Drinking and Smoking

[JustAskJulie]

In the topic of Does Weight Matter the subject of drinking and smoking and it's relations to attractiveness was brought up. How do you feel about drinking and smoking? turn off or turn on? Do you do do it? If not will you play with others who do?

[Greekgod]

Good question Julie, I'm a single male so I'm a lightdrinker/nonsmoker. I don't think I can be with a couple that are like smokestacks, I mean constantly lighting up a cigarette. But if the female didn't smoke and the husband(not a heavy smoker) did I think I would let that slide. As for the drinking, as long as they are not falling down drunk than I have no problem with people who enjoy alcohol. I've been lucky so far since I'm currently seeing 2 couples that are nonsmokers nondrinkers.

[ILcouple]

We both smoke (moderatly) and do drink on occasion
And have no qualms about others doing it also as long as they dont light up during sex hack up a lung etc. As for drinking goes we would not like to meet the full blown drunk because face it alcohol makes the dick limp in most cases and what fun is a limp dick? I do not see any uses for them that excite me.

Rachel *ms clairols lab rat*

[Bill O]

We feel a little funny excluding people because of their habits - too many vertical friends would exclude us if they knew about our lifestyle.

However, smoking has become part of our 'evaluation criteria' when we are looking at other couples. You know like, "...they look a bit old/young, and the guy's not that attractive, and she looks like a smoker". Looks like a smoker! For those of you 35+ smokers that haven't realized it yet, one can spot a long time smoker from across the room even if they aren't smoking. The skin is dried out and in particular, the facial skin looks older than the body skin. I don't know why that is but it's pretty obvious.

[CanadianCouple]

All the couples we've swung with so far were smokers. One lady in particular was practically a human chimney. If I had my druthers, I'd prefer a non smoker, but it isn't a significant issue with either of us.

Neither is drinking, within reason. Once signs of impending intoxication become evident, the sex is off the table for us.

Dan

[gourmet cook]

Canadian cpl,
For what its worth are you smokers?
GC

[ColoCpl]

We do not smoke, drink or use drugs. We do not like the smell of tobacco smoke in other folks hair and clothes. If they smell like a stale ashtray we find it a huge turnoff. Even if they brush their teeth and use Scope it is still in their lungs and you can smell it when they exhale. That is not to say that they are not very wonderful folks; we just are not intersted. Personal preference is all. <img border="0" alt="[Tongue]" title="" src="graemlins/tongue.gif" />

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[CanadianCouple]

For what its worth are you smokers?
GC

No.

Dan

[frisson]

A drink or two is okay. Anyone who looks even close to being drunk--slurred speech, etc., is off the list for the night. Not just because that individual is going to be a flop in the bedroom, but because we believe that clear-headed consent is the essence of swinging. The last thing we want is to have sex with somebody who regrets it a couple of hours later "because I was too drunk to know what I was doing."

For ourselves, we are light drinkers--usually no more than a drink or two over the course of an evening. Sometimes we'll party all night without anything stronger than a Pepsi. We don't need to get oiled to have a good time at a swing party. If dirty dancing with a horny stranger and half-naked women groping each other on the dance floor doesn't do it for you, you need a new hobby.

As to smoking... We don't smoke. We try not to make artificial or arbitrary rules about age, weight, personal habits. For us, it's all "in the moment." If we're attracted, we're attracted. And if the attraction is mutual, then we'll act on it.

But in general, smoking tends to be a turnoff. As others have noted, smoking creates an unpleasant odor that mouthwash, perfume, and cologne can't completely disguise. And there's no allure in the yellowed teeth of many long-term smokers.

Have we partied with smokers? Yes. But we have said no to many more. And we have never said yes to anyone who blew smoke in our faces while trying to seduce us.

[sccple29073]

i think smoking does matter. We recently quit smoking and when we did smoke i prefered someone that did smoke.
However now that we do not smoke i prefer someone who doesn't smoke. When you are a smoker you do not notice the smell but once you quit I can't help but think "OMG..Did I smell like that"...lol.
As far as drinking..It does not bother me as long as they do not get sloppy drunk, I just
hate to think..that its the only way they could
participate.

[Cheekyimp1]

Neither my hubby or I smoke. In fact I'm really allergic to it so we prefer nonsmokers. Not to mention the fact that we don't allow people to smoke in our home. And I personally don't care for the taste of a smoker's mouth. ick. As far as drinking it's okay as long as they don't drink too much too often.

[anandjeff2]

I don't smoke and neither does Jeff. My Mum and sis were major smokers and I prefer not to be around smokers. We have been with people who smoked but they would not smoke in our presence went outside but it does linger. as for drinking we like a drink here and there socially but people who are drunks and cannot stop chugging the beers are not my cuppa tea so we will consider smokers and social drinkers but only if e get to know them..we have ecided against a few at times..just too darn smely!

An <img border="0" alt="[Tongue]" title="" src="graemlins/tongue.gif" />

[TNT]

We both smoke and drink on occasion but, we try very hard to be considerate smokers when we are with people that do not smoke.

Ted always carries tooth-picks with him and I always carry breath mints, so that when we are in a situation with non-smokers, we have something to naw until an appropriate time comes where we can excuse ourselves and step out side for a quick puff or two. I know that breath mints don't totally hide the smell or taste, but they do help.

As far as drinking, Ted usually has one or two drinks the whole night because he is always the designated driver and he watches me like a hawk and cuts me off before I have had to many. No one likes a total drunk.

Teresa

[Randy and Kim]

Toothpicks?

LOL, I can think of dozens of uses for toothpicks, but not really in the context of considerate smokers that swing. . . .

Just curious. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" />

[Tanman aka Mike and Marie]

Marie and I are non-smokers and social drinkers. For us as well smoking has become a criteria for who we choose to be with. There is a lot of smoking going on at the club but there are also a lot of people that are non-smokers also(as noticed on this thread as well).

Thats not to say we won't hook-up with a couple someday who might be smokers...just as long as they don't chain smoke. But we haven't met someone yet that it had to be overlooked. As far as drinking goes social drinking would be fine, but thats where we draw the line, anything beyond that as a habit we wouldn't be interested in.

It may help you get in the mood but it also affects your "performance" <img border="0" alt="[Sad]" title="" src="graemlins/sad.gif" />