What turns you on when viewing profiles?

smoothmoves · 06-22-2003, 01:44 PM

When you're cruising through profiles, looking for new friends and play partners, what is it that catches your eye first? Or do you go looking for something more specific?

Is it the age of the couple, or how close they might live to you? Do you look at the pictures first? Or is there something in the written part of their profile that gives you that tingly feeling that you just have to get to know them?

Just curious

Gary

Roxysbayou · 06-22-2003, 04:05 PM

I think that we tend to look at pictures first. We rarely search the ones without pictures. Then we read their profile. We try to tell if they match our likes and dislikes and also try to get a glimpse of what their personality is like. If we feel like we might both agree on them then we send a good message. We never use the prewritten ones. We always try to make it to suit each individual. And if they agree we will exchange IMs or email.

fun_pairTX · 06-22-2003, 05:44 PM

Of course distance is a factor, but our primary criteria is sense of humor. Iif they are funny, they are going to hear from us. If they seem serious forget it. We like down to earth somewhat eccentric types like us LOL.

Vjklander · 06-22-2003, 06:55 PM

A PG pic of him/her/them and she is either a BBW or they state acceptance of BBWs. A somewhat intelligent and thoughtful blurb helps too.
J

BradAndJanet · 06-22-2003, 07:21 PM

OK, I spent some afternoon cruising Swappernet and thinking about this question. Here's what I came up with:

- Profiles with X-rated pics are not a turn on. Believe me when I say we've seen plenty of porn and we know what the parts look like and what they do. But, if we see pictures of people smiling and having fun, we're interested.

- Words are good. People who use lots of them, to give us an idea of what they're like, are more likely to get mail from us than those who don't. But, we don't like to read long lists of detailed likes and dislikes (too picky!)

- Age isn't too big a factor (as long as we aren't reminded of kids or parents

), and we look for couples who don't live too far from us (100 miles.)

-B

OhioCouple · 06-22-2003, 07:37 PM

Hubby likes to see a picture in the profile. As a rule if there are no picutures, we tend to skip by them. I look more for the content of the profile or ad and see if it give me a glimpse of what they may be like in person.

teknurse · 06-22-2003, 08:37 PM

g-rated pictures, personality, likes/dislikes and location are the initial things we look at

I also agree with Brad, the x-rated pics are not a turn on.

permalink · 06-23-2003, 01:55 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by BradAndJanet

- Profiles with X-rated pics are not a turn on. Believe me when I say we've seen plenty of porn and we know what the parts look like and what they do. But, if we see pictures of people smiling and having fun, we're interested.

Couldn't have said that better!

We tend to flip through the pic ones first and then every so often use the search engine Swing Lifestyle has to try and get really specific results and then work backwards. Slowly adding in features we could do without but arn't that serious. (a little extra distance, then an extra age catagory.... etc)

OhioCouple · 06-23-2003, 08:08 AM

I would have to say overall content. Hubby likes to see some pics, I could really care less but do think it is nice if there is some sort of G-rated one, even if the faces are blurred.

One couple that we swing with have no pictures posted. I never really thought to ask why or why not, but we got to know them through e-mails and such, met them for lunch one day, really liked them and then the rest is history.

naughty A · 06-23-2003, 09:21 AM

I should almost pass on this because I don't have any ads posted right now... and haven't viewed any seriously in a couple years...

HOWEVER, number one has always been ... location/proximity to us. Don't want to be travelling more 2hrs... for someone new.

If they meet that particular requirement then we start looking at other things.

keila · 06-23-2003, 09:40 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by BradAndJanet

- Profiles with X-rated pics are not a turn on. Believe me when I say we've seen plenty of porn and we know what the parts look like and what they do. But, if we see pictures of people smiling and having fun, we're interested.

- Words are good. People who use lots of them, to give us an idea of what they're like, are more likely to get mail from us than those who don't. But, we don't like to read long lists of detailed likes and dislikes (too picky!)

- Age isn't too big a factor (as long as we aren't reminded of kids or parents :eek: ), and we look for couples who don't live too far from us (100 miles.)

-B

I thought I would just quote you guys rather than rewrite what you wrote.

Also a sense of humor is a big plus.

Keila

sexypairca · 06-23-2003, 10:17 AM

Ads with with in a reasonable distance (+1 hour travel max.) and those with clears G-rated pics get my attention first. A little more thought to the interest and discription fields is also a plus. Sexual orientation of the couple is also an area that I check out. We did spend a fair bit of time going through ads a couple of years ago but now are more likely to meet people at socials. We have met some interesting people via the net but I am still skeptical of online ads in general. Basically we look for what appears to be real people

.

Annette

alabamafuntonig · 06-23-2003, 10:32 AM

I tend to look for the picture and the mile radius to my house. (50 or less) if what I read catches my interest I will want to learn more. As I am learning you have to read into most ads and ask up front what they mean by certain things in their profile. I.e.: average size and shape or not ken and Barbie or light fun. These usually mean other things.

CenTex 2 · 06-23-2003, 08:23 PM

As someone who doesn't have a digital camera I have to defend those who don't post pics in their profile. Not to mention that I am a bit weary of putting my picture on the internet for all to see. Not everyone who browses the sites are potential playmates. Some are there just to gather pics and spread them around. Also, when I say average body shape I mean average. At 6'6" and 220 lbs I'm in pretty good shape but I consider it to be average.

The thing in an ad that is a turn off to me is when they are high on themselves and make it sound like the average person is not good enough to waste their time on. Another thing that bothers me is when the pictures look too good to be true. Some of them even look professionally done. It they don't look real then I wouldn't bother replying. Keep in mind that we have yet to have our first experience so my views are a bit on the uneducated and naive side.

turnuptheheat · 06-24-2003, 12:07 AM

6 feet 6 inches, 220 pounds is average!?!
Average middle linebacker maybe.

Far above the avg US male of 5' 9.5'', 180 lbs.
Just goes to show how some thing really need clarification.
I really do note pix and locales in profiles, BTW, but am hesitant to post same due to relatively high local profile.

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06-22-2003, 01:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
smoothmoves Active Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 28 Location: San Diego, CA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:smoothmovess	What turns you on when viewing profiles? When you're cruising through profiles, looking for new friends and play partners, what is it that catches your eye first? Or do you go looking for something more specific? Is it the age of the couple, or how close they might live to you? Do you look at the pictures first? Or is there something in the written part of their profile that gives you that tingly feeling that you just have to get to know them? Just curious Gary

06-22-2003, 04:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:likethat	I think that we tend to look at pictures first. We rarely search the ones without pictures. Then we read their profile. We try to tell if they match our likes and dislikes and also try to get a glimpse of what their personality is like. If we feel like we might both agree on them then we send a good message. We never use the prewritten ones. We always try to make it to suit each individual. And if they agree we will exchange IMs or email.
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06-22-2003, 05:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Criteria Of course distance is a factor, but our primary criteria is sense of humor. Iif they are funny, they are going to hear from us. If they seem serious forget it. We like down to earth somewhat eccentric types like us LOL.
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06-22-2003, 07:21 PM	#5 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	OK, I spent some afternoon cruising Swappernet and thinking about this question. Here's what I came up with: - Profiles with X-rated pics are not a turn on. Believe me when I say we've seen plenty of porn and we know what the parts look like and what they do. But, if we see pictures of people smiling and having fun, we're interested. - Words are good. People who use lots of them, to give us an idea of what they're like, are more likely to get mail from us than those who don't. But, we don't like to read long lists of detailed likes and dislikes (too picky!) - Age isn't too big a factor (as long as we aren't reminded of kids or parents ), and we look for couples who don't live too far from us (100 miles.) -B
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06-22-2003, 06:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
Vjklander Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 834 Location: VA Status: Couple, Straight M, BiFem Swing Lifestyle Name:Vjklander	A PG pic of him/her/them and she is either a BBW or they state acceptance of BBWs. A somewhat intelligent and thoughtful blurb helps too. J

06-22-2003, 07:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Hubby likes to see a picture in the profile. As a rule if there are no picutures, we tend to skip by them. I look more for the content of the profile or ad and see if it give me a glimpse of what they may be like in person.
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06-22-2003, 08:37 PM	#7 (permalink)
teknurse Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 125 Location: Lancaster, PA Status: Couple	g-rated pictures, personality, likes/dislikes and location are the initial things we look at I also agree with Brad, the x-rated pics are not a turn on.

06-23-2003, 08:08 AM	#9 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	I would have to say overall content. Hubby likes to see some pics, I could really care less but do think it is nice if there is some sort of G-rated one, even if the faces are blurred. One couple that we swing with have no pictures posted. I never really thought to ask why or why not, but we got to know them through e-mails and such, met them for lunch one day, really liked them and then the rest is history.
	__________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

06-23-2003, 09:21 AM	#10 (permalink)
naughty A Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 997 Location: windsor ontario Status: couple - female half	I should almost pass on this because I don't have any ads posted right now... and haven't viewed any seriously in a couple years... HOWEVER, number one has always been ... location/proximity to us. Don't want to be travelling more 2hrs... for someone new. If they meet that particular requirement then we start looking at other things.
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06-23-2003, 10:17 AM	#12 (permalink)
sexypairca Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 671 Location: Windsor, Ontario Status: married couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sexypairca	Ads with with in a reasonable distance (+1 hour travel max.) and those with clears G-rated pics get my attention first. A little more thought to the interest and discription fields is also a plus. Sexual orientation of the couple is also an area that I check out. We did spend a fair bit of time going through ads a couple of years ago but now are more likely to meet people at socials. We have met some interesting people via the net but I am still skeptical of online ads in general. Basically we look for what appears to be real people . Annette
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06-23-2003, 10:32 AM	#13 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	mc seek profesionals for fun an games I tend to look for the picture and the mile radius to my house. (50 or less) if what I read catches my interest I will want to learn more. As I am learning you have to read into most ads and ask up front what they mean by certain things in their profile. I.e.: average size and shape or not ken and Barbie or light fun. These usually mean other things.

06-23-2003, 08:23 PM	#14 (permalink)
CenTex 2 Active Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 19 Location: Central Texas Status: Couple	As someone who doesn't have a digital camera I have to defend those who don't post pics in their profile. Not to mention that I am a bit weary of putting my picture on the internet for all to see. Not everyone who browses the sites are potential playmates. Some are there just to gather pics and spread them around. Also, when I say average body shape I mean average. At 6'6" and 220 lbs I'm in pretty good shape but I consider it to be average. The thing in an ad that is a turn off to me is when they are high on themselves and make it sound like the average person is not good enough to waste their time on. Another thing that bothers me is when the pictures look too good to be true. Some of them even look professionally done. It they don't look real then I wouldn't bother replying. Keep in mind that we have yet to have our first experience so my views are a bit on the uneducated and naive side.

06-24-2003, 12:07 AM	#15 (permalink)
turnuptheheat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 233 Location: central NY Status: couple	average!?! 6 feet 6 inches, 220 pounds is average!?! Average middle linebacker maybe. Far above the avg US male of 5' 9.5'', 180 lbs. Just goes to show how some thing really need clarification. I really do note pix and locales in profiles, BTW, but am hesitant to post same due to relatively high local profile.

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