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    Default Planning our first FMMMMM

    Hi all,

    We are planning our first multiple male encounter(more than 2 at once). We plan for about 4-5 gentlemen including the male of the couple. We have had experiences w couples, in clubs, etc and with single males. However, is there anything we need to be mindful of when planning this event besides the obvious screening males , etc. We are really looking for lessons learned from your experiences.

    Thanks in Advance
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    Default Re: Planning our first FMMMMM

    Sounds like a fun evening I believe the common knowledge passed around here is to invite twice as many men as you would like to have, so that close to the number actually shows up.

    Were you planning on just having it at an on premise club on a night where single males are allowed? Do you know males that would participate?
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    Default Re: Planning our first FMMMMM

    We have a suite in an upscale hotel. We are screening men carefully and will meet briefly in the bar to estab a comfort level and make sure no one is something other than posted

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    My first time I had 7 partners, my boyfriend was very excited to see me with different men but he made sure it was done with safety in mind from us pre screening them to furnishing condoms. We rented a nice room at a nice hotel. Made sure they did not get intoxicated. I was able to live out my fantasy getting dp'ed. We have set up some time in the spring to spend a few days enjoying our pleasures!!

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    Default Re: Planning our first FMMMMM

    The things that I learned (the hard way):

    1. Always invite about twice as many guys as you want to show up (unless you already know all of the guys pretty well and know they won't have an issue with showing up and playing).

    2. Keep in mind that as much as you'd like this to be all about you getting lots of attention it really ends up being about you giving lots of attention. Try to consider just how many guys you really feel like you can handle at one time (handle as in give attention to) when deciding how many to invite.

    I'd suggest starting a little smaller, if it works out well you can always do it again later with more guys.

    Perhaps invite another female to keep the extra guys busy if there are more than you can handle (not too many of them will be ok with just standing around watching till it's their turn).

    I've posted about this a few times in more detail, you may want to do a search on the forums for "gangbang" for other threads that may give you some more thoughts I didn't remember to include here - it's been a while.
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    Default Re: Planning our first FMMMMM

    I agree with Julie, you need to invite at least twice as many to get to your number. If you end up with one, two or three extra it's better than falling way short. Also keep in mind that she needs to stay hydrated, plenty of water or gatorade, or she will cramp up at the worst time and it's difficult to enjoy yourself,relax and stay focused if you start cramping up. It happened to me the first time, my calf and even the arch of my foot. Once they start they are tough to get rid of. Good luck

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    Default Re: Planning our first FMMMMM

    It is always good, with that many, to have what the industry calls a "fluffer." she will help the guys maintain their attention if you are going to allow her to have more than one ride with the guys.

    Julie hit it all on the head with her points.

    One other suggestion/idea. Are you going to play? if you are... I would suggest you get one guy, a friend or someone, that will act as security!

    Security, at the level of participate you are talking, is very important. What happens if there is alcohol there and someone (or more) get too fucked up and want to take rather than receive? Can you say rape?

    And if you are going to invite double the # you really want (and I agree with the reason for this as we have experienced the problem) what happens if 3/4 show and not only 1/2?

    What if someone shows up fucked up?

    Just food for thought!

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    PS and the hydration thing is a great idea too!!! Good call Tina and Bob!
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