Handling male orgasm? - Page 3

Lawguy · 06-22-2007, 09:45 AM

Well, despite the attacks against him (and his use of words which I don't really think are in the dictionary

), Regularguy is spot on. On the basis of pure logic, he is right--I've read the varied responses and they don't seem to answer him.

Now, it's not that I ever plan to adopt Regularguy's "procedures" during sex, but logically he has a valid point. For some of the others who responded: come on folks--debate the guy, but don't use epithets and get personal--it just shows that you have run out of arguments.

My .02

Lawguy

magnum · 06-22-2007, 02:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by josiefun

My husband and I recently attended a swing club. We were wondering what the etiquette is regarding male ejaculation in a group setting. Is the guy expected to ask his partner where/how she'd like him to finish? Obviously, if he's wearing a condom, there's no question where it will end up, but what about when playing or having oral sex with multiple participants and there's no real "talking" going on?

For me, it depends who I am playing with. If I know them couple/woman/wife we usually know what the routine is; one couple In play with, I now she likes to swallow, so I cum in her mouths

LOVE IT! another woman, likes me/us to cum on her face and tits,

more fun!

havefuninsun · 06-22-2007, 04:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lawguy

come on folks--debate the guy

How can we debate a guy who hasn't been online for 3-5 YEARS?!?

Are we going to revive the debate? If so, revive it, but leave him out of it ... start your own debate.

spectraschain · 06-22-2007, 05:38 PM

I told you he's dead....as in dead.

tribbles · 06-22-2007, 07:51 PM

So all males who swing must have total control over their orgasms and ejaculations? No one ever has one sneak up and grab them and it happens?

Oh and all the squirting chicks outta start asking....one surprised the male here by just squirting down his throat and I've seen others spray it on people walking in the play area who had no clue and were not part of the play.

Women, you better KNOW when an O will be a squirting one and ask before you squirt if it's ok and aim the stuff too. Yep, what holds for men, is true for us too.

(I am only playing with people who are happy with fluids. The rest need not apply). facelick

spectraschain · 06-22-2007, 09:03 PM

Quote:

one surprised the male here by just squirting down his throat

Yep. Had that happen during an ill-timed inhale.

couplewanting50 · 06-24-2007, 08:35 PM

Recently I had the marvelous opportunity of entering a sexy little woman as we were playing. She got me very close to orgasm, and I was doing what I needed to in order to avoid coming.

This thread got me to thinking about all of that, and the general subject. First, I would not have ejaculated in her without asking. Having said that, it would be nice [not required, just nice] if a woman would say something about her preference.

It was obvious to her, I am sure, that I was close. I think had she said that she wanted me to come in her, that would have been it for me, and I would have lost it. As it was, we played a bit more and then I withdrew, as I like not coming.

Cpl2share · 06-24-2007, 09:45 PM

Gotta jump on this: Lubricant is to facilitate the entrance of an item into the vagina. It is not a voluntary or stoppable reaction. Ejaculate (male) can be stopped, and is the culmination of the act. Therefore: In our opinion: There is a major difference between the two fluids. Additionally: A man can not go down on a woman without getting vaginal fluid on him (unless he is really bad LOL) yet a woman is providing a lubricant (saliva) to make the feelings of a blow job more intense. We do not consider ejaculate to be a reward to the woman (unless she requests it) but a reward to the man BY the woman. Therefor: If you do not want vaginal juices on your face, don't eat out. If a woman does not want ejaculate in her mouth or anywhere else for that matter, don't put it there.

magnum · 06-25-2007, 12:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by couplewanting50

Recently I had the marvelous opportunity of entering a sexy little woman as we were playing. She got me very close to orgasm, and I was doing what I needed to in order to avoid coming.

This thread got me to thinking about all of that, and the general subject. First, I would not have ejaculated in her without asking. Having said that, it would be nice [not required, just nice] if a woman would say something about her preference.

It was obvious to her, I am sure, that I was close. I think had she said that she wanted me to come in her, that would have been it for me, and I would have lost it. As it was, we played a bit more and then I withdrew, as I like not coming.

I anounce that I am getting ready to cum and just ask..."Where do you want me to cum?"...The woman will let you know...Ideally she would say cum in her mouth, I love that, but I also enjoying cumming were ever she wants it...

The Fuse · 06-25-2007, 12:11 PM

This is a really interesting thread. Even the conflict had a lot of interesting points to it.

If I'm giving a blow job, I appreciate being asked but don't get huffy if the guy doesn't ask. I'm one of those women who like it no matter where it goes. Oh, one exception... don't like it on my face. That seems a bit degrading to me. So I guess I have to take it back.

If I didn't want it in my mouth, or if I had some other strong preference, I think I would speak up before it was too late. That's actually my only real point here... if the woman has a preference, then she should speak up instead of waiting to be asked. However, if the guy asks, I would consider that good manners.

Lawguy · 06-25-2007, 05:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by havefuninsun

How can we debate a guy who hasn't been online for 3-5 YEARS?!?

Are we going to revive the debate? If so, revive it, but leave him out of it ... start your own debate.

Dead is only a state of mind. Wait! You're serious? Haha, sorry, really I am. I guess I didn't pay enough attention and when it showed up on the recent posts section, I just thought that it was . . . um, recent.

Lawguy.

curiouscpl0416 · 07-05-2007, 04:04 AM

Sprout here,

I have moments when I am perfectly happy to swallow cum, but those moments are very rare. I have an extremely strong gag reflex and simply cannot handle doing so on a regular basis. Deep throating.... same thing.

I have to be in what I call my "zone" to be able to turn my reflex off. That said, I have no issue with a man cumming on my breasts, stomach, face (so long as I know it's coming, pardon the pun, as I am not fond of being shot in the eye,

yes I have had that happen), or anywhere else, if he so desires.

If I am giving a blow job and the man is about to cum, and I remove my mouth, I am more than willing to do whatever else is necessary to bring him back to orgasm, up to and including licking around and tongue diving into his ass.

On the flip side of the coin.... if I am being eaten out, or otherwise pleasured, and the man chooses to stop just before I climax, though it may be the cause of a brief moment of frustration (and I have been known to cuss my husband out severely for doing so, :throwafit but in a playful manner) it is also, for me, the promise of a stronger and much more intense orgasm later.

I have had a tubal ligation, therefore pregnancy is not a concern for me, however, the ONLY person who is going to have intercourse with me without using a condom, is my husband, and the ONLY person he is going to have intercourse with, without using a condom, is me. I know he is clean, he knows I am clean, but we wouldn't presume to expect anyone else to blindly trust our word for that, just as we would not blindly trust anyone else if they told us that they were clean. That's just, pure and simple, common sense.

My personal opinion, it's just common courtesy to ask. Communication beforehand is key.... and that goes for both men AND women.

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06-22-2007, 09:45 AM	#31 (permalink)
Lawguy Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 41 Location: Texas	Re: Handling male orgasm? Well, despite the attacks against him (and his use of words which I don't really think are in the dictionary ), Regularguy is spot on. On the basis of pure logic, he is right--I've read the varied responses and they don't seem to answer him. Now, it's not that I ever plan to adopt Regularguy's "procedures" during sex, but logically he has a valid point. For some of the others who responded: come on folks--debate the guy, but don't use epithets and get personal--it just shows that you have run out of arguments. My .02 Lawguy

06-22-2007, 05:38 PM	#34 (permalink)
spectraschain Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 245 Location: central ohio Status: couple	Re: Handling male orgasm? I told you he's dead....as in dead.
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06-22-2007, 07:51 PM	#35 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 950 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: Handling male orgasm? So all males who swing must have total control over their orgasms and ejaculations? No one ever has one sneak up and grab them and it happens? Oh and all the squirting chicks outta start asking....one surprised the male here by just squirting down his throat and I've seen others spray it on people walking in the play area who had no clue and were not part of the play. Women, you better KNOW when an O will be a squirting one and ask before you squirt if it's ok and aim the stuff too. Yep, what holds for men, is true for us too. (I am only playing with people who are happy with fluids. The rest need not apply). facelick

06-24-2007, 08:35 PM	#37 (permalink)
couplewanting50 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 233 Location: Iowa Status: couple	Re: Handling male orgasm? Recently I had the marvelous opportunity of entering a sexy little woman as we were playing. She got me very close to orgasm, and I was doing what I needed to in order to avoid coming. This thread got me to thinking about all of that, and the general subject. First, I would not have ejaculated in her without asking. Having said that, it would be nice [not required, just nice] if a woman would say something about her preference. It was obvious to her, I am sure, that I was close. I think had she said that she wanted me to come in her, that would have been it for me, and I would have lost it. As it was, we played a bit more and then I withdrew, as I like not coming.

06-24-2007, 09:45 PM	#38 (permalink)
Cpl2share Is it too cold for beer? Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 344 Location: Way up north. Status: Couple	Re: Handling male orgasm? Gotta jump on this: Lubricant is to facilitate the entrance of an item into the vagina. It is not a voluntary or stoppable reaction. Ejaculate (male) can be stopped, and is the culmination of the act. Therefore: In our opinion: There is a major difference between the two fluids. Additionally: A man can not go down on a woman without getting vaginal fluid on him (unless he is really bad LOL) yet a woman is providing a lubricant (saliva) to make the feelings of a blow job more intense. We do not consider ejaculate to be a reward to the woman (unless she requests it) but a reward to the man BY the woman. Therefor: If you do not want vaginal juices on your face, don't eat out. If a woman does not want ejaculate in her mouth or anywhere else for that matter, don't put it there.

06-25-2007, 12:11 PM	#40 (permalink)
The Fuse Way too opinionated Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,826 Location: Southeastern Virginia Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:The_Fuse	Re: Handling male orgasm? This is a really interesting thread. Even the conflict had a lot of interesting points to it. If I'm giving a blow job, I appreciate being asked but don't get huffy if the guy doesn't ask. I'm one of those women who like it no matter where it goes. Oh, one exception... don't like it on my face. That seems a bit degrading to me. So I guess I have to take it back. If I didn't want it in my mouth, or if I had some other strong preference, I think I would speak up before it was too late. That's actually my only real point here... if the woman has a preference, then she should speak up instead of waiting to be asked. However, if the guy asks, I would consider that good manners.
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07-05-2007, 04:04 AM	#42 (permalink)
curiouscpl0416 Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 19 Location: Pottsboro Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curiouscpl0416	Re: Handling male orgasm? Sprout here, I have moments when I am perfectly happy to swallow cum, but those moments are very rare. I have an extremely strong gag reflex and simply cannot handle doing so on a regular basis. Deep throating.... same thing. I have to be in what I call my "zone" to be able to turn my reflex off. That said, I have no issue with a man cumming on my breasts, stomach, face (so long as I know it's coming, pardon the pun, as I am not fond of being shot in the eye, yes I have had that happen), or anywhere else, if he so desires. If I am giving a blow job and the man is about to cum, and I remove my mouth, I am more than willing to do whatever else is necessary to bring him back to orgasm, up to and including licking around and tongue diving into his ass. On the flip side of the coin.... if I am being eaten out, or otherwise pleasured, and the man chooses to stop just before I climax, though it may be the cause of a brief moment of frustration (and I have been known to cuss my husband out severely for doing so, :throwafit but in a playful manner) it is also, for me, the promise of a stronger and much more intense orgasm later. I have had a tubal ligation, therefore pregnancy is not a concern for me, however, the ONLY person who is going to have intercourse with me without using a condom, is my husband, and the ONLY person he is going to have intercourse with, without using a condom, is me. I know he is clean, he knows I am clean, but we wouldn't presume to expect anyone else to blindly trust our word for that, just as we would not blindly trust anyone else if they told us that they were clean. That's just, pure and simple, common sense. My personal opinion, it's just common courtesy to ask. Communication beforehand is key.... and that goes for both men AND women.

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