Which partner sets things up online?

[MiCpl]

The question of who's idea was it got me wondering on most couples who is the one who sets up meetings with new couples and makes arrangements for attending clubs and the like?

It seems like most often when we talk to a "couple" on icq or whatnot it's usually the guy we are talking to.

For us it's probably pretty equal. He sets up a lot of meetings with new "potential playmates", but I'm usually the one who makes plans for us to attend clubs or socials or meet up with playmates AGAIN.

[CanadianCouple]

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Originally posted by MiCpl:
The question of who's idea was it got me wondering on most couples who is the one who sets up meetings with new couples and makes arrangements for attending clubs and the like?

It seems like most often when we talk to a "couple" on icq or whatnot it's usually the guy we are talking to.

For us it's probably pretty equal. He sets up a lot of meetings with new "potential playmates", but I'm usually the one who makes plans for us to attend clubs or socials or meet up with playmates AGAIN.

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Who sets things up? Me (Dan). Same goes for trying to establish new contacts via the internet. She does, however, take a more aggressive role when we attend socials.

Dan

[sexypairca]

Ironically, I (the wife) spend more time contacting/screening others. He is always up to date with everything/everyone, but I am more aggressive by nature. It seems to work for us.

"A" the wife

[PA_RACERS]

We look at the ads together and decide who to contact, but I (wife) do all the chatting and setting things up. Hubby is not much of a talker. At clubs and socials people seem to come to us. Well they come to my chest !!!! 40 DDD seem to spark most people curiousity.

[ 05-23-2002, 10:52 PM: Message edited by: PA_RACERS ]

[JustAskJulie]

For us, more often than not I am the one who sets things up. But occasionally he will get a bug in his butt and start posting a few ads himself and next thing I know he's got a few dates set for us.

[Brit_Pair]

Mr Brit tends to do most of the advert sifting . . . once a likely prospect (or two) has been established, then Mrs Brit casts her eye over the details. If we're posting our own advert, then Mrs Brit usually provides the raw material for Mr Brit to translate. When it comes to chatting on MSN or one of the other messengers, then it's probably 75% us together, & 25% Mr Brit by himself.

[bimrdcpl]

When we were looking on the net for other playmates it was always me doing all the chatting and setting up meetings. I always keep Hubby up to date on who was who and he would look at the profiles but for the most part it was me who did all the screening. I ran into the same problem though I always talked to the ohter male. Which is part of why we stopped doing the net thing. To many of them had excuses why the female was never available to chat.


Dawn

[fun_pairTX]

I handle our screening, Mrs sifts through people I have had the time to talk to, we reach an agreement and I handle the arrangements from there. I own my own company ergo I have a lot more free time than she does as she works elsewhere (she knows the boss here is a prick LOL).

[Nymph an' Satyr]

I (satyr) do all the online stuff. Once we are ready to progress to either a phone call, or an actual meeting, the wife takes charge.

I'm rather reserved, shy even, and am quite comfortable hiding behind written words Come the right time, the wife leads the actual charge

It works

[tallchow]

I (wife) work second shift so I let hubby do all the viewing and chatting, then he sets up the meetings, as I am busy through out the day as well. Setting up meetings when you have young children (11 and 9) can be quite challenging. Before my hubby responds to any ad I view the profiles and have the final say on who to reply to, and who not to.

[Brian and Jo]

We do most of our swinging with a regular group of eight couples but from time to time we do look at ads and we have an ad of our own on a couple of boards. If we decide together that we are interested in another couple it is Brian who does the contacting and making the arrangements to meet.

Brian and Jo

[OhioCouple]

We both are involved in setting up new meetings. We never respond to a new contact without both of us being involved and we never contact any new people without both being involved. When they reach the level of friends/playmates, then it doesn't matter which of us are doing the contacting or responding, but we never confirm anything out of courtesy for each other, without discussing it first.

Lori

[naughty A]

I (female half) play the social secretary, pre-screen, contacts, writing, responding to the emails etc. - more free time in front of the computer. Of course we discuss what is going on from a day to day basis so he is kept well informed

sometimes we will sit down and view ads together.... but I do most of the work...

Naughty A.

[Neptune1]

Ms. S always says she looks at a computer to much at work to look at one on the home front. So I, Mr. D with all my internet savvy do the online work. However, like others have said, once the show is on, it's Ms. S that works the magic, I become the wall flower.

D&S

[velbuzz]

Bill usually sifts thru the ads and keeps up the correspondence.
Sue will occaisionally do some on her own, but usually its kibitizing while Bill is typing.