How should I apologize?

[Tia Vampire]

we were with this couple tues. night. yes we enjoyed them, they were pretty cool, but i totally embarressed myself that night. well while me and my fiance finished each other off, she must have finished too, but i didn't noticed she had mounted her husband. after everyone got up off the floor we were saying how good our nuts were, but her husband said he did not get his. so i thought i would help him out by sucking on him, but to my surprise she left behind a little of her. when i tasted it i immediatly spit on the floor and told the guy he was leaking. he pointed at his wife and said it came from her. so i picked up the bed sheet and cleaned him off and started back doing what i had started. she seemed to be pissed after that. she had very little to say and we have not heard from them since. should i apolagize or just let it go? what should i say? i was thinking of something like this: I'm sorry for spitting on your floor, but the taste ans the puddle that was left on your husband surprised me., but it sounds too much like an insult and apolagy at the same time. i don't want them to think that i'm not trying to be sincer. please help me out guys, i really want to let them know it was just a reaction, but i didn't mea anything by it.

Thanks alot,
TiaVampire

[LikeMinds321]

This sounds like a fateful faux pas that happens when swinging. Before we have time to think, the blunder bomb explodes! You'll look back on this one day and laugh.

I would not send them what you wrote in your post. You're correct in that it would add insult to injury. It would be best to not mention any specifics of your blunder because it will only stand out like a sore thumb in print and it doesn't need repeating.

Be general, they know what happened that turned the evening sour, so you don't need to be descriptive. Express yourself in a way that feels natural to you. You may want to say something like this: I am sorry for my rude and insensitive behavior. My reaction in that moment of play surprised me as much as it surely surprised you. Please accept my apology.

Keep it simple. The rest of your email could say a few words about enjoying the time with them (if this is the case) and thanking them for getting together. Don't suggest meeting again. If they have any interest in doing so let them ask. Right now they may not be open to playing with you again.

Something that was good about all this is what you can learn from it. Women often have a taste, just as men's semen does. If a man has been inside a woman (without a codom) you should be ready to taste her on him if he switches directly over to your mouth. Men - and I think most of them -"leak" which is known as pre-cum. It may only be a few drops, but if their semen is flavorful you'll taste it in the pre-cum.

Let us know how things turn out.

Good luck!

LM

[lovinher]

Likeminds is right on. I don't think there is better to handle it.

[clutch]

I'm not sure exactly what happened from your letter...

You were with another couple--sounds like soft-swinging as you and your fiance fucked, as the the other couple fucked each other.

Then, after you and your fiance finished, and the other couple parted, the male friend of the other couple said that he hadn't cum yet--so you started sucking him off to bring him to a climax. But when you put his cock in your mouth, you tasted something unusual and spat it out--turned out to be his SO's pussy juice.

She seemed to be displeased about something.

A question I have -- Was she displeased for you spitting out her pussy juice on the floor or was she displeased because you started sucking him off?

[confunktion]

LM, once again, gives wonderful advice. Simple is the best answer, methinks. It communicates a more honest, heartfelt response. The more that is said, the less effective it can be, and the more that could erroneously be read into it by the other person. Keep it short and sweet, and the chances of success will be higher. Best of luck.

Mr. Funk
I have lots of practice with apologies, unfortunately.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

when i tasted it i immediatly spit on the floor and told the guy he was leaking. he pointed at his wife and said it came from her. so i picked up the bed sheet and cleaned him off and started back doing what i had started. she seemed to be pissed after that. she had very little to say and we have not heard from them since.

...i really want to let them know it was just a reaction, but i didn't mea anything by it.

Hi Tia,

If the woman was turned-off or offended, I don't think it was because you spat on her clean floor. I think it might have had something to do with your treating her fluid as if it were bad-tasting, unacceptable, something to be spat out and wiped away. If I were in her shoes, I think I would have received the same message by your actions (but I wasn't there so can't be sure).

You spat and told the man that he was leaking. Do you mean, you thought he was leaking pre-cum? If that was potentially offensive to you (what you thought you were spitting before he told you it was his wife's juices), I don't really understand why you were willing to suck the man off? Maybe you intended to suck him and then finish him with your hand....I don't know....but it just seems funny that you went at him orally to get him to come, then spat right away when you thought he was leaking. I'm a little confused.

[Cpl2share]

I don't know, could have been using the sheet to clean him up. I have found that women usually get pretty pissed off when I clean myself on the bedsheets. (Which is why I haven't done that since I was about 18)

[The Fuse]

LikeMinds gave you such good advice. The simple, honest apology often works the best.

I have an embarassing story that might make you feel better. When I was in graduate school-- in other words I was old enough to know better-- I was sitting in a crowded classroom when I suddenly had to sneeze. For some reason I had a complete brain fart and just turned to my left and sneezed, without covering my mouth and nose, all over the arm of the woman next to me, who was wearing a short-sleeved shirt.

What did I do? I froze. I couldn't believe I had done this incredibly rude and disgusting thing. I couldn't get it together to apologize or even acknowledge what I have done. And, obviously, I still remember it with embarassment.

My input to your situation: follow LM's advice. Just tell the couple you did it without thinking and you're sorry and you wish you had acted differently. Otherwise you'll be like me and still be wincing about it 18 years later.

[DBL D]

I saw Sergio Garcia spit in a golf hole when he missed a putt at the Doral on Sat. He must be watching too much porn and just spits on any hole he sees.

Really you had a reaction...but what were you thinking? You have to be prepared for anything.

Your reaction was natural even if a bit strong. Some people don't get over stuff like that. Not really your problem. Apologize and move on if you have to.

Male D

[Tia Vampire]

Thanks for the advice everyone.
I spit because it was a puddle left on the guy. He still has not been circumcised, so it held all of her juices right on the head. for someone who loves to suck dick. i know what is suppose to taste like. i just reacted to an unusual taste.
i do not suck until the guy cums, but i do get him to that point and then jack him off. if i don't like the taste of a guy's cum, i know i would not like the taste of a woman's.
we finished with our own men, so that they could remove their plastic jacket and let a full night of pleasure be released with an explosive climax.
we love our sex......full swap is where we are now and love being in the life-style.

[dcras]

Reminds me of a drunken 4-some where my gf and I had switched with another couple. We're just starting when i her my gf retching. She had put her tongue in the guys ear and the combo of beer and ear wax sent her over the edge.

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by DBL D

...what were you thinking? You have to be prepared for anything.

Male D

[Tia Vampire]

The good news is that we are texing and writing each other again. thae bad news is- we have not spoke about meeting up. we are in the same group, so maybe things will be different when we are face to face. the best thing of all though- did'nt lose a new good friend.