Swing Lifestyle

[rachan]

I sometimes get irritated by some of the ads on Swing Lifestyle. Some of the ads piss me off when I read them and I sure as hell don't want to contact the assholes who post these. And the arrogant single males who want to meet for a drink and then go fuck my wife pisses me off even more. We've only met a couple of people through Swing Lifestyle and aff and we like to get to know someone before getting into anything else. Just my opinion, but I'm beginning to think that Swing Lifestyle and some other sites suck.

Andy

[Beaverbumper]

Well in some case Swing Lifestyle does suck..but not all of us want to meet and fuck that moment...some of us really want friendship to..

[Darkblue]

Well dont forget its an open site which will attract the pervs and the lurkers
dont worry about it and just ignor the numptys!! i do/will!!


Steve

[rpu3]

Well, Swappernet isn't much better. Just part of the deal with internet sites like this.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by rachan

We've only met a couple of people through Swing Lifestyle and aff and we like to get to know someone before getting into anything else. Just my opinion, but I'm beginning to think that Swing Lifestyle and some other sites suck.

Andy

Hi Andy,

When you search the ads in the two sites you're on, don't you also find lots of profiles that show couples who want to meet people, get to know you first, and then move on from there? I find that to be pretty much the norm, and common. Have you found any profiles like that where you are?
Keep looking, I'm sure you'll find some that will interest you.

[ShellyM]

Andy,
you have to realize the truth regarding swinging.
Most people who call themselves swingers are not really swingers.
Thats a fact. The internet has caused this lifestyle to explode. What was once a small, close knit society is now kind of "sheik" and cool. You will find lots of fakers, liars, teases, perverts and all kinds. This is why you have to be wise and be picky. Use your common sense and don't be afraid to hurt people's feelings...I'm NOT saying be rude.

And I will say this as well. Alot of those "rude" profiles are that way for a reason. Once you have had bad experience with people (ie. they want to email each other for a year before will commit to meeting, and then never commit) you tend to lose your patience. I know it is frustrating, but just be patient and listen to your gut.

[JacobSky]

Originally Posted by Beaverbumper

Well in some case Swing Lifestyle does suck..but not all of us want to meet and fuck that moment...some of us really want friendship to..

I want friendship also. I have used AFF in the past. I always felt that Swing Lifestyle was going to be dominated by couples looking for other couples. I was also concerned about finding someone nearby due to a lower number of adds. Still, I'm considering Swing Lifestyle becuase they may have more real people with adds.

I'd really like to see an overview or critique of the best swingers personals sites available. I real unbiased listing.

The live webcam, friends lists, pictures, and interest groups at AFF have often persuaded me to join there along with the high number of members.

I'm going to start exploring my option.

Oh, to reply more directly. As someone above mentioned, these sites are open to the public and get all kinds of people with different motives and personalities. I've seen adds for everything from polyamory to "you will have to leave as soon as you are finished servicing my wife, no chit chat". There are all types out there. I do feel sad and inadequate after reading some, then now and then I am what a couple is looking for.

[havefuninsun]

Sorry you've not been happy with online "dating." Actually, we've been pretty happy with Swing Lifestyle. But you're right; some of the ads do turn you off -- we just pass them by. What else can you do? Folks want different things from these services.

Too bad we can't have one that says "no assholes allowed." Too bad assholes don't know that's what they are. LOL!

Good luck!

[jennandjamesinm]

Originally Posted by havefuninsun

Too bad we can't have one that says "no assholes allowed."

You can - you just have to word it properly lol

Jenn

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

We have had great luck on Swing Lifestyle. It was WAY better for us than AFF. All we got off AFF were trolls.
I've noticed that some sites are stronger in certain areas of the country. For where I live Swing Lifestyle seems to be the best.

[Tybee Swing]

We went ahead just recently and put a profile and pics up on Swing Lifestyle, mainly because it seems that just about everybody on this board is on it. However, it seems primitive compared to other sites (features, etc.), and the main problem with Swing Lifestyle where we are, is that there are very few interesting profiles that fit our location/age range/criteria. There aren't even that many that have pictures - so few, it's not going to be worth paying for. I'm sure it's a regional thing.

Swappernet is a stronger site for this area. We've been on Swappernet for quite awhile with a fair amount of success.

However, most of the swingers in our area, by far, seem to be on AFF. AFF also seems to attract more cheaters and fakes, but the population is just so much larger there overall, that levels the playing field. Also, as paying members on AFF, the standard (free) members can't contact us except to wink at us. Cheaters, picture collecters and garden-variety wankers usually don't want to pay, so we don't respond to winks from standard profiles with no picture. We figure that any person or couple genuinely involved in the Lifestyle knows to put up some sort of picture, and they would be willing to pay a little for a membership. This works for us....since we've been back on AFF, we've had lots of successful contacts. Also, most of our friends are there, too.

[Beaverbumper]

We arnt sure that Swing Lifestyle is a reginal thing or not ...we took our pics off only until we can make better one as my wife wants to select the pose..We are member of Swappernet but find at time couples will respond and then disappear without a word..

[flkeyscouple]

We've used Swing Lifestyle and had good luck with it. We won't respond to a contact from a profile without a picture - well, we aren't rude, we DO respond but with a 'no thanks'. But it may be a regional thing - there are many, many profiles in our area, in our age range, with great people and pictures. We've met some, and have plans to meet more soon.

We've never used any other site - just Swing Lifestyle.

Sarah

[Dynamar]

I've definitely found that when it comes to the swinger sites (Swing Lifestyle, Swappernet, et al) that you reap what you sow. If someone were to read any of my ads, they would read a conversational dossier, if you will, about me, my likes, dislikes, and so on, presented in a positive and upbeat way. There are quite a few guidelines in there for those who realize that, but it doesn't seem like harping and it isn't negative.

Most of the mail I get is of a complimentary nature... suggesting the writer is impressed with the amount of time that I spent to be so complete and compelling. About 75% of the time, the letter writer references something specific in the profile, so I know they've read it.

My standards are very high, and I set a tone of rather high expectations about the type of folks I'm interested in. It's amazing how many people just "fill in the blanks" without a whole lot of thought about who they are and what they're looking for, I'll grant you. The place to start then is with one's own profile, and then ignoring the profiles that you don't find compelling.

Look at it this way... if all of the ads were perfectly done, you'd never be able to weed out the folks that you don't find worth your time.

[Beaverbumper]

The ad from our stand point is one thing and getting really know the couple is another. We find that the ads are mostly all the same so we depend on chatting personally with the couple..