Unicorns, Still need some advice with our profile

[nckittycpl29]

Female half, here. I haven't posted in forever, and since the last time I've posted, the male half of nckittycpl and I have been married for nine months!

We are updating our profile just a little every once in awhile, and for some reason, even after mentioning "No couples" in our profile, we still get emails on Swing Lifestyle from couples! We're not interested in having a couple, even if the male wants to watch. It would make us really, really uncomfortable. Would blocking them on Swing Lifestyle work?

To prevent any fakes from seeing a few of our pictures, I made a couple of pictures private....does that work? If you do want to see them, just ask. They're sexy but they're not nude.

For those that have read our profile (nckittycpl29 on Swing Lifestyle), are we doing everything we can to find that elusive bi-female? I know it's really hard to find her, but we still haven't given up hope on having a FMF threesome someday.

Thanks in advance...

[good times]

I think your add is fine and if you don't want to be contacted by couples then, yes, I would block them. For some reason very few people actually seem to read the adds. We get at least a couple of emails a week from folks that obviously didn't read our add. Just the other day we had someone contact us saying that, "we look like we would be a great match" I don't know what they were "looking" at, but their add stressed that they were only interested in couples with a bi-female and they only do girl/girl play with the men watching. First thing we said was, "what part of "both straight" and "full swap only" do they not understand" they get the standard "no thanks". We block single males and say in our add "no single males" and we still get contacted by them once in a while. I just can't understand what these guys are thinking that set up a couples account to get around the block feature, and then wonder why the couples that they contact don't bust down their door getting to them.

[telly2]

We have couples only on ours and keep hearing from singles, i guess they see it as a challenge or something, i don't know.

But what we do is politely let them know what we are looking for is couples and that is it. I will talk to them as friends, but don't expect anything from this.

[nckittycpl29]

Thanks goodtimes.... I will try blocking couples. I mention it in our profile that we would like it if those that want to meet up with us, to tell us about what they liked in our profile, etc. Some people just don't want to listen, do they? I mean.... it's a possibility down the road, but I can't see us doing that anytime soon. Another thing, we have what we'd prefer for age (near our ages) and we get messages from people way older than what we prefer.... again, some people just don't read!

[Spoomonkey]

Yeah - just block them. I don't know why more people don't do this...

We would read your ad and not contact you (it is pretty clear what you are looking for) but - at the same time if a couple can view they will either not read or assume that you are open to the possibility (since you are leaving your ad visible to them).

If you know 100% that couples aren't your bag, go ahead and make use of the block feature. You'll do them a favor in that they don't even need to waste their time reading

Spoomonkey

[nckittycpl29]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Yeah - just block them. I don't know why more people don't do this...

We would read your ad and not contact you (it is pretty clear what you are looking for) but - at the same time if a couple can view they will either not read or assume that you are open to the possibility (since you are leaving your ad visible to them).

If you know 100% that couples aren't your bag, go ahead and make use of the block feature. You'll do them a favor in that they don't even need to waste their time reading

Spoomonkey

Thanks also to you, spoo..... it has now been changed to block couples. Does that mean people that post here, that is a couple that want to see our site, won't get to see it?

[good times]

Originally Posted by nckittycpl29

Thanks also to you, spoo..... it has now been changed to block couples. Does that mean people that post here, that is a couple that want to see our site, won't get to see it?

Yes and no, if they go to your public profile by clicking on the link in your profile here they will be able to see it with no problem. If they are logged in as a couple, on the other hand, they won't be able to see your profile as it will come up as "blocked to couples".

[nckittycpl29]

Ok... that explains it perfectly. Thanks again!

[SCcpl40]

You're never quite going to rid yourselves of people who just can't take the time to read and respect people's right of choice. You must accept it if you put yourself out for everyone to see, especially if you have a very appealing profile.

Now, on the elusive single bif. You would do better picking one up in a regular club than on a site. We've had the opportunity happen online and in a club. The club is really less work, and from what we've experienced much more rewarding.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by nckittycpl29

...we doing everything we can to find that elusive bi-female? I know it's really hard to find her, but we still haven't given up hope on having a FMF threesome someday.

I'm curious, have you done a search for all the single bifems in your area? How many are there and how many are you even interested in?

I think your best chance would be to write them, rather than hope they'll contact you.

I looked at your profile and I think there is lots of good info, you can see that you've taken time to carefully present your experiences and desires. Something that I also noticed in some places is your choice of words and how you try to get your point across comes off a bit negative and frustrated. Your opening paragragh even seems a bit threatening, a "do this or else" kind of a feel. I think taking that first paragragh and stating what you want in a positive way (rather than negative) and putting it further down in your profile would help, because people would then first read the next paragragh where you state what you are seeking.

Hope you find that special bifem!

LM

P.S. Using the 'block couples' feature on Swing Lifestyle should be a big help if you don't ever want couples to see your profile.

[nckittycpl29]

Hey LikeMinds.... yes, we've done a search on Swing Lifestyle for single bi-fems. There's actually quite a few.....but 98% of them are way above our age group, and we're not interested in most of them. The ones we are interested in are too far away or haven't written enough in their profile for us to contact them.

I will also look at the beginning paragraph and try to change it...thanks for the tip.

I haven't recieved any mail from couples in awhile since I changed it to block couples. Thanks.