Bad spelling and poor grammar in profiles

[2jersey]

We may be nuts - but we can't get ourselves to look past the extremely dismal level of written communications on Swing Lifestyle. We have seen many profiles and messages with numerous spelling errors and a complete lack of capitalization/punctuation. Often, we can't even understand the messages we receive. And most people on Swing Lifestyle seem incapable of writing messages which contain more than a sentence or two.

We admit to having learned how to read and write English long before we even heard of the internet. Recently we have been spending more time online (looking for sex ) and we are realizing that many people on Swing Lifestyle lack the ability to communicate in written form.

When we open a profile or message with horrible spelling and grammar, we assume that the writer is lazy and/or ignorant - traits which we don't find appealing. We are completely turned off by the idea of connecting with people who don't demonstrate some ability to communicate in writing. (If we sense that English is a second language for the writer, we judge by entirely different standards.)

Anybody else experiencing a similar problem?
r we justafide or bad grammare n spelung aint not impotrent ???

[Cafe10s]

Most people tend to want to associate to people of their social and cultural level. We often find the same problem you do. There are many thing that make these connections happen. facelick

[singleagain]

2jersey said: "When we open a profile or message with horrible spelling and grammar, we assume that the writer is lazy and/or ignorant - traits which we don't find appealing. We are completely turned off by the idea of connecting with people who don't demonstrate some ability to communicate in writing."

cafe10s said: "Most people tend to want to associate to people of their social and cultural level."

Its understandable that one might think a person either ignorant or lazy or possibly or a lower social or cultural level when that person can't properly spell words or structure a sentence. As for me I think the danger in trying to communicate with someone who cannot convey an idea with clarity lies in the possibility of misunderstanding the intent or meaning of what was written. Of course I made straight a's in English in high school and did the same with my college courses in English. And occasionally I foul up the King's English...but never because I don't know the right thing to say or write. A suggestion to those who post here with bad grammer: write your post in a good word processing program and then copy it to this forum. At least you can use the grammer and spelling check to help you out.

oh...and if u wants to no if i lik to hav fun in bed just let me no.

cul8tr

[Tybee Swing]

LOL! I totally understand! I feel exactly the same way about personal ads and email correspondence from people who can't put a clear sentence together to save their lives!

It's not the little typos or a few misspellings - it's the consistently bad ones that make me not even go there.

I had the same feeling when I was single and dating on the 'net through the regular personals. I don't know how many men never got past "hello" with me, just because of this.

[Chicup]

Its just another way to know its a couple we want to avoid.

I might be a poor speller, but I do know how to use the free spellchecker

[Mr. Truelove]

SINCE NOONE ELZ DID IT! ILL DO IT HAHA. I R WUNTIN U 4 A FUNTIME!!!!111 PLZ MALE BACK!

hehe, couldn't resist.

EDIT: Aww... I just noticed someone did beat me to it after reading more carefully.

[good times]

A few misspelled words in an email or a post doesn't bother me. If they have gross misspellings in their actual ad then that might indicate some lack of care.

In fact, we might even misspell a word or two now and then just to weed out the anal-retentive folks.

Just kidding, but I will admit that I find the complaints about spelling errors much more annoying than the occasional misspelled word.

Originally Posted by Cafe10s

Most people tend to want to associate to people of their social and cultural level. We often find the same problem you do. There are many thing that make these connections happen. facelick

Some of the most highly educated successful people I know are also some of the worst spellers I have ever met. So, I don't think this theory would be a very sound one. I think poor spelling is pretty evenly distributed over all walks of life and social classes.

[Mr. Truelove]

Originally Posted by good times

In fact, we might even misspell a word or two now and then just to weed out the anal-retentive folks.

At first I thought you were joking until I read your Swing Lifestyle profile. "Cantact"

[good times]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

At first I thought you were joking until I read your Swing Lifestyle profile. "Cantact"

Well, I would like to say that I did that just to test you to see if you were paying attention. Or say, what, you mean to tell me you have never cantacted anyone before. But in all honesty, all that effort I put into getting a solid "D" in english back in high school just isn't paying off like I thought it would.

Thanks, I did get it fixed.......I think. Surrender

[Jester]

Yes we have seen our fair share of bad grammar and grossly misspelled emails and profiles on Swing Lifestyle. When it is horrendous or something like "looking 2 play 4 2morrow night U up 4 it" we tend to think fakers just playing games and we move on. However, the occasional misspelling is going to happen to all of us so we can't disregard someone because of that or make a judgment as typos do happen. It is hard to say where the line is between honest errors and poor communication skills, we just know it when we see it.

In all honesty first impressions can never be undone and on a site like Swing Lifestyle the first notice you have of people is either their profile or an email they send you. Personally if we are contacting someone we would like to make a favorable impression so we take the extra minute to proof read what we write before hitting the send button, so no it isn't too much to ask for that in return. Especially since Swing Lifestyle mail does have a spell check feature built in.

[intuition897]

I hate to say it, and maybe it's unfairly prejudicial, but Mr. intuition and I use the quality of written material as one of our yardsticks. I guess attention to written detail, and care shown in the way they string together their thoughts on paper/screen, just go to show their level of dedication to honing their minds. And while I realize that we aren't getting together to quote poetry or compare notes on the latest book we've read, it just means we have something in common: a respect for knowledge and learning, and a desire to refine one's self intellectually.

I'm as prone to stupid mistakes and typos as anyone, but at least I'm a bit chagrined when they're pointed out to me. One of my pet peeves is the word 'loose'. You don't loose your marbles, people! You LOSE them. There ya go: you lose the second 'o' like one of your marbles. I have seen this mistake made on professionally designed websites.

Spelling and grammar and punctuation may not be that big a deal to some folks, and it may not be their hobby to proofread everything and double-check the grammar. But I just think it is courteous and - let's face it - classy, if someone at least gives it some attention. It makes communicating your idea much more effective. And pleasant.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by intuition897

I hate to say it, and maybe it's unfairly prejudicial, but Mr. intuition and I use the quality of written material as one of our yardsticks.

That is also one of our hangups. I hate it, but I can't help it.

One of my pet peeves is the word 'loose'. You don't loose your marbles, people! You LOSE them. There ya go: you lose the second 'o' like one of your marbles. I have seen this mistake made on professionally designed websites.

My current pet word is "definitely". Probably because at one point I incorrectly spelled it "definately", like many folks do. It sticks out like a sore thumb to me now.

A minor error here and there are no big deal, but we will quickly move on to other ads when we see something like "We lik coupels and bi femals". We could be missing out on some cool people, but we just can't get by that. Our loss I suppose.

Mr two4you
---Reviews his post for errors........

[DGrey]

Bad grammar is my biggest pet peeve!!! I teach English so you can just imagine how much it irritates me. I agree with the comment regarding the Swing Lifestyle profiles as well. I'm sorry, but if you can't manage to string a sentence together using proper grammar, I'm not sharing my bed with you. I can handle misspellings of words because no one is perfect but you're trying to make an impression with a personal ad, it should not be full of computer lingo or IM shortcuts.

E&D

[Alura]

I must admit that we'd rather have a well-written message but there is another side of the coin. Bad grammar/spelling are not always an indication of ignorance.

I went to high school with a fellow who turned in a major report in a physics class entitled, "The Scietiefic Method for Weheing a Car." He got an "A."

Today, with a doctorate, (He's an "energy engineer.) he's engaged in research to bring about an answer to our overreliance on petroleum. Projects include solar energy, thermal energy, and who knows what else???

His spelling hasn't improved over the years but he's still the same talented, personable guy, if a bit grayer.

It might be a good idea to avoid sweeping out a jewel with the dust.

Mr. Alura

[DGrey]

Originally Posted by Alura

Bad grammar/spelling are not always an indication of ignorance.

Ahhh...but it is a sign of ignorance. Ignorance of the basic principles of grammar.

E