Online Personal Ads: Why is it so hard to find another couple?

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 08:27 PM

Hubby and I are looking for a couple to help us start out, but when we mail someone they never mail us back... is something wrong with us?

lovedoctor · 10-05-2005, 08:42 PM

If you would like folks to have a look at your ad, you could post the link here. I would be glad to give you some honest feedback, as would most of the good folks on here.

I always reply, even if it is "no thanks" - so I don't know why you would just hear nothing back at all! That's rude!

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 08:50 PM

how do you post your ad? Sorry new to all of this, not sure how it all goes.

lcjtsd · 10-05-2005, 09:09 PM

No, there is nothing wrong. We find looking for someone through the ads is difficult. All you are going by is the picture and a brief description. How many of us really come out looking like we want in a picture?

Personality is the key and the only way you will get to know personality is by meeting them. We find that clubs are much better for finding another couple because you can actually talk to them.

Also, finding another couple where all four of you are interested is not that easy.

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 09:17 PM

We are actually looking for any single bifemale, or a couple... I have heard that clubs aren't good to go to when you first start out... I'm confused

BradAndJanet · 10-05-2005, 09:23 PM

sweetnnasty, what ad sites are you using? I'd be glad to take a look at your ad and give you some feedback.

Or, are you emailing people somewhere else?

-B

lcjtsd · 10-05-2005, 09:24 PM

The clubs here in Vegas are great. Everyone is nice and understands that No Means No. The owners are excellent in enforcing this rule and if anyone gets out of line....they're gone.

As I said before, pictures are only pictures. We find the best way to meet other couples who are interested is to go someplace where there are other couples who are also interested.

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 09:24 PM

I use the Swing Lifestyle site... as sweetNnasty

WesternSwing · 10-05-2005, 09:25 PM

Okay, I read your profile on Swing Lifestyle, and here is my opinion. There is nothing wrong with you. You are just looking for a unicorn. I see from your profile that you are only interested in FF or FMF. It is very, very, very hard to find a single bi-female to play with. Did I mention it is very, very, very hard? You get my point.

We have never successfully met a female from an ad on a swingers site, and only maybe 10% have ever even responded to an email from us. Our theory? Many are guys, specifically pic collectors, posing as females to get to couple's private pics.

However, at parties we do very well with single women that attend. You might try to find the swinger meet and greets and parties (both house and club) in your area and check out the scene that way.

Mr. WS

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 09:29 PM

our ad should say we are looking for bifemale and couples...

BradAndJanet · 10-05-2005, 09:35 PM

Ok, I generally agree with WesternSwing. What you're looking for is hard to find and most couples are going to be a package deal.

There's nothing really wrong with your ad, although some pictures are always good.

I also agree that you might have better luck at clubs and house parties. From what we hae heard, the latter are more 'free for all' and you might run across more ladies who will play on their own.

-B

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 09:37 PM

does anyone else have any opinions?

WesternSwing · 10-05-2005, 09:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sweetnnasty

our ad should say we are looking for bifemale and couples...

You are right, I missed the f/m/f/m part, but it says you are not really interested in sex other then girl/girl.

Quote:

We are not really interested in having sex, other than f/f. We are looking for other couples f/m/f/m, and single or married females looking to do f/m/f.

That is where I got the idea that you were only looking for that. If that is not the case then you might rewrite that part of it. I don't think many wives would leave their hubbies out of the action.

Also, like BradAndJanet said a pic goes a long way. Doesn't need to be R- or X-rated, just a nice PG or G pic will do. Also, be a paid member. Free members look like drive-by swingers.

Okay, that was a good one, admit it.

Mr. WS

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 09:41 PM

I am getting ready to post pics, probably this friday. Thanks for the advice... and I thought our profile said we were into finding couples. Hmmm...

sweetnnasty · 10-05-2005, 09:43 PM

We are going to become paid members, so there is the next step.

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10-05-2005, 08:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Online Personal Ads: Why is it so hard to find another couple? Hubby and I are looking for a couple to help us start out, but when we mail someone they never mail us back... is something wrong with us?

10-05-2005, 08:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
lovedoctor Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 510 Location: Florida - but right now, I'm on tour! Status: M Female Swing Lifestyle Name:Fllovedoctor	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? If you would like folks to have a look at your ad, you could post the link here. I would be glad to give you some honest feedback, as would most of the good folks on here. I always reply, even if it is "no thanks" - so I don't know why you would just hear nothing back at all! That's rude!
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10-05-2005, 08:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? how do you post your ad? Sorry new to all of this, not sure how it all goes.

10-05-2005, 09:09 PM	#4 (permalink)
lcjtsd Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 125 Location: NO LONGER PARTICIPATING!!! Status: Couple	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? No, there is nothing wrong. We find looking for someone through the ads is difficult. All you are going by is the picture and a brief description. How many of us really come out looking like we want in a picture? Personality is the key and the only way you will get to know personality is by meeting them. We find that clubs are much better for finding another couple because you can actually talk to them. Also, finding another couple where all four of you are interested is not that easy.

10-05-2005, 09:17 PM	#5 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? We are actually looking for any single bifemale, or a couple... I have heard that clubs aren't good to go to when you first start out... I'm confused

10-05-2005, 09:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? sweetnnasty, what ad sites are you using? I'd be glad to take a look at your ad and give you some feedback. Or, are you emailing people somewhere else? -B
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10-05-2005, 09:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
lcjtsd Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 125 Location: NO LONGER PARTICIPATING!!! Status: Couple	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? The clubs here in Vegas are great. Everyone is nice and understands that No Means No. The owners are excellent in enforcing this rule and if anyone gets out of line....they're gone. As I said before, pictures are only pictures. We find the best way to meet other couples who are interested is to go someplace where there are other couples who are also interested.

10-05-2005, 09:24 PM	#8 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? I use the Swing Lifestyle site... as sweetNnasty

10-05-2005, 09:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,973 Location: Utah Status: Single Male	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? Okay, I read your profile on Swing Lifestyle, and here is my opinion. There is nothing wrong with you. You are just looking for a unicorn. I see from your profile that you are only interested in FF or FMF. It is very, very, very hard to find a single bi-female to play with. Did I mention it is very, very, very hard? You get my point. We have never successfully met a female from an ad on a swingers site, and only maybe 10% have ever even responded to an email from us. Our theory? Many are guys, specifically pic collectors, posing as females to get to couple's private pics. However, at parties we do very well with single women that attend. You might try to find the swinger meet and greets and parties (both house and club) in your area and check out the scene that way. Mr. WS
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10-05-2005, 09:29 PM	#10 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? our ad should say we are looking for bifemale and couples...

10-05-2005, 09:35 PM	#11 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? Ok, I generally agree with WesternSwing. What you're looking for is hard to find and most couples are going to be a package deal. There's nothing really wrong with your ad, although some pictures are always good. I also agree that you might have better luck at clubs and house parties. From what we hae heard, the latter are more 'free for all' and you might run across more ladies who will play on their own. -B
	__________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us...

10-05-2005, 09:37 PM	#12 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? does anyone else have any opinions?

10-05-2005, 09:41 PM	#14 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? I am getting ready to post pics, probably this friday. Thanks for the advice... and I thought our profile said we were into finding couples. Hmmm...

10-05-2005, 09:43 PM	#15 (permalink)
sweetnnasty Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: West Carrollton, Oh Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sweetNnasty	Re: Why is it so hard to find another couple? We are going to become paid members, so there is the next step.

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