Ever had anyone block you without knowing why?

[wolfnblu]

We received an email with interest from a couple, and responded politely something like this, like we always do...."Thank you for the nice email, but we are not interested at this time. We wish you the best of fun and friendship that the lifestyle has to offer!"....and a couple of days later when Wolf clicked on their profile pic, we found out we had been blocked! Kinda made me feel weird/bad, like we had offended them or something by not being interested. I don't think we could have been any more polite in declining them, do you? I just sorta feel bad that there's this "thing" between us and I don't really even know what their deal is.

[AZ Dreaming]

I have never noticed this happening but had a thought......maybe they use the block feature as a "tag" of who they have emailed and those people where not interested. That way they don't accidently email the same people again.

[JnCC]

It's just their quaint little way of saying, "Well, FUCK YOU, too!"

Your "thanks, but no thanks" may have been the latest in a long line of similar responses they've received, probably for the same reasons you declined them. It happens on the vanilla sites as well. What they obviously don't understand, is that sometimes, a gracious response to a "TBNT" letter can be a great opening into a different kind of relationship...one in which sex, (or in my case, romance) isn't on the table, but friendship, and inclusion into the activities of a group of similarly-minded people, IS.

I'm saying this as one who's been on the receiving end of a "butt jab" response, and managed to make some good out of it.

Now that you know how they handle rejection, aren't you glad you didn't meet them in person?

[sexyshelby]

I agree with JnCC, it's a good thing you didn't meet them in person. They could have blocked you for any number of reasons, but since you weren't interested...
I like the suggestion that maybe they blocked you to aid them in knowing who they had emailed. That's a good idea, I might have to start doing that...

~SS

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by AZ Dreaming

I have never noticed this happening but had a thought......maybe they use the block feature as a "tag" of who they have emailed and those people where not interested. That way they don't accidently email the same people again.

I think AZ Dreaming has the right idea, wolfnblu.

Some people throw lots of hooks out in swingland and never remember where they've fished. I know this because we've been on the receiving end and as a result we've blocked a few people out of frustration because they've continued to contact us (either they don't remember having contacted us previously, or they refuse to accept that we are not interested). They send us canned email or worse, just an automated message saying their private pictures are open to us, and they do this multiple times over a period of months. We'll take time to send off a nice little note twice to say we are not interested but on the third time hearing from them we realize that they obviously aren't getting the message. So we help them out by blocking them. Our intention is not to be rude, but to avoid the frustration it is causing us.

The people who blocked you may know their memory won't serve them well, so after receiving a decline to meet, they put you on their block list. So maybe there intention is not to be rude to you, but quite the opposite, maybe they don't want to error by bothering you again. That's a nice way to look at it I think.

LM

[Bonnie&Clyde]

some people cant take rejection but besides, dont pay mind, you didnt liked them to beguiin with! LOL

[pumpkins1970]

We we're blocked by a couple that lives just a few miles away from us. We have no idea why , they have only private pics on their profile, so it leads us to believe we may know them in the vanilla world! They were supposed to be at an event we were going to attend a few weeks ago, but when we put our name on the event list, surpise!, theirs came off! In your case though, they just may have been angry/jealous that you declined their invitation. With an attitude of that nature, you're better off not meeting them I believe.

[Spoomonkey]

My guess would be what AZ Dreaming said. It was probably just way of "book marking" where they had been. If it was more, no sense fretting over it. I can't imagine "no thanks" is something you guys hear very often

Spoomonkey

[Honey_Tampa]

Block people who have said "no thanks" ? Wow that's brilliant! My memory operates about as well as a bicycle in the ocean. Thanks for the idea.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by AZ Dreaming

I have never noticed this happening but had a thought......maybe they use the block feature as a "tag" of who they have emailed and those people where not interested. That way they don't accidently email the same people again.

I think this is probably the reason. Profile pics and paragraphs change so much... this is probably their way of "tagging" a declined profile.

[Chicup]

Heh we have been blocked by people we NEVER talked to on one site, but I think that might be an error due to where their block vrs view key is in chat.

On the other hand I have heard of couples who will 'pre-block' just in case you were THINKING about mailing them.

[WesternSwing]

We've been blocked by recently by a single male that was rude as hell when we respectfully declined him. He sent us a rude email about how I was afraid his bigger dick would please my wife more and that is why we declined him... then he blocked us so that I couldn't respond to his pithy email. I Yahoo'd him anyway, since his Yahoo! addy was in his profile.

The way I see it, even though you may decline now, you will probably see them at some party or club in the future, and who wants that stigma following you... You get known as the "rude" couple. I'd rather be the "fun" couple.

Mr. WS

[Chris&Suzanne]

We have ben blocked by people we have never written or talked to. Will never know why I suppose. Maybe they ment to block someone else and did us in error.

[AZ Dreaming]

Wolfnblu,

I was looking through Swing Lifestyle and I came across a profile that had the mail thing by it. I clicked it, read that they sent us a hello, we sent a no thanks back. I really could not remember why we said no so I clicked on their profile. Guess what? They had us blocked!! Gasp!!

So in answer to your thread, Yes this has happened to us. I just did not know it when I posted on it before!

But instead of feeling wierd about it I thought of you!! Thanks!

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by AZ Dreaming

Wolfnblu,

I was looking through Swing Lifestyle and I came across a profile that had the mail thing by it. I clicked it, read that they sent us a hello, we sent a no thanks back. I really could not remember why we said no so I clicked on their profile. Guess what? They had us blocked!! Gasp!!

So in answer to your thread, Yes this has happened to us. I just did not know it when I posted on it before!

But instead of feeling wierd about it I thought of you!! Thanks!

What you said before makes perfect sense. Morever because once you were declined, there is no apparent motivation from these people to look at your profile again (unless they said "thanks, not now, we're too busy, but we may be interested later"). If they bookmark people this way, also may feel it's ok to be blocked once bookmarked by others, they may be seeing this as a way to help others to keep they bookmarks.

This brings up the question of why you wanted to check their profile again after declining them.