Handling male orgasm?

[Regularguy]

Youngish56, the scary thing is I write exactly the same way I speak!...minus the typos of course! hehe....

I remember listening a few times to William F Buckley. Talk about a vocabulary! But I admire that type of education and don't think it is something to be hidden. I do public speaking and have been told several times that I speak above the level of the group and to tone it down to their level. I refuse. I would rather treat everyone as educated and intelligent as I am (or am not, lol) I have always admired intelligence manifested however. Whether it be the spatial skills men are superior at, the language and human relational skills women excel at, or whatever. Public speaking is difficult too, but not half as difficult as trying to speak while delivering that Black Baptist Revival thing like TJ Jakes does. Man, that takes some talent!

I still reject the entire title of this thread as anti-male because if a thread was made on what the polite thing should be on how to handle female orgasm, i.e her lubrication, it would be labeled as misogynistic, but then someone here went so far as to state that semen should be treated as dangerous and should come with a "warning". However the thread seems to be degenerating into inferences of which I am probably guilty of too and into less then courteous stuff so rather then perpetually rebutting as a form of chess-like reparte' which I am sure isn't entertaining for anyone, I will respectfully bow out of this negativity as I have said my peace. I would rather focus on pleasure!

[youngish56]

regularguy-

I think you stepped on your dick again with the suggestion that a pretentious vocabulary is the result of education and intelligence.

I believe that many feel, as I do, that an impressive vocabulary is commonly, not always, the result of the speakers fixation with impressing his listeners with his vocabulary. Nothing more.

Looking forward to kicking another topic with you.

Joyous Noel

[Greg & Sheryl]

We regret that you have decided to bow out of the debate, regularguy, because we were actually enjoying the exchange. You are one of only two members of this board (Julie being the other) for whom we check the "Search for all posts by this user" link because we enjoy reading your opinions even if we don't always agree with them. We hope you didn't take personal offense to any of our opinions. We will respectfully withhold any comment on your last statement, and we will look forward to discussing other topics in the future.

[vorphlak]

if i was a girl...i would not wanna throat full of goo....it is not malephobia it is like trying to swallow 4 tablespoons of cottagecheese with a touch of urine for flava!
and as far as the comment towards women only bein' there cuz' men are soooo cool---WHAT A CROCK! if anything it's the otherway around buddy...and yes you are *V E R Y* arrogant. i think alot of guys would agree that your not only off but rude and what seems to be sexist! you need to find enlightenment. it makes life almost beautiful...try yoga or tai chi.

[ATAK]

Why is not a women's lubrication not also something to assume is "dangerous"

The answer to this question is simple. A man cannot become empregnated by a woman's lubrication, yet a woman can become empregnated by a man's ejaculate. Therefore I think it's safe to say that becoming pregnant is a "danger" if it is unplanned. Hence, making the semen "dangerous". This is already assuming you've gotten past the STD conversations and are confident in everyone's safety.

As far as for oral sex, I would not assume to cum in a woman's mouth any sooner than I would assume she likes to eat oysters, or squid. Some people hate oysters(I am one), however I love squid! The point being that it IS a matter of personal taste (no pun intended) and should not be seen as a gender specific obligation because you think it's the way it should be...
I think we should all have governmentally subsidized health care, but it ain't that way is it? Just because I want it that way, or think it should be that way doesn't make it that way.

There are too many women who like giving oral sex the right way, and too many guys who love to go down on their woman, for people to settle for someone who isn't a as pleasing of a lover as possible.

Is the right way, your way? Have a bit of tolerance for some of the rest of us few million people on the planet.

I find that your views are not as mysogynistic as they are chauvinistic.

chauvinism >noun 1 exaggerated or aggressive patriotism. 2 excessive or prejudiced support for one's own cause, group, or sex.

While I found this thread entertaining, I also find it disheartening to think that there are people out there that are truly this closed-minded about something so deeply personal to us all. (Not trying to start a flame war)

Everyone was raised by different parents, with a different set of moral and ethical standards. With a varying range of incomes and influences, it's hard to categorize one train of thought to be the standard for us all. We are a diverse group of people within the lifestyle, who happen to share a common interest. What works for some does not work for others. It is this difference that makes the experience richer. If you knew that every woman wanted it that same way every single time, then after the first time, there'd be no thrill, no unknown to excite the imagination.

To answer the original topic, I always ask, either before we start, or when I feel climax is eminent, unless I'm wearing a rubber and am already inside her.

[mdcouple26]

This shocks me, to hear of this behavior .

Thank goodness I have yet to meet another man with the opinion that it is his God-given right to cum anywhere he pleases! I enjoy oral sex as much as the next person, but would never go so far as to belittle a sexual partner if he/she chose not to. I may choose to not play with the individual again, but that is my choice. Refuse to grant an orgasm?? NEVER!

That said, I DO very much enjoy swallowing cum, or feeling it on my face or body. I consider it the icing on the cake, so to speak. However, I always respect others' preferences and limits. ALWAYS. I view this as the golden rule of swinging.

[Chrissylababe]

Well, I have read several of the postings on this subject and would have to side with the ASK group. I think that it shows respect for the partner. It also may be a turn on for the partner to have you cum in a certain location. Some love to see it on their belly, others prefer it inside, while others would enjoy swallowing the fruits of your efforts.
I also read in one posting (tongue in cheek) regarding mfm and one man getting the others cum on him. I guess I am fortunate in this area as it would not bother me in the least. In fact I may (depending on the females desire) even take it in my mouth. I have been with a few couples where the female really enjoyed watching me do that. For me it was no different than any other act in an attempt to please and be pleased.
Enjoy and be safe.
Chrissy
yes I'm a part time cd

[Jeok]

To Regularguy. You're a Capital "J" Jerk. Cum IS Dangerous, nowadays, and moreso with guys like you. Your attitude is why AIDS, Herpes, and all other STDs are such a problem in all society. ALSO, You don't seem to give a damn about getting the women it sounds as though you "FUCK," pregnant. Would you care and be responsible for any bastards you spawn? I apologize to everyone else for being rude and crude, but my late wife and I ran into a creep like this. Beware Ladies and Couples...The beast is among you, here. This guy probably hates women and only considers them Cum Recepticals. So, not caring to be as Politically Correct as others, I'll have my say as he's promoted his paternal, Chavinistic opinion. Jeok

[StacyCat]

Etiquette is to ask. If you are of the persuasion of "RegularGuy" and require all access to ones body to be ejaculated onto, then that really needs to be negotiated up front.

I do not swallow cum, it makes my throat sore and my stomach sick. And, the vast majority of the guys that I play with will stop me when I get close, or ask me at the beginning.

Oh, and, semen can be dangerous. I do not let guys cum in or on my pussy or asshole area, simply from the STD risk.

[spectraschain]

I have said my peace

Piece, I believe, Webster...

[havefuninsun]

"RegularGuy" hasn't commented in 3-5 years (I looked earlier; can't remember if it was 2003 or 2005). Why in the hell was this revived?

Gesh.

[spectraschain]

Why in the hell was this revived?

Jeok just remembered what he wanted to say....

[spectraschain]

Oh....great fun. This guy's been dead for years, but check all posts by....
Word.

[kimnbob]

Just a couple of things here. In defense of regguy, it has been my experience that if you are performing oral on a woman and she enjoys oral orgasms, there is no way you can stop before she cums without being a jerk, even if you tell her you don't want to.

And if a woman stops before I cum, even if she lets me know, I don't get as much satisfaction as I would if she had finished, and I am always a little disappointed.

As far as STDs, women can spread em just as easily as men. As far as the pregnancy thing, I thought we were talkin about oral sex.

[wakej]

I guess this shows you should be careful of whom you pair up with. You might end up with someone who is vindictive because they didn't get what they want or think they are owed. That's pretty scary. I'm kind of taken back by "regularguy's" seemingly self centered attitude. Good sex for me is making the woman feel good.