Pics, to block face or not?

[robnbarb]

I was reading about bob and sandy and thier new profile, we just started a profile and have yet to add pics. SO I am wondering if we should block out our faces on them in some manner.

The bockout is no biggy for me, I have expernce with many of the ways in photoshop and I got to thinking it would be good not to have people seeing us who might not need to (ie local people who have no bussiness knowing what we do).

However one thing is that I feel our faces our the best asset we both have. Also I have noticed alot of people seem to think it is no big deal.

Basicly any advice on this would be helpfull. thank you.

We use to show our faces but not anymore.

We had someone we know from the vanilla world join Swing Lifestyle. We had no idea he was into the lifestyle. Anyway we have no interest in him at all and there is more...

We had some good friends go thru a divorce. We tried to stay neutral but they kept making us try and choose sides.

Now "the wife" from the couple considers mrs naughty and I the "bad guys". And does not have anything good to say about us.

Enter the guy who joined Swing Lifestyle....
She,'the wife", started hanging out with this guy when she was going thru her divorce. So we know him thru her. its the only time we have ever seen him. So she bad mouths us to him. He does not know us and takes her word for it. He sees us on Swing Lifestyle. He points us out to her. Thsese two hang out together alot and it would not surprise me at all if she knows what he is up to.

Not good.
She is the type of person who would tell EVERYONE and discretion is a MUST for us. And we believe she would tell everyone not because she didnt know any better but just for spite.

So now we have pics with no faces. except our private pics.
It got a little to close to home.

[biblonde]

We block all the pics that are seen to everyone just because of my husbands job. It wouldnt go over to well there. In our private pics we dont cover our faces. Aslo in the public viewing pics there are none of him and very little of me just in case. Just one of our safety things. He builds mostly schools for a livining and the districts arent to keen on different choices of sex life. If we want to meet someone then we will allow them to see who we are.

[LikeMinds321]

We used to show my face, but kept my husband's private.

We no longer show my face. Instead we use a g-rated torso picture as the default.

Just as with Mr&Mrs-naughty, discretion is paramount to us so we've decided to play on the side of caution.

Once you open our profile there is a g-rated picture of us together with our faces blocked. We feel this gives a general idea of our physiques and people usually like to see a picture of the couple together--we do.

We have a number of private g-rated pictures that we make availble to others once we feel they're for real and after we have determined we are interested in them. We also expect pictures of them.

LM

[robnbarb]

Thank you to everyone you are makeing my job so much easier. I think I will block the faces for the discression issue you have all stated. I will be sure to post the link to our profile once I have found suitble pics.

[ALilOEverything]

Just do what you feel comfortable with. Are you okay with people recognizing you? I don't mind having mine out there, even when someone contacted us she didn't recognize me and it wouldn't have been a big deal if she had. I keep my husband's private because of his job, they don't know me well at his work and don't even recognize me in person. Maybe put them out there blocked and see how it goes, you can alwalys change your mind later.

[ore_cpl4fun]

There are lots of valid reasons to block out your faces (work, school, faith, community, family, etc.) but at the end of the day it's all about your own comfort level. We choose to block ours out, and we know that means some people will pass us by, but heck, you can't win them all, lol. And once we chat and establish that we don’t know each other in the vanilla world, we’re quick to chare pics without faces .

For us, the risk of discovery by someone we'd rather not know about our private activities outweighs any (potential) reward.

DnA

[ALilOEverything]

Well I can officially say that I've been recognized this evening, by one of my co-workers It was really cool to me, gave us something in common instantly. Now I wonder who else around me has a little secret Three total that we've known prior, but this is the first that recognized me from a pic, and even then she wasn't sure. It still doesn't make me uncomfortable Yet!

For me its not feeling uncomfortable, it has to do with my job in a BIG way. Personaly I don't give a shit who knows if it would not affect my job.

[DBL D]

Fabulous Topic!

I suppose we should be more discreet. We don't show faces in the shots that are available to the public. We do in our privates. My job is of paramount importance but I have always been more trusting than most, and thus will take a chance or two. Probably should rethink it. I'm pretty good in photoshop but just never considered it an issue. There are some you may meet that won't contact you again unless you are willing to "prove" yourself.

Come to think of it, we haven't had what I'd call more luck doing it that way than not showing any faces.

That shouldn't be the only solution available. If they can't understand the need to be discreet then I guess we should.

Leads me to another topic though...Why do so many "Couples" only show the lady? Even generic shots of guys seem few and far between. When we ask for shots of the Mr., some people just don't understand why we can't see what he looks like from that "shaded-face, bright-sun, small-image shot!"

Could it be that most folks out there just really aren't real enough?!

Is there a site out there that allow you to have several different photo albums to allow people to see in the various levels of privacy? Maybe like for the public-just torsos; For privates-everything but not faces; and for those you trust-your faces. I need ideas!!!!

And why do some people not have any photos at all?

Sorry for rambling and changing the subject on ya.

Male D

Posted by DBL D

Leads me to another topic though...Why do so many "Couples" only show the lady?

Its the lady that gets the attention. If you look at couple profiles 9 out of 10 are straight men & Bi-curious or Bi women.

Since most of the couples are BOTH looking at the woman it makes sense to show the woman as the default.

We actualy tested this theory once. We put a pic of both of us as our default (instead of just Mrs Naughty) and didnt really notice a difference in messages we recieved. They still came pretty regularly. No more , no less.
Then we put one of just me as a default: 0 mail
Talk about a blow to the ego!! So we put Mrs naughty back up as our default.

We show both of us in our private pics. Including our faces. But even our private pics are "G" rated. We have one that is "PG13". But thats about it. We figure if someone is serious about meeting those pics will be enough.

[DBL D]

Thank you for that, Mr. Naughty, I guess my question was more about how come when asked for photos of the Hubby they seem reluctant to send one....even a "g" rated one.

I agree that the girls are interesting but we won't usually go any further until Fem D is satisfied that the man looks good to her.

Anyway, like I said...another topic.

Hey did anyone notice that we're over 100 posts?

Just did myself!

Male D

[LikeMinds321]

Congratulations DBL D on making it over 100 posts!

Another reason I feel woman usually show up in the profile pics more than their men, the guys are the ones holding the camera...someones got to do it.

As silly as this sounds, it is a technical fact for many couples. It's not always easy to find someone to take pictures of you together.

Couples generally like to see the couple together in the picture, which is why we worked hard to get a few shots we liked.

We had to get out a tripod that wasn't tall enough to take a picture of us at the right angle so we had to find a way to raise it up--not easy--and then get the darn timer to work on the camera.

I took pictures of Mr LM and they are shared when we choose to show them. Our reason for keeping him protected more than myself is his job.

LM

[WesternSwing]

We do show are faces in our G-rated pics because if someone did recognize us we'd have to ask them "what the hell were you doing there?"... But right now the Mrs. is in the job market, so we may have to change our public pics just in case she would be discriminated against by some vanilla with a kink and a pious attitude.

Mr. WS

[JustAskJulie]

Personally, I would say that if you believe your face is your best asset physically then either show it or don't post any pics and just send them out to those you are seriously interested in meeting. There are people out there who will actually read ads without there being pictures attached and truth be known you are likely to weed out lot more of the fakes by not posting pics.