Multiple Invites to Club

[AdamInEve]

Note: The names have been changed to protect the horny.


We recently had our first full swap experience and had a great time with Dave and Renee, a couple we have become good friends with and hang out with at a club that we go to. At one point in time they had mentioned to us the opening of a new club in a few weeks that they were planning to go to and wondered if we would be there. At the time we weren't planning on going due to our schedules, although we had been in conversations with another couple, Mike and Cheryl, who had asked if we would like to meet them at the same new club. As it turns out now we may be able to make it. We would like to meet Mike and Cheryl, but don't want to offend Dave and Renee who we really like and would love to play with again in the future. What would be the best way to handle this situation. How do we tell Dave and Renee or do we tell them at all that we will in fact be there but are planning on meeting with Mike and Cheryl. We would like to know the best way to handle this so it isn't an awkward situation and make sure we don't offend anybody. A/E

[TNT]

Why do you think you would offend Dave & Renee? Unless the four of you agreed on an exclusive swinging relationship, I'm sure they know you'll be seeking out other playmates at some point.

Honestly, I really don't see this as a problem. If you speak to Dave & Renee just mention that your schedules have changed and you'll be at the new club. If you feel the need to let them know you're going to be talking to/meeting other people then just say something along the lines of ..."We're looking forward to being able to go to the new club, we've had a lot of other people contact us that are also going to be there and we anticipate a good time meeting so many new people."


Teresa

[good times]

While I agree with Teresa, I can see how if you told Dave and Renee you weren't going to go to the club and then you show up and it is obvious you had arranged to meet the other couple there, they might take it the wrong way. So my advice is to tell them you are going after all. As long as you don't avoid them while you are there, I don't think it will be a problem. The whole point of going to a club is to meet new folks, so as long as you are up front and honest with them, they shouldn't have a problem with it.

[JustAskJulie]

I agree that you should probably tell them. I don't think anyone would think twice if you told them your schedules changed and you could now go. And like Teresa said just telling them that you've been hearing about the club from lots of people and figure you'll be meeting some new friends, etc. Unless I misunderstood you haven't actually met Mike Cheryl yet and once you do so you may decide you don't want to stay with them all evening.