Ads - Venting

[ArcaneReference]

So, a couple weeks ago, we put an ad on swinglifestyle. Made what I thought was a really good, reasonably detailed profile about us, nice g-rated picture - no b.s. - right? Why waste each other's time and be deceitful?

I check a couple days ago and get one nice mail from a couple who responded in kind and way more of "wanna get together" and "let's exchange pictures" (with a hotmail address) type responses. Seriously - just one line - like that. Then I check their profiles and they are one stupid line in each field "looking for another hot couple" and no pic. Losers. I pulled our picture and will likely pull our profile altogether. For a first time online ad experience, it's been pretty sort of 'dirty' feeling.

Creeps. Pisses me off.

For those of you who have placed ads online, what are the ratios you find of jackasses to decent nice people? Is this anomlous?

[danc694u]

That happens a lot with online ads.

It's something you'll have to get used to. You have to weed the pic collectors out of the real folks.

[OhioCouple]

I know what you mean! But in all honesty I'd say the ratio has been two creeps to every one worth looking at. Not bad odds when you consider the enormous amount of pic collectors and cheaters out there. Very few have we kept to in touch with, but for the most part they were pretty okay in our book, just not what we were looking for.

I'd say keep your ad up with your photo. (Photo's definitely bring better results.) The good ones will come along. If you just feel like you need to vent on someone (like I've been known to do) these idiots are perfect targets. (And deserving, I might add.) Send them a short note back saying something like, "Gee, We would have considered it if your profile had anything of interest in it. We think we'll have to pass."

I started a thread on something similar to this a while back. You can read it here.

Common Sense and Common Courtesy

[BodyScape02]

We have had ads out for a little over a year on a few different sites. We get a good raito of idiots over the intelligent. We get a ton of copy/paste form letters and also the ones who send the smae mail over and over and seem to not remember we have already said NO. I wouldn't recommend flaming the idiots and repsonding as Ohiocpl suggests. You never know who the person or persons are and they can become a real headache if you do engage in a verbal spar. Trust me, we know... It's best to just ignore the out right stupid mail to you....

[Perseus]

*big huge blush*

Ok, I admit it, I am guilty of cut and paste, but I do try to customize it to the person I am writing. But in my defense, there is only some much that you say different to someone you only know from a personal ad or a Yahoo profile.

I guess i have been a bad boy and I need a spanking.

J/K

Perseus

[Roxysbayou]

I get a lot of that to on Swing Lifestyle. Usually its, "We liked your profile, check ours out. Tells us what you think." If I had a dollar for everyone of those I would be very happy. Some of them have turned out to be good, and others were reeeaallly bad. You just have to weed them out. Be patient, it takes time on the net. You may also want to check, if you attend a club in your area, soemtimes they have personals on there websites. We have met some quality people through ours. Good Luck!

[dreamers]

Hi all,
well so far we have had a great responce to out ad on swing life, with mostly normal people replying...thank god.
A few picture lookers and one lines wanting to see private pictures but all in all I must say we are very happy, met some great people!!!!!!!!!!!





Never know how good it is until you try it!

[J & K]

Then I check their profiles and they are one stupid line in each field "looking for another hot couple" and no pic. Losers. I pulled our picture and will likely pull our profile altogether. For a first time online ad experience, it's been pretty sort of 'dirty' feeling.

Ah--blow them off as you will do many. Just do a tacfull reply to them and move on. It happens to us all the time. We sometimes ask for pics if we can't see them on their profile or all we get is a body shot. We don't collect pics and state that in our profile. We just want to see if there is an attraction to begin with.

Pulling your pics off will get you less hits for sure---on any site you go to. Keep your "G" rated pics up and tell these folks that do this to you that your profile pics are up to date and that is what you two look like. Ask to see some "G" rated classy pics of them and after making friends you two can exchange other pics if trustworthy.

We put up enough pics to give folks an overall picture on how we look like. No one has ever complained about our pics and asking for more. You can look at our link below and see why. Give them enough for a taste we say.

Give yourself time to weed the fakes or those you two aren't attracted to out. There are more cpls out there we would love to meet (they want to meet us too) so they take a number for now---lol---just kidding. They all live too far from us the majority of time.

Hang in there!!!! Swing Lifestyle is a great site!!!!

[twopeople2]

We have a profile on Swing Lifestyle too. We don't have any pictures on the site as discretion is extremely important because of our jobs and kids. We know our profile doesn't get as many looks as those with pictures, but hoped if we struck up good conversation with someone of interest we could exchange pictures with those who were seriously interested. After all, haven't we all ran into someone we were a bit surprised to see online?

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by twopeople2
We don't have any pictures on the site as discretion is extremely important because of our jobs and kids.

I'm curious Twopeople what kind of success you have had. I know that we didn't have much until we put up pictures. As soon as we did we received quite a bit of responses. Our pictures really don't give a good clear facial and we have one that could be considered "R" rated at best (no facial). We too were concerned about being recognized, which is why we never posted any, but soon found out that most people don't take others seriously unless they have one posted. It made all the difference in the world for us.

[EternallySingle]

Well, on the various sites I've joined, I've had 1 email worth responding to for every 60 or so that I've received. Some were from picture collectors who ask for a pic of me, but send one of themselves with their backs to the camera or their faces blanked out. The rest were just redirects to paysites. Personally, I don't answer ads online unless I've talked to a person first. Not many problems with couples, but since I'm not currently looking to hook up with couples and most 'single females' are fake...

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by J & K
Hang in there!!!! Swing Lifestyle is a great site!!!!

One thing I would like to point out here. In our experience of reviewing sites and joining and posting ads, we have learned to look at the number of members that are relatively close in our area before forking out the CC number. I personally think that all sites have good benefits, but they tend to be 'area' specific. For instance the first site that we joined had a huge mass of members from areas in our state (4 hours away) and relatively few for our immediate area. The second site we joined by recommendation of a swing friend we met through the first one let us to one that had a huge database of members in our area.

That is why I think it is important to check out the sites under the trial membership and scan for the database for members (not trial) that are in your pre-determined traveling distance. Once we got on the second site we were able to meet with many couples in our specific area and have made some very good friends.

[Mich149]

I thought the first e-mail was like a resume, you are short & sweet don’t waste too much chatting about nothing until they look @ your profile & see if they like it. Then if you respond then you can start the transfer of information.

[wiscpl]

twopeople2, it's funny you mention about meeting someone online. Our very fist experience with online ads was just that. Without giving to many details the person was well known to one of us for most of their life. In most states it would be illegal for anything of that nature to occur.
In the famous words of Goomer Pile, SURPRISE, SURPRISE, SURPRISE!

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by Mich149
I thought the first e-mail was like a resume, you are short & sweet don’t waste too much chatting about nothing until they look @ your profile & see if they like it. Then if you respond then you can start the transfer of information.

For us, what catches our eye is someone that takes the time to type a well thought out note in which they expound on something that meshes with our interests or something they might be interested in. In my opinion, they need to send a note that makes someone WANT to review your profile. A simple line such as "Love your profile, please look at ours and see if you have an interest?" is an automatic "No Go" as they have not given us any indication about what they loved about our profile. Maybe it is because we are older, but we aren't into playing guessing games or endless e-mails in order to figure it out. I can honestly say that after meeting some 20 or better couples, we have never been stood up, inspite of distance, nor have we ever met any 'real yahoo's'. Only a small fraction did we proceed to the next step with, but those were ones where we believed that we could be compatible.