Where are the pictures of the male on profiles?

[ENVIOUS]

Is it just me or do most of you find that when searching this and other sites. That most, if not all the pics are of the women. Leaving you having to persue only to find that the male portion is not what the female image lead you to hope for. I know I sound horrible for saying this, but its frustrating. Where are the attractive men. Why arent the men pics readily available as the female seems to be. We would find it so much more enjoyable to search when we could see equally images of both halfs. Am I alone here? Please Help me understand.
Thanks You.. Surrender

[dutch51]

We'd like to see more pics of the men, too- and not the genital shots either. We like seeing pics of the females, but since we're looking for couples, we want to see what they both look like. We have pics of the both of us on our profiles, but it seems like too many profiles only show one half. So long as they're willing to send pics to us, or turn on a cam if they one or something to show us what they look like, we're alright with it, but it sure would be nice to see a picture to begin with.

[northindycpl]

I have this same complaint- about us!

Mr. Indy loves to take pictures of me and with the exception of our face pics that are private, there are very few of him. It would be nice if I were as good at photography as he to take more of him. It does seem that we are the couple that you are complaining about. LOL

[fun_pairTX]

Looking at the situation realistically through my warped and tinted glasses, you have presented a great question. The answer is simple, most guys think "who would want to look at me when I have a wife that is HOT" Mrs Fun far exceeds me in the looks department and seeing I am the nearest genetic match to a Kodiak bear for a human being, that is a pretty good thing. Women are sleek like big wild cats, they are curved with soft lines like a fine European sports car. Men on the other hand are utilitarian, like a Jeep.

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by fun_pairTX

. Women are sleek like big wild cats, they are curved with soft lines like a fine European sports car. Men on the other hand are utilitarian, like a Jeep.

That was too cute!!
I agree though..I want to see what the male half looks like too, after all isn't that where the most of my interest resides?

[Just_us49]

This has a been a big complaint of ours too. It can end up wasting a lot of time. You contact someone only to ask to see the male and then wish they would have had a pic on the site...you wouldn't have emailed.


We have one body shot of me just to give folks an idea of my build, color of fur, etc.

-D

[northindycpl]

I think that men should atleast provide a picture of their body and eventually one of their face. The rest of the pictures can be of the wife.

I really do like to see a couple shot, too. I think it is really nice to see how the couple looks together.

[guitarlover]

Originally Posted by fun_pairTX

Looking at the situation realistically through my warped and tinted glasses, you have presented a great question. The answer is simple, most guys think "who would want to look at me when I have a wife that is HOT" Mrs Fun far exceeds me in the looks department and seeing I am the nearest genetic match to a Kodiak bear for a human being, that is a pretty good thing. Women are sleek like big wild cats, they are curved with soft lines like a fine European sports car. Men on the other hand are utilitarian, like a Jeep.

I'm interested in seeing what people's faces look like, a lot more than checking out bods. "Hey, you know what, they look like us, normal in every way, and not porn star hot!" (With a few exceptions) And it's those normal average people that actually turn us on the most.
But, being the discreet beginners that we are, we're not posting either of our pictures just yet, because of the so many nosey men that my woman works around. I'm sure that some of them check out this site, and she doesn't want our interests here to be found out, nor, does she want to go there with them.....Ya know, keep it out of the work place! But, she certainly attracts men just fine, thank you very much. They've always been interested in her, and she loves the attention.
There's something weird that you probably notice on TV. Rarely if ever do they show a handsome looking man, but, always show 'babes' in near un-dress on many shows and commercials. The guys usually look like dweebs, overweight, etc. My woman constantly complains about that, and she's absolutely right on! She deserves to be able to see a man's naked torso if she wants to. She considers a man's body to be beautiful, too.
And, I don't remember the cable show, but, I do remember seeing a shapely womans butt being showed, but, the guy's butt was fuzzed out of focus. Is a woman's ass sexy, but, a man's is obscene? Such a double standard out there.

Just to let you know, my woman loves hair on men unless you look like a Sasquatch (sp?), and frankly, I wish that I had more than I do, just for her pleasure. But, she doesn't really mind...
P.S. She also OWNS a Jeep CJ7! LOL

[ALilOEverything]

Originally Posted by ENVIOUS

Is it just me or do most of you find that when searching this and other sites. That most, if not all the pics are of the women.

The very first days when I was searching the ad sites this bothered me a lot. I started wondering if swinging was really more for the men than women. I pictured all these men trying to hook up a swing date by using their wifes as bait or the selling point. I worried the women were only in it to make their husband's happy. Now mind you this was the first couple days.

Then I found the swingersboard which has taken all those kinds of notions right out of my head and I realized the women were just as equally involved and interested and had no problem having all these pictures of themselves out there. Now I'm curiuos if it's because women enjoy being photographed more than men. We have all these sexy outfits to show off and we love to pose in front of our husbands so they know how hot we are. He was constantly pulling out the camara and I loved to indulge him. Now my husband felt silly having his picture taken, you would never see him acting all sexy around the house where I would think to take out the camara. The only pictures I have of him are either with me or with the kids. If I ask him to strike a pose for me him he would remember something he needed to be doing at the moment.

Hence we always had more pics available of me than him. I did take a couple of him alone but that was like pulling teeth.

[Zoe&Wash]

I think what we're dancing around here is the fact that most women are simply incapable of operating anything more complex then a variable speed vibrator.

W!

(W ducks and runs for cover ala a 1950s atomic attack training film)

[DBL D]

Well, we have about an equal amount (25% me and 75% her) of ourselves...and a few of us together with and without our faces. I think people can see what we look like and what we look like with and without our clothes on. Still, I have been asked to provide more photos of myself. I don't get it!!!!

I think the most important thing is to have photos that show what you currently look like. I know we have a couple shots on ours that WE really like that are about 2 years old but we also have those that are very recently taken.

Male D

[Dynamar]

I'm single, and looking for couples. More than anything, I want to see g-rated pix of the couple together, preferably side by side. My goal is to meet healthy couples with solid relationships... a good picture can say a thousand words about how they feel about each other. If a couple only has individual pix... that just doesn't give me the initial bit of information I'm seeking.

[guitarlover]

Originally Posted by Dynamar

I'm single, and looking for couples. More than anything, I want to see g-rated pix of the couple together, preferably side by side. My goal is to meet healthy couples with solid relationships... a good picture can say a thousand words about how they feel about each other. If a couple only has individual pix... that just doesn't give me the initial bit of information I'm seeking.

Excellent point Dynamar.

[robnnikki]

We completely agree. It is so irritating to read a profile that seems appealing but there are no pics at all. Its understood that appearance isnt everything, but for us and by the sounds of it there are others, attraction of some form IS required. Especially when looking for "play mates" . It is also agreed that there should be more face pics. We know that there are many people that are terrified that someone will find them on here, we think of it this way. If a co worker is on this site checking everyone out then they must be interested in the swing life also. I guess it comes down to not giving a rats booty what other ppl think. This makes us happy and thats what counts.

[DBL D]

We don't put any identifiable pix on our ad that are available to the public. When (and if) we get a response we usually will send as the first pic one of our faces with clothes on. If that works and we have a good feel for the other couple then we will start sending some others one at a time. I will admit though that some couples are sooo appealing we will open all our pix right away...hopefully with a warning that some of them are explicit! We've not had any bad responses to our photos. The "no clicky" will usually happen after we send the clothed full body and face shot. Everyone is different!

I will say that we don't usually spend any time looking at ads without pix so we don't really know how nice they may seem. I mean why would you want to set yourself up for a "thanks, but no thanks" because a couple asks for your pic and then you are told that?

We think and operate under the conclusion that people will really only be attracted to your profile if you show a shot or two, that is why we do it...although living in a very conservative area of our state has something to do with it.

Male D