FMF Sleepover - Who sleeps where?

Terrileex · 01-22-2004, 12:00 AM

We are going on a sleepover with our playmate. He and I and Her. We rented a hot tub hotel for a night of fun. When we have played before she has never stayed the night. My queston is- Who should sleep in the middle since there is only one bed?

dayhiker · 01-22-2004, 08:21 AM

being a guy, I'd say the guy should sleep in the middle .. hehehe
I guess you could fall where you are when the fun ends!

shoreguy · 01-22-2004, 12:37 PM

I think only the two (maybe 3) of you can answer this question. What do you feel comfortable with? Could you deal with her in the middle? Are you sure she'll even sleep at the hotel all night?

Last month we ended up sleeping at another couple's house, even though we were less than 10 miles away from home. They invited us to stay the night in the play room (mattresses on the floor). We figured they would end up in their room, but instead they slept with us. We ended up him-my wife-her-me. We were both ok with it the next morning. But let's just say no one exactly slept through the night.

I'd imagine there'd be some middle of the night messing around, especially if she sleeps in the middle.

Even though I'm a guy

, my recommendation is to have some combination where the women sleep next to each other. Maybe it's just best to have husband-wife-friend at least until you're comfortable with the whole thing.

EternallySingle · 01-22-2004, 02:38 PM

If you are thinking about who sleeps where, one or both of you that sleeping is more intimate than havin sex. In that case, it would be better for the husband/boyfriend to be as far away from the other woman as possible. I would suggest your wife should sleep in the middle.

wrnakedru · 01-22-2004, 03:27 PM

My first trip to New Orleans, I was meeting long time friends there. They had been in a two double bed room but the day I was to join them there, hotel management let them know they would have to be moved as someone else had a reservation for that specific room. They called me and said if we were to stay with a balcony on Bourbon, our only option was a room with a single king-sized bed.

If we wanted to be in a room with two beds, we would NOT be directly on Bourbon. I opted to stay on Bourbon - especially since this was to be my first visit to the party city. They were fine with that as well. I appreciated their consideration in asking me.

While we were on the phone, the male volunteered for the middle position. [

] And when we got ready to go to bed that first night, that is actually how we ended up sleeping. The reason being that both she and I prefer to sleep as we do at home - her on the left side, me on the right side - and both of us like to be able to get our feet out from under the covers during the night.

The male is a cuddler when he sleeps and liked being able to cuddle no matter the side he was sleeping on. The other lady could then spoon with him - or not - as she chose to do. This worked well for us, so well in fact that over the years for all the many times I travelled with them - we always got a king-sized bed. We had more "room" space that way, which was a boon with the three of us each having luggage.

It really depends on the closeness of the three people involved. It may be more comfortable for all if the room has two doubles in it so that the extra female has a bed of her own for sleeping when the time comes. She can always be invited back into the couples bed for play.

P.S. You can always request a rollaway to be brought in so that it is available in case sleeptime seems more comfortable for all that way.

fun_pairTX · 01-22-2004, 05:35 PM

The times that this has occurred with us and a female friend I have been forced to sleep in the middle. As they say its a tough job but someone has to do it. I guess I'm just one of those self sacrificing guys that ya hear about from time to time.

thekolonel · 01-22-2004, 06:36 PM

I wrestled with this very question several times last weekend. Our solution was to alternate from night to night. If you truly want to spoil your friend, let her sleep in the middle. She'll feel like a princess.

Elusive BiFem · 01-22-2004, 08:50 PM

I would agree with the single female in the middle....just think I would feel more comfortable that way.

- EBF

VegasLee · 01-22-2004, 08:53 PM

I would feel more comfortable with EBF in the middle also.

Brit_Pair · 01-23-2004, 07:13 AM

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Originally posted by fun_pairTX
The times that this has occurred with us and a female friend I have been forced to sleep in the middle. As they say its a tough job but someone has to do it. I guess I'm just one of those self sacrificing guys that ya hear about from time to time.

Your noble sacrifice will doubtless be rewarded at some point in the future!!

Brit_Pair · 01-23-2004, 07:16 AM

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Originally posted by EternallySingle
If you are thinking about who sleeps where, one or both of you that sleeping is more intimate than havin sex. In that case, it would be better for the husband/boyfriend to be as far away from the other woman as possible. I would suggest your wife should sleep in the middle.

On reading the question, my gut instinct was to say Dito. Depending on the closeness of your relationship, you might want to consider letting your playmate take centre stage (assuming that she's comfortable with that). That would be my 1 and 2 suggestions.

Elusive BiFem · 01-23-2004, 09:38 AM

Am I reading your post correctly, ES? That sleeping is more intimate than having sex? If so, I find it interesting how people vary in their thoughts on intimacy.

For me, sleeping, per se, is not necessarily an intimate activity and certainly one of the least intimate activities that would occur in the context of a threesome. I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

And Vegas Lee...there are distinct advantages to the middle sleeping position. No matter which way the covers get pulled, the middle sleeper is bound to stay warm.

- EBF

EternallySingle · 01-23-2004, 02:59 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Elusive BiFem
Am I reading your post correctly, ES? That sleeping is more intimate than having sex? If so, I find it interesting how people vary in their thoughts on intimacy.

For me, sleeping, per se, is not necessarily an intimate activity and certainly one of the least intimate activities that would occur in the context of a threesome. I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

And Vegas Lee...there are distinct advantages to the middle sleeping position. No matter which way the covers get pulled, the middle sleeper is bound to stay warm.

- EBF

I don't think that sleeping is more intimate than sex. Then again, I don't think that kissing or cuddling is more intimate than sex either. But some people do. Simply asking this question means that the couple is concerned about how far to seperate something they see as intimate from the act of sex. I've had several women tell me that having sex in every room of the house is one thing but waking up next to a guy, even if they've known each other for years and has shared everything else, is something totally different. I've had other women think nothing of getting undressed and falling asleep with me, as long as no sex was involved. Once sex entered the picture, sleeping together discontinued (even though sex did). One woman I was involved with wouldn't even let me see her get dressed or undressed, but had no problems with me seeing her naked. When things got heated, she would go into the bathroom and get undressed, or we would do it partially clothed. Getting undressed in front of someone, to her, was just too intimate.

So, once again, its about comfort levels. The sleeping thing crosses a comfort level line with them, which means they see sleeping together as something special to them...thus more intimate than the sex.

Elusive BiFem · 01-23-2004, 06:16 PM

Thank you, ES. Like I said, I find it interesting how people vary in their opinions of intimacy...and many other things, too! - EBF

JBirdsxs2 · 01-23-2004, 11:24 PM

1. I would love to be in the middle.
2. Who gives a shit! I'm in bed with two women.
3. Let them decide.

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01-22-2004, 12:00 AM	#1 (permalink)
Terrileex Active Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 25 Location: Montana Status: couple	FMF Sleepover - Who sleeps where? We are going on a sleepover with our playmate. He and I and Her. We rented a hot tub hotel for a night of fun. When we have played before she has never stayed the night. My queston is- Who should sleep in the middle since there is only one bed?

01-22-2004, 12:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
shoreguy Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 66 Location: Coastal NJ Status: Married Male	I think only the two (maybe 3) of you can answer this question. What do you feel comfortable with? Could you deal with her in the middle? Are you sure she'll even sleep at the hotel all night? Last month we ended up sleeping at another couple's house, even though we were less than 10 miles away from home. They invited us to stay the night in the play room (mattresses on the floor). We figured they would end up in their room, but instead they slept with us. We ended up him-my wife-her-me. We were both ok with it the next morning. But let's just say no one exactly slept through the night. I'd imagine there'd be some middle of the night messing around, especially if she sleeps in the middle. Even though I'm a guy , my recommendation is to have some combination where the women sleep next to each other. Maybe it's just best to have husband-wife-friend at least until you're comfortable with the whole thing.
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01-22-2004, 02:38 PM	#4 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:ABSingleMan	emotional security first. If you are thinking about who sleeps where, one or both of you that sleeping is more intimate than havin sex. In that case, it would be better for the husband/boyfriend to be as far away from the other woman as possible. I would suggest your wife should sleep in the middle.
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01-22-2004, 03:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
wrnakedru Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 1,989 Location: Bliss Status: Female	I have been in this situation .. My first trip to New Orleans, I was meeting long time friends there. They had been in a two double bed room but the day I was to join them there, hotel management let them know they would have to be moved as someone else had a reservation for that specific room. They called me and said if we were to stay with a balcony on Bourbon, our only option was a room with a single king-sized bed. If we wanted to be in a room with two beds, we would NOT be directly on Bourbon. I opted to stay on Bourbon - especially since this was to be my first visit to the party city. They were fine with that as well. I appreciated their consideration in asking me. While we were on the phone, the male volunteered for the middle position. [ ] And when we got ready to go to bed that first night, that is actually how we ended up sleeping. The reason being that both she and I prefer to sleep as we do at home - her on the left side, me on the right side - and both of us like to be able to get our feet out from under the covers during the night. The male is a cuddler when he sleeps and liked being able to cuddle no matter the side he was sleeping on. The other lady could then spoon with him - or not - as she chose to do. This worked well for us, so well in fact that over the years for all the many times I travelled with them - we always got a king-sized bed. We had more "room" space that way, which was a boon with the three of us each having luggage. It really depends on the closeness of the three people involved. It may be more comfortable for all if the room has two doubles in it so that the extra female has a bed of her own for sleeping when the time comes. She can always be invited back into the couples bed for play. P.S. You can always request a rollaway to be brought in so that it is available in case sleeptime seems more comfortable for all that way.
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01-22-2004, 08:21 AM	#2 (permalink)
dayhiker Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 237 Location: MA Status: Single male Swing Lifestyle Name:dayhiker	being a guy, I'd say the guy should sleep in the middle .. hehehe I guess you could fall where you are when the fun ends!

01-22-2004, 05:35 PM	#6 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	It is a tough call............. The times that this has occurred with us and a female friend I have been forced to sleep in the middle. As they say its a tough job but someone has to do it. I guess I'm just one of those self sacrificing guys that ya hear about from time to time.
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01-22-2004, 06:36 PM	#7 (permalink)
thekolonel Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 68 Location: NYC Status: Couple	I wrestled with this very question several times last weekend. Our solution was to alternate from night to night. If you truly want to spoil your friend, let her sleep in the middle. She'll feel like a princess.

01-22-2004, 08:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,398 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	I would agree with the single female in the middle....just think I would feel more comfortable that way. - EBF

01-22-2004, 08:53 PM	#9 (permalink)
VegasLee Laura's Male Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 1,950 Location: Las Vegas, Nevada Status: Laura's Male	I would feel more comfortable with EBF in the middle also.
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01-23-2004, 09:38 AM	#12 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,398 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	Am I reading your post correctly, ES? That sleeping is more intimate than having sex? If so, I find it interesting how people vary in their thoughts on intimacy. For me, sleeping, per se, is not necessarily an intimate activity and certainly one of the least intimate activities that would occur in the context of a threesome. I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts on this. And Vegas Lee...there are distinct advantages to the middle sleeping position. No matter which way the covers get pulled, the middle sleeper is bound to stay warm. - EBF

01-23-2004, 06:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,398 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	Thank you, ES. Like I said, I find it interesting how people vary in their opinions of intimacy...and many other things, too! - EBF

01-23-2004, 11:24 PM	#15 (permalink)
JBirdsxs2 Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2001 Posts: 55 Location: Florence SC	Male perspective 1. I would love to be in the middle. 2. Who gives a shit! I'm in bed with two women. 3. Let them decide.

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