finding real couples - more discussions of the swinger ad sites

05-29-2003, 08:08 PM

My wife and I are in our early to mid thirties and are having a problem finding "real" couples out there for swinging. We are both professionals and attractive. Is it because we live in WI. Anyone out there with any good sites on how to find real people?

Roxysbayou · 05-29-2003, 08:11 PM

Well Swinglifestyle and Swappernet seem to be the two favorites on this board at least. If you have tried those and had know luck, you could check to see if any swing clubs in your area have a website. A lot of them provide space for ads.

Handyman69 · 05-29-2003, 08:16 PM

We belong to both sites that Roxy named but still find some that aren't "real" couples. We are in our early 40s...I'm in nursing and John is in the trades.

Keep trying as we have found some very nice couples just have to weed through the rest....

Rhonda

Nymph an' Satyr · 05-29-2003, 10:53 PM

We have had mucho success through Swinglifestyles- and believe me- we are VERY average physically.

Some other folks have run their profile through the forum looking for pointers- you could probably do the same.

WI is cold- I would think that there are lot's of swingers looking for couples to warm up with

05-30-2003, 01:36 PM

My wife and I had a laugh the other day, remember when you got married and you thought... "aaaahh never have to deal with all that searching....dating... approching.... club scene.... kinda stuff again"

How wrong we were. Although it's a little different now...

Nice to meet you... and may I say your wife has a spectacular ass..... (just kidding.. I don't say that for at least 5 or ten minutes)

smoothmoves · 05-31-2003, 04:02 PM

We've recently signed up on a site called LifeStyleLounge. It's run by a nice couple in Minn. They seem to have a lot of people in your area (strange coincidence), and it's a pretty good site. The local members in our area (San Diego) have Meet-n-Greets once in a while, sponsered by the website.

Give it a look. I think you can get a trial membership to just go in and look around. Let us know what you think.

Gary & Paula

teknurse · 05-31-2003, 04:30 PM

I'll throw another vote in for Swinglifestyle. I do have to add tho, that if you don't have some decent pictures of yourself, you aren't going to get a lot of bites. To clarify 'decent', I mean ones that you wouldn't mind showing family members or friends. Best ones seem to be ones in your normal habitat doing what you normally do. I can browse thru crotch shots and splooge scenes in magazines, when I'm looking to meet someone, I want to see what they look like, and maybe get a clue what they're like. Not that I mind a little skin when I'm browsing. :p

Allen&Tami

AndynRoxy · 05-31-2003, 05:03 PM

I agree, Swing Lifestyle seems to be the best so far. But we recently signed up on Swappernet, and it's pretty darn good to. We have tried a few others but they either didn't have many in our area or had all of the same people that we see on Swing Lifestyle.

OhioCouple · 06-02-2003, 10:01 PM

I can only give you insight based on what has worked for us.

We have been swinging for about 1 1/2 years. I am the most cautious of the two of us and also have a very good knack for reading people. (Due to having worked with multitudes of people over the last 20 years.)

I can do this in my head, (as I did it in interviewing others for so many years), but you may want to just sit down with your spouse and make out a list of what is the "least" possible attributes in others that you are willing to accept to meet with or contact. Adhere to that. Make no exceptions. Be willing to expand the distance you are willing to go to find a right couple. One of our favorites is nearly a 4 hour drive. We usually meet half way with them now or one of the other drives to each others area and we spend the weekend together.

We have met with somewhere between 20-30 couples and out of those couples, only three did we choose to progress further than lunch or dinner. Out of all of the couples we met with, we never had a no show and they were all very nice people, we just didn't feel they would be compatible with us sexually. (Either my husband or myself were not attracted to one or both of the other halves.)

Be patient, set your own goals and adhere to them. Good things come to those who wait.

Ashley · 06-03-2003, 09:36 AM

I'm not a big fan of ads though we have done it. You really have to define what you are looking for. If you want an on-going relationship with a couple in your local community and don't mind going slow, then ads are probably OK. We like the club scene and we also like to travel a lot so that seems to work better for us. We meet a lot more partners and potential partners that way.

slowdance · 06-03-2003, 03:00 PM

WIGUY,

We live in WI also and we can confirm that there are many people who actually play in the state. Once upon a time we used contact magazines--though that was tedious, it worked. We've met people through various websites (Swing Lifestyle, Swingers Date Club, Swappernet, and regional Yahoo clubs). We're in the western part of the state, not far from the dance parties put on by Club H and MPC; Club NCN near Madison seems popular with people who enjoy on-site clubs (you meet and play right there); there is also at least one party group in the Appleton-Green Bay area.
There are downsides to each of these approaches, of course, and in each you will need to endure contacts that just don't click as well as poseurs. However if you've identified what the two of you are looking for, you should be able to find it in WI.
Happy hunting!

Sin D · 06-03-2003, 04:07 PM

http://www.swinglifestyle.com

It's about the best one we've found so far. We're from the U.P., so it's probably going to be one you would find helpful also.

ciscosv · 06-04-2003, 12:42 PM

Do you have deterants in your ads?

Something like "HWP people only" or "seeking attractive people"? My wife and I will pass that one one up in a heartbeat. Nothing like meeting people that thing thier shite dont stink.

Attend some parties or dances. That is where you find real (tangible) people. Swinging can happen over night *if* you want it to!

BradAndJanet · 06-04-2003, 05:33 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by ciscosv
...

Something like "HWP people only" or "seeking attractive people"? My wife and I will pass that one one up in a heartbeat. Nothing like meeting people that thing thier shite dont stink.

...

Ditto. As soon as we see that kind of thing, we move on to something else.

-B

OhioCouple · 06-04-2003, 05:42 PM

LOL at Brad and Janet! I just noticed your married 22yrs/non-virgins!

Hmmm, wonder if we should move all your posts to the personals..... ROFL!!!

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05-29-2003, 08:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
WIGUY Guest Posts: n/a	finding real couples - more discussions of the swinger ad sites My wife and I are in our early to mid thirties and are having a problem finding "real" couples out there for swinging. We are both professionals and attractive. Is it because we live in WI. Anyone out there with any good sites on how to find real people?
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05-29-2003, 08:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:likethat	Well Swinglifestyle and Swappernet seem to be the two favorites on this board at least. If you have tried those and had know luck, you could check to see if any swing clubs in your area have a website. A lot of them provide space for ads.
	__________________ I put the "grrrr" in swinger baby, yeah! --Austin Powers

05-30-2003, 01:36 PM	#5 (permalink)
everlast Guest Posts: n/a	My wife and I had a laugh the other day, remember when you got married and you thought... "aaaahh never have to deal with all that searching....dating... approching.... club scene.... kinda stuff again" How wrong we were. Although it's a little different now... Nice to meet you... and may I say your wife has a spectacular ass..... (just kidding.. I don't say that for at least 5 or ten minutes)
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06-02-2003, 10:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	I can only give you insight based on what has worked for us. We have been swinging for about 1 1/2 years. I am the most cautious of the two of us and also have a very good knack for reading people. (Due to having worked with multitudes of people over the last 20 years.) I can do this in my head, (as I did it in interviewing others for so many years), but you may want to just sit down with your spouse and make out a list of what is the "least" possible attributes in others that you are willing to accept to meet with or contact. Adhere to that. Make no exceptions. Be willing to expand the distance you are willing to go to find a right couple. One of our favorites is nearly a 4 hour drive. We usually meet half way with them now or one of the other drives to each others area and we spend the weekend together. We have met with somewhere between 20-30 couples and out of those couples, only three did we choose to progress further than lunch or dinner. Out of all of the couples we met with, we never had a no show and they were all very nice people, we just didn't feel they would be compatible with us sexually. (Either my husband or myself were not attracted to one or both of the other halves.) Be patient, set your own goals and adhere to them. Good things come to those who wait.
	__________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

05-29-2003, 08:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
Handyman69 Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 553 Location: MI..God's country.so we thought. Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:handyman69	We belong to both sites that Roxy named but still find some that aren't "real" couples. We are in our early 40s...I'm in nursing and John is in the trades. Keep trying as we have found some very nice couples just have to weed through the rest.... Rhonda

05-29-2003, 10:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
Nymph an' Satyr Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 352 Location: Street, Maryland Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:nymphansatyr	We have had mucho success through Swinglifestyles- and believe me- we are VERY average physically. Some other folks have run their profile through the forum looking for pointers- you could probably do the same. WI is cold- I would think that there are lot's of swingers looking for couples to warm up with

05-31-2003, 04:02 PM	#6 (permalink)
smoothmoves Active Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 28 Location: San Diego, CA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:smoothmovess	We've recently signed up on a site called LifeStyleLounge. It's run by a nice couple in Minn. They seem to have a lot of people in your area (strange coincidence), and it's a pretty good site. The local members in our area (San Diego) have Meet-n-Greets once in a while, sponsered by the website. Give it a look. I think you can get a trial membership to just go in and look around. Let us know what you think. Gary & Paula

05-31-2003, 04:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
teknurse Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 125 Location: Lancaster, PA Status: Couple	I'll throw another vote in for Swinglifestyle. I do have to add tho, that if you don't have some decent pictures of yourself, you aren't going to get a lot of bites. To clarify 'decent', I mean ones that you wouldn't mind showing family members or friends. Best ones seem to be ones in your normal habitat doing what you normally do. I can browse thru crotch shots and splooge scenes in magazines, when I'm looking to meet someone, I want to see what they look like, and maybe get a clue what they're like. Not that I mind a little skin when I'm browsing. :p Allen&Tami

05-31-2003, 05:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
AndynRoxy Active Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 15 Location: Louisiana Status: Couple	I agree, Swing Lifestyle seems to be the best so far. But we recently signed up on Swappernet, and it's pretty darn good to. We have tried a few others but they either didn't have many in our area or had all of the same people that we see on Swing Lifestyle.

06-03-2003, 09:36 AM	#10 (permalink)
Ashley Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 207 Location: Arizona Status: Couple	I'm not a big fan of ads though we have done it. You really have to define what you are looking for. If you want an on-going relationship with a couple in your local community and don't mind going slow, then ads are probably OK. We like the club scene and we also like to travel a lot so that seems to work better for us. We meet a lot more partners and potential partners that way.

06-03-2003, 03:00 PM	#11 (permalink)
slowdance Registered Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 6 Location: Western WI/Twin Cities Status: Couple	WIGUY, We live in WI also and we can confirm that there are many people who actually play in the state. Once upon a time we used contact magazines--though that was tedious, it worked. We've met people through various websites (Swing Lifestyle, Swingers Date Club, Swappernet, and regional Yahoo clubs). We're in the western part of the state, not far from the dance parties put on by Club H and MPC; Club NCN near Madison seems popular with people who enjoy on-site clubs (you meet and play right there); there is also at least one party group in the Appleton-Green Bay area. There are downsides to each of these approaches, of course, and in each you will need to endure contacts that just don't click as well as poseurs. However if you've identified what the two of you are looking for, you should be able to find it in WI. Happy hunting!

06-03-2003, 04:07 PM	#12 (permalink)
Sin D Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 46 Location: U.P. MI Status: couple	http://www.swinglifestyle.com It's about the best one we've found so far. We're from the U.P., so it's probably going to be one you would find helpful also.
	__________________ And when you look into an abyss, the abyss also looks into you.

06-04-2003, 12:42 PM	#13 (permalink)
ciscosv Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 755 Location: Redford, Michigan Status: Married Couple	Do you have deterants in your ads? Something like "HWP people only" or "seeking attractive people"? My wife and I will pass that one one up in a heartbeat. Nothing like meeting people that thing thier shite dont stink. Attend some parties or dances. That is where you find real (tangible) people. Swinging can happen over night if you want it to!
	__________________ M&M Melts in your mouth, not in your hand

06-04-2003, 05:42 PM	#15 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	LOL at Brad and Janet! I just noticed your married 22yrs/non-virgins! Hmmm, wonder if we should move all your posts to the personals..... ROFL!!!
	__________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

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