How Not to Post an Ad

[danc694u]

Has anyone ever noticed, how many rude, crude, and just plain vulgar people are hanging around swingers sites? Or, are we the only ones that have had problems?

Examples: Received e-mail of couple with pics. Hers, is a nice pic. His, is a pic of his dick.

First line says: I really like eating pussy. Oh hell that's a big turn on! NOT!! Just general BS like this, all the time. Makes me wonder if these folks attended real life, while they were growing up. Or whether they shot out their mothers ass as an uneducated adult?

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It's more fun than checkers.

[JustAskJulie]

I see 90% of the ads that are posted on this site... so yes I've noticed...lol.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[CanadianCouple]

Well you see, there are some children on the internet who shave and have really deep voices, and they just love to pretend they're Austin Powers, swinger extraordinare.

Dan

[LIZA]

I would guess at least 1/3 of all pictures we have ever been sent are of genitals/breasts ONLY. I would never dream of meeting a couple who send a picture of their privates only and expect that to be enticing. Yuck.

[SnittyKitty]

First of all, "danc694u" you're half nuts to start with and you're running loose!!! (Thanks for the directions on the club !!!)

I don't want to change the subject, but we met our first two couples this weekend, didn't do anything, but the couple we met for our dinner was terrific. We could just as easily be friends as anything else. They answered all my questions, and I thought never in a million years I would reveal what I told them. It seemed "natural". We laughed, told stories...it was not at all what I had expected.

Back to the subject at hand...the ads I posted may be construed as rude...I don't pretend to know everybody's definition of rude. I've gotten emails that go from telling me thanks for your directness to the opposite. I would like to see folks be themselves. Just be real! My wife and I are ordinary folks that want to stretch our wings. I think it's important to tell folks the truth.

As for the naked pics...I had one couple send me a nude pic of the wife. I asked them to send me a G-rated pic of both of them.

I think there is a misperception that swinging is pure fucking. Whether it's adultery, infidelity or being "discrete", or cheating.

I think we can all agree it isn't; if it's done right. Hell, I've wrestled with that. I can't remember how many times I've told myself...if it's consentual, my wife wants to me to enjoy myself...is it...? (you fill in the blank)

And like dance694u said, it's about what you're comfortable with.

The first couple we met, the wife is gorgeous. She decked out for us, but that didn't turn me on like the second couple. They came across, "like us". Down to earth, warm, funny, and you could tell this couple really loved each other. And I think that's important. I have to connect with a couple. Others...don't! Their choice.

Whether it's crude and rude...it is about choice. Good and bad choice. You folks have done a really good job of making me feel at home here and I thank you.

SnittyKitty

[JustAskJulie]

So I guess the next question would be....
What do you consider rude or crude when it comes to this lifestyle?

For me when I speak of rude and crude I'm talking about people who send out pics that are nothing but close-ups of their genitals (crude). People who respond to ads that obviously don't include them (single guys emailing a couple only looking for couples telling them that they need to play with single guys... or someone getting an attitude when they are turned down and giving the people who turned them down riot act about how if they are swingers they should swing with anyone and everyone and not be picky) - rude.

I don't consider directness to be either one. I think people should be more direct and upfront in their ads it would probably save everyone a lot of time.

[danc694u]

Snitty

Most of the rude and crude we refer too. Involves people online for the most part.

Being behind that screen does it for them, I think. Besides, if anyones ad should be labeled as "rude & crude" Ours should LOL. Our "private" page is very direct..and very to the point with preferances, likes, and dislikes. Of course we use G-rated pics for our web page and any ad.

We've met a few "rude & crude" people at clubs. But very few for the most part. Most people we meet in clubs, Are as you say, very down to earth.

The club? You guys were there? Man do I feel like a heel then LOL. We met 2 new couples (one total newbie), were supposed to meet a 3rd, hell it may have been more. But, truthfully I lost track of all the names that were coming for the first time This one party, had us reeling with names we were trying to remember. Many of them, first time attendees. Hopefully, everyone had a good time. I know we sure did

additional note We met a couple, who showed us that a picture isn't actually worth a 1000 words. To say the least, they photographed badly. They had fantastic personalities. And, looked GREAT in person!

[ 11-13-2001: Message edited by: danc694u ]

[SnittyKitty]

Was their photo any worse than your spelling?

SnittyKitty

[JustAskJulie]

You know, you'd think when they released the upgrade for this board they would have included a spell check...lol.

[danc694u]

Originally posted by SnittyKitty:
Was their photo any worse than your spelling?

SnittyKitty

Worse LMAO :p

[OneOfTwo]

We've received several emails in response to our ad. It does not take us long to figure out which inquiries require no reply from us. They are usually the ones that ask for all kinds of details and pics about and of us but volunteer nothing about themselves. I can't stand that! (stomp!!!)

As a rule, our emails always include "opening dialogue" information about us with the caveat that G-rated pics are perfectly acceptable (and preferable). We have a pretty good idea of what all that other stuff looks like!

[danc694u]

Just a little comment for the trolls.

#1 If you live 1200 miles from us. Why bother e-mailing us for a hook-up? Getting a hooker would be much cheaper and easier!

#2 What makes you believe we will drive/fly 1200 miles for a "good fuck"? Especially, since we have such a large selection here.

#3 Comments about our website. Should be made after you actually read the thing. Within the last 24 hours, 2 single clowns (from this board) have "skipped" the part of not having ANY contact with us first. We pick the singles, not the other way around!

#4 By letting us know how hot/big/horny/caring you are. You've just let us know that you are completely clueless.

Engage brain first. Then mouth....maybe.

[neGA_cpl]

AH YES.......
Now, to this, we must agree!!!! Your commentary hits it on the head 100% !!! [img]null[/img]

[JustAskJulie]

Ok, since I see about 80% of the ads that get posted on this site. I get to see all the ones that make no sense or are a complete waste of time (on the part of the poster).

Here's a few where you have to wonder what the person was even thinking when they posted it (and yes I'm posting the entire ad text):

"hi,i hope to hear from you and may the day be yours" Ok, so tell us a little about yourself

"Hello I am a married Male that swings alone and am very new to this. I have never did anything like this befor and would like to know more about it. " cheater who can't spell?

"Curious couple looking for fun. d/d free and discreet. looking for exciting new lifestyle. "Tell us more?

"we are looking for other couple's
to play around with. " ok, so who are you?

"To worst thing is to die and never have truely lived.
African American male in a relationship looking to try new things in a discreet manner. " and why should we help you cheat?

"college student, athletic, play baseball, weight lifter, always ready to go " So go then.

"lvs 2 play with 2 email me 4 a night of fun and 4 play " huh?

Ok, those are just a few.. the sad part is that I pulled all of those from only 3 pages of ads. If any of those ads belong to anyone who reads this board. I apologize.. but hey I didn't put your email with them and you can always go in and edit your ad.

[danc694u]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie:

"Hello I am a married Male that swings alone and am very new to this. I have never did anything like this befor and would like to know more about it.

Never mind the spelling.
Ohhhh, this is so funny. And, so typical. New and never done this before!?!!? And swings alone??? Wonder if this means he swings in his own palm, when no one else is around?

Ah Ha!!! A new form of "safe swinging". What shall we call it? PSS? Palm Swinger Solo? SPS? Solo Palm Swinger?
Or Palm Solo... Kinda catchy, like Hans Solo

Maybe he can get a circle jerk going on, at the local bar.