When couples don't send pictures of the man

Hi everyone, like some feedback on this please. Many times we've gotten reponses to our ad or corresponded with couples and they will send a LOT of pictures of the lady but none of the guy. Even most of the ads we might look at with an eye toward responding to have no pictures of the guys or only pictures of his cock. My other half over time has become very offended at this. Bases on her experiences of the couples we have met with that either won't send pictures of the guy or send cock pictures is that they approach swinging as wife swapping. Meaning they seem to treat it as they are swapping wives and the ladies feelings as to attraction and/or equal treatment is unimportant. I'm of the opinion that you shouldn't judge somoene until you've met them but I can understand her feelings on this. In the past we tried sending BOTH of our pictures first and when responding to others ads, asking for them to send pictures of both back. Sadly most push for meeting and express a keen interest in parying with us but we end up with more pictures of the woman. What gives what this? This has now become a real problem for us as she pretty much put any couple in the "no" category that doesn't have pictures of the guy on their ad or doesn't send just a clear and nice a picture of him as her. She does try to stay open to the possibilty that the guy may be respectful and treat women well but if we meet them they will have this handicap to overcome. Any thoughts on this? I personally don't see why this happens so often but I know it does. As a result of this we don't have any ads posted anywhere presently but we are talking about swinging again. I suppose the short answer would be to post an ad saying we will only respond to those who send pictures of both but again...we tried that and got tons of emails and offers with pics attached of hot women and NO guys picture. I seen many comment on this board about what is good for the goose is good for the gander..

[DBL D]

Very interesting question. We state that we want a good photo of the guy but at the same time it is not the end of things if it's not the best photo. It all depends on how you feel. We will not meet someone without having seen him first! Definitely!!!

DBL D

[djjwp]

We demand both in the profile. Too many good looking ladies marry Frankensteins brother. If they can not post both pictures in the profile... NEXT! Too many folks out there to waste time dwelling on the ones that feel OK to post the wife everywhere but not themselves.

[jennandjamesinm]

Dito to DBLD and djjwp...If there arent pics of the man, then its a no go. We won't meet a couple that doesn't show pics of both. And penis pics automatically get delete.

Jenn

[MassPleaser]

We've had a few couple send pics of the woman and not the man, when asked about it a couple of them replied that they assumed we were more interested in what she looked like and not what he looked like, so they didn't take much effort in sending any of him. We won't meet any couples until we see a pic of both either, but with my wife being a bit small and tight we also ask for pics of his cock so she won't run out of the room when she finds out he's way too big for her. Pics aren't everything, but they do help in making a decision to move to the next level.

[Paramour2_99]

That means he wants to keep his identity secret. He dosen't mind sending pics of his partner all over creation but his identity he want to be respectful of. And that he's ugly of course,,,,, Sincerely "X" Swinger

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by Paramour2_99

That means he wants to keep his identity secret. He dosen't mind sending pics of his partner all over creation but his identity he want to be respectful of. And that he's ugly of course,,,,, Sincerely "X" Swinger

Does this apply to every instance of no-guy-pics?

[Sweet_Candy]

For us if you don't have a recent couple's pic you best go elsewhere. We are straight and looking for a couple not a woman. Agree with the beauty and the beast syndrome...

[Chicup]

A lot of attractive women marry ugly guys, but its not always the case with the lack of male picture.

On the other hand, in the cases where you ONLY see pictures of the guy, the woman is most definately ugly.

I still don't get it really, its like using really old pictures, at best it gets you a meeting, you waste the other couples time, and you still don't get laid.

[Paramour2_99]

Originally Posted by intuition897

Does this apply to every instance of no-guy-pics?

More often than not,,,,,, "X" Swinger

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by jennandjamesinm

We won't meet a couple that doesn't show pics of both. And penis pics automatically get delete.

Jenn

Dito Especially on the penis pics ..... all guys have one and I know what they look like :rollseyes

I don't mind if there aren't pics of the guy on their profile but if we start emailing I want to see a face pic or we are not going to waste our time meeting.

We usually want to see pics and have a phone call before meeting because that also rules out a single guy trying to pass himself off as married. It also helps eleminate the married guy trying to cheat, which we have run into. After we meet a "single" guy locally we got to the bar he had a wedding ring and kept saying "our" or "we", etc. We said "bye-bye" and let him know the reason

I would just suggest after you email just let them know if they can't send pics of both then wish them good luck in the lifestyle and say good-bye. Don't waste your time.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by Paramour2_99

More often than not,,,,,, "X" Swinger

Hmmm. Sounds like a poll in the making.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Chicup

A lot of attractive women marry ugly guys, but its not always the case with the lack of male picture.

On the other hand, in the cases where you ONLY see pictures of the guy, the woman is most definately ugly.

If we started a list of the "Top 50 Things You Should Know About Ad Profiles" this would definitely have to go in it!

LM

[two4youinswva]

We really haven't experienced a problem with this.

But, we aren't hooking up much on line anymore either.

Seems like more and more, we're finding our fun at the club we attend.

No hiding your face there!

[SW_PA_Couple]

JoAnn and I have had just enough experience with meeting people through Web sites to see a significant correlation. A couple who post an advertisement having at least one picture showing the both of them together are much more likey to become friends and partners. We have learned to save time and effort by ignoring those who post pictures of only one person or pictures of only private parts. We are not, after all, looking for a date with a dick and a boob.

Michael