Normal message response times on swinger ad sites?

[Dolphins524]

For those with profiles on Swing Lifestyle and like sites, what have you found to be the normal response times when you've responded to a particular ad? Better yet, how long does it take you to respond if you do at all. I don't like hurting peoples feelings or anything, but I try to respond to every letter we get. Good or bad.
I just can't stand to be left hangin' . At least a simple no thank you or something is better than ignoring. Anyone else feel like this? And if you don't respond, why not?

[junkyard38]

The lack of courtsey to reply is very dishearting. Like a few profiles have stated, why are they on the site if they cannot answer? Another great one, is with your profile matching almost to the letter of there requests, there reply is I do not think we are compatable. It has become a operation in futility, in writing a very nice profile and message. My recomendation is do not get your hopes up to high, for you will only get a response from one in 10 and that will be negative. One needs to build upon the contacts you have made, and create your circle of friends.
There is also the other side many of the profiles are just males LOOKING without there wifes knowledge. WANNABEE'S K and I wish you the greatest sucess in your search, enjoy the friends you have and if a real one comes along it is a bonuse.

[trublujo]

We always respond to our ad replies as quickly as we can either good or bad and i agree not answering someones reply is just plain rude. We are all adults and i totally understand if i am not your "cup of tea" but please get back to us and let us know that... we can take a rejection.

The ones i don't get is when we get a reply to our ad and i write them back and say we love to chat with you hook up to our messenger of your choice and we can see if theres a connection. What happens? Nothing! .... Why reply to our ad if you dont want to see us afterall? I am totally lost on that one.

[xxoticangel]

We plead guilty to slow responses. Sometimes it is days or even weeks before either one of us is able to sit down write a response to our ads. Sometimes life inteferes with living and we just don't have time. If we don't have time to respond we don't even log on to see who wrote.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Well since we are on here (the board) almost everyday unless we are out of town or just extremely busy on a particular day we always check everything. We check with each other to see who has looked at what (the board, email, Swing Lifestyle ad, etc) That way we make sure it's all covered. The only hold up from that point might be a day maybe two to discuss if we are interested and what type of response we are going to send.

We hate it too when we don't get something back. I think we can all take a "sorry your just not what we are looking for" much easier than no reply at all.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[northindycpl]

I am really guilty of slow response times. We get a lot of email on like 2 sites we are on and it is sometimes difficult to find the time for both of us to look at the email and both of us decide how we want to proceed.

I am pretty fast at at least sending a message if I know we are not interested and on those I am really interested in I will often send a "thanks, let me get my husband to look, too, letter."

But even with the best intentions, life can certainly get in the way and with 3 younger kids running around, it can be difficult to pull up those sites in the first place, due to all the pictures.

[good times]

We are kind of slow to respond too, we always respond, one way or the other, but sometimes it takes a few days for us both to read the email, look at the profile, discuss it and formulate a response together.

Originally Posted by trublujo

The ones i don't get is when we get a reply to our ad and i write them back and say we love to chat with you hook up to our messenger of your choice and we can see if theres a connection. What happens? Nothing! .... Why reply to our ad if you dont want to see us afterall? I am totally lost on that one.

I wanted to respond to this because we seem to get this request quite often. When we get a request like this we always respond that we do not do internet chat but would be happy to meet for drinks or something. After we say that we hardly ever hear from them again. So my question is what is the point of chatting on the intenet instead of meeting face to face? I should add here that we don't even have any messenger type software on our computer because we aren't into it at all. My problem with chatting on the internet is that it really doesn't give you much insight into the people you are chatting with so it seems a waist of time to me. If you meet someone in person, on the other hand, it only takes a few minutes of interaction to see if you like the people or not.

[HappyPeople]

Sometimes we run a little slow on replies because we are usually on the net when the other is not around. We usually like to have counsil with the other before responding so sometimes it takes a while for us both to be at the computer at the same time to go over the letter and profile together. We do respond to most, even if it does take a little bit of time.

[WildMiCouple]

I typically respond between a couple days and 1 week. If that's too long for the other couple.....so be it It's not like this is all we do.

Originally Posted by good times

My problem with chatting on the internet is that it really doesn't give you much insight into the people you are chatting with so it seems a waist of time to me. If you meet someone in person, on the other hand, it only takes a few minutes of interaction to see if you like the people or not.

I couldn't agree with you more, Goodtimes. In fact, on our profile, we state "not into chatting or endless emails." A few minutes in person is worth countless times chatting. So we don't chat anymore.....not like we did much before An email or two back and forth, then meet up for drinks, is what we prefer.

Brett

[Dolphins524]

Originally Posted by good times

I wanted to respond to this because we seem to get this request quite often. When we get a request like this we always respond that we do not do internet chat but would be happy to meet for drinks or something. After we say that we hardly ever hear from them again. So my question is what is the point of chatting on the intenet instead of meeting face to face? I should add here that we don't even have any messenger type software on our computer because we aren't into it at all. My problem with chatting on the internet is that it really doesn't give you much insight into the people you are chatting with so it seems a waist of time to me. If you meet someone in person, on the other hand, it only takes a few minutes of interaction to see if you like the people or not.

We sort of have to chat. It's just not convenient to meet all the time. If we like the profile, chat comes next for us. Then maybe a phone call (haven't got that far yet, though).



As far as meeting, have any of you gone to meet someone, only to find out they were f**king with you the whole time. Either they don't show or they do, just to ridicule you?

[Dolphins524]

Originally Posted by WildMiCouple

I typically respond between a couple days and 1 week. If that's too long for the other couple.....so be it It's not like this is all we do.


I couldn't agree with you more, Goodtimes. In fact, on our profile, we state "not into chatting or endless emails." A few minutes in person is worth countless times chatting. So we don't chat anymore.....not like we did much before An email or two back and forth, then meet up for drinks, is what we prefer.

Brett

Care to chat?

[robel12550]

Some of the same issues of consideration seem to apply here as to the question I posed below:

http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...ad.php?t=22094

We take it that people always have something else to do in their lives and this isn't their only "work". There have been times responses don't come for a couple weeks from people we know haven't been on the site within that time. So what? At least they responded. Too bad you're down in FL.

[Carol_Danny]

We typically respond within 24 hours, but we never respond until the both of us has seen the message. We even state that in our profile. We also have a couple of contact rules that we do list in our profile, and if those aren't respected, we do not answer the person back.

The big one is people asking questions when the answer is clearly stated in our profile! I hate that! If your interested enough to contact us, you should at least take the time to read and understand our profile. We are guilty of a fairly in-depth profile, but that developed over the last 8 years based on common questions we were asked.