure to a woman, and watching her enjoy the pleasure that I am giving her is a really big turn-on for me. Mrs. Sporty doesn't even like me to kiss her after I've gone down on her(OOOO, you taste like pussy), and obviously has no desire or intention on going down on another woman, but one of her friends was bi, so she let the girl eat her while I enjoyed some doggy-style sex and we had a great time. She also doesn't like to be the center of attention, so I realize that for her to really enjoy these kind of games, I have to keep this sort of thing in mind. This is, to me, one of the really great aspects of swinging....it gives you the opportunity to get to know certian things about your partner that you would otherwise be unaware of. It helps to create a more complete understanding of your partner's sexual turn-ons(and turn-offs), thus giving you a more complete picture of their sexual nature. This exploratory aspect can go a long way in helping you to view the whole person in a more knowledgable way, thus deepening your understanding of the person with whom you have chosen to share your life. Sportync

ciscosv · 10-11-2002, 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Chicup:
Recently we ran across a woman who enjoyed giving oral sex to other women, but not receiving.

I'm curious to where this falls into your definition (you know where it falls in mine )

This falls into my definition of sex.

Quin · 10-11-2002, 01:47 PM

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Quin you are a very bitter woman with very narrow views

This statement is false (I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt since I know you're a liar) and the furthest thing from the truth. If anyone is narrow in their views it's you. You have went around misrepresenting your wife to people by lieing to them and using them. You have never once shown any little morsel of remorse for doing so and continued to do so, not ever thinking about the person...as long as you and your wife got what you wanted, someone to eat her pussy, you could careless. Clearly could be classified as socio-pathic behavior.

Sure everyone likes oral sex...hell, I'd rather have oral sex than actual vagainal penetration, but I won't lie or use people to obtain oral sex.

With that said, I'm done with Chicup...I don't deal with users, liars or socio-paths.

Quin

FlyBiNiter · 10-14-2002, 05:07 PM

I just find myself wondering if this post was started for the sole purpose of causing a conflict. Why ask a question when you know the answer, just so that you can knock someone else's views ??? When I first read the question, and Quin's initial response, I agreed with her totally. After finishing reading the posts in this thread, I came to the realization that this was just an excuse to get a few slams in. How old are we today ?

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10-10-2002, 11:44 AM	#1 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,091 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	A question for Quin (and others) Recently we ran across a woman who enjoyed giving oral sex to other women, but not receiving. I'm curious to where this falls into your definition (you know where it falls in mine )

10-10-2002, 07:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	Oh and btw, maybe there was a reason she couldn't indulge in allowing someone between her thighs, orally. There are several reason that could possibly prevent her from receiving. Your definition for her...I'm not even going to go there, bet the legs of the wife spread so fast it made everyone's head swim. Quin
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10-11-2002, 12:00 AM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,245 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	I can think of a couple of things to add here as for why a woman might enjoy giving but not receiving. 1. If it's a group situation, I am that woman. I don't like to be the center of attention and I can't get off with a room full of people watching me. I can't get into it because I'm too distracted by the audience. So I will whole heartedly give and give but when it comes to receiving I will turn it down. 2. Perhaps she has issues about her body. She may be uncomfortable having someone go down on her in general. I used to be this way thanks to an ex who had issues with going down on girls. I got over it tho In any rate, I have to say that if someone is willing and ready to give orally and enjoys doing so to the same sex then they are at least bi (assuming they also enjoy the opposite sex).
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10-11-2002, 10:00 AM	#9 (permalink)
sportync Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 232 Location: eastern north carolina	I think it's important to remember that everyone has their own special thing that turns them on. Everyone is an individual, and everyone is different. I'm not a child molester, thank God, and can't for the life of me understand why someone would be sexually turned on by engaging in sexual acts with young children, but obviously, there are people out there that are thrilled by such activity. I know some women who love to give bj's, and don't necessarily feel that the guy must return the favor in kind...they just enjoy having a cock in their mouth. Likewise, I thoroughly enjoy giving pleasure to a woman, and watching her enjoy the pleasure that I am giving her is a really big turn-on for me. Mrs. Sporty doesn't even like me to kiss her after I've gone down on her(OOOO, you taste like pussy), and obviously has no desire or intention on going down on another woman, but one of her friends was bi, so she let the girl eat her while I enjoyed some doggy-style sex and we had a great time. She also doesn't like to be the center of attention, so I realize that for her to really enjoy these kind of games, I have to keep this sort of thing in mind. This is, to me, one of the really great aspects of swinging....it gives you the opportunity to get to know certian things about your partner that you would otherwise be unaware of. It helps to create a more complete understanding of your partner's sexual turn-ons(and turn-offs), thus giving you a more complete picture of their sexual nature. This exploratory aspect can go a long way in helping you to view the whole person in a more knowledgable way, thus deepening your understanding of the person with whom you have chosen to share your life. Sportync
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10-10-2002, 10:01 PM	#6 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,091 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	The last time I checked sexual enjoyment includes doing what you enjoy doing. The first girl really enjoys sex but is self conscious about it in group situations. The second enjoyed recieving sex (hetro) well enough, but really got enjoyment out of pleasing others, seeing the look on their face and making them feel good. Its not like she was some road whore others used to get off without caring about her. Its really amazing how people decide what pleases them is what sex IS about. Just because you are not happy unless you are the one getting off doesn't mean that everyone is. Same way people are straight/bi/homo, and that doesn't appeal to everyone. YOU would feel used, she didn't/doesn't.

10-14-2002, 05:07 PM	#12 (permalink)
FlyBiNiter Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 121 Location: Oregon Status: Attached Female	I just find myself wondering if this post was started for the sole purpose of causing a conflict. Why ask a question when you know the answer, just so that you can knock someone else's views ??? When I first read the question, and Quin's initial response, I agreed with her totally. After finishing reading the posts in this thread, I came to the realization that this was just an excuse to get a few slams in. How old are we today ?

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