Are pictures worth 1000 words?

[nikkisguy]

We are new to the lifestyle and have been registering on sites here and there to see what's out there. Well for about 3+ weeks now we have had not one email sent to us or any replies to the ones that we sent. All of a sudden we decided to post a few pics on our profiles because we are getting more comfortable with having images out there on the net. Not 2 days after posting them we have gotten about 15 emails and a few chat requests. I guess that leads to the title question "Are pictures worth 1000 words?" Is it the profile of the couple that most of you are interested in or do you base it on the looks of the couple that sparks your interest?

[BradAndJanet]

When I was cruising Swappernet and Swing Lifestyle, I must admit that I would only look at profiles with pictures.The search features of the site make it easy to do that. If somepone contacted us, however, I would consider writing back even if they had no pictures. There's no particular reason I did it that way; I guess I just like looking at the sexy people!

-B

[twohotblondes]

You are right..we always look at the cpls pictures first,then we read if we have some things in common ..so looks are impotant..

facelick Surrender :rollseyes

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by nikkisguy

Is it the profile of the couple that most of you are interested in or do you base it on the looks of the couple that sparks your interest?

A picture is the first thing to catch your attention, so certainly a picture is worth 1000 words.

Once I decide to read the profile, HOW THE PROFILE IS WRITTEN IS MORE IMPORTANT than the picture. But realize this, I open ads with pictures before ones without.

I am hesitant to contact a couple without a picture if they don't mention in their profile that they'll send a picture on request.

A thought to share about all the contacts you've received: Some people send out e-mails of introduction without ever having read your profile. It can feel good at first--getting all those e-mails--but some people send out e-mails without much thought; you may never hear from them again, or they will be chat-seekers who don't have a serious interest in meeting.

Welcome to the board!

Keep us posted on how your search progresses.

LM

[devonsgirl]

Hi all,
I am the Nikki of "Nikkisguy" and I wanted to add a little something to the post that my honey made here. Even though my guy was the one that posted this, now that he mentioned it, I am guilty of doing that as well. Just sort of passing the profiles without pics. I guess it's just human nature. People tend to be very visual. I know I am most of the time. But I have started looking at more profiles no matter what because you never know what you are missing...

[couplefromma]

We have found that if you only look at the pics sometimes you miss a great couple or a newbie couple who want to be taught something new but are still too shy to post pics.

Also if you are looking for more then just the sex (ie friendship as we do) then you need to look past the pics and look at personality as well

[nikkisguy]

Baby we already talked about that.. I have a tendency to look for something attractive with everyone that I look at. I guess it was the upbringing.

[Chika]

Funny because this is always a source of amusing conversation between Cap and I. I tend to read profiles first looking for some indication that the individual/couple are interesting and might have something in common with us (besides the obvious). Having done that, I do look at pics because they tend to give clues as well. While we're not the shape and size we were in our twenties, we do find ourselves drawn to some people and not to others in part by a response to their pics.

I'd also have to say that while sexy pics are great and pics where at least another couple appears involved are terrific, profiles that only contain pics of genitalia generally hold no interest. We're just assuming that all the body parts are there! lolol

Now....Cap looks at pics first. If the couple/person have little to say, he's not as likely to lose his interest in them. He leaves it to me to be his "screener" I guess. lolol

Pics also help us feel more comfortable that we are communicating or about to communicate with a real couple/person. Believe it or not, we have found pics on people's profiles that they hold out to be themselves when in fact, we've seen that same pic on a porn site, clearly identified as a totally different person. (Cap has a remarkable eye and memory!! ).

Chika & Cap

[JustAskJulie]

I have to agree with BradandJanet.... when I was actively looking at ads, I would look for ads with pics. But if someone contacted me/us that didn't have pics in their ad I would still respond and talk with them. Oddly I think I have met more people without seeing their pics than with.

[Spoomonkey]

If you are going to play primarily on the internet, then posting pictures is the only way to go. We don't post pics, but then again our main avenue of play is through a local club. The internet is just a nice little "surprise" every now and then.

The funny thing is, I tend to look at pictures, too, when I go to Swing Lifestyle. We rarely (like two times ever) e-mail anyone from that site to initiate friendship, but we will scan it now and then to see if someone strikes us as interesting. Pictures grab my attention pretty quick. If the internet is your play place, then you need to be comfortable with pics.

Spoomonkey

[stoutgatte]

Dito

Pics grab attention... We had a profile on without pics with little action, but once we included pics we got flooded... When we were repying, the profiles with pics got our attention first, but we did reply to those without pics...

[JettyCouple]

Letters from people without photos get polite, but short replies. We only take things further with people that have photos posted (preferably, with at least one photo of the couple together). They can be G-rated, but we like to see who it is we're corresponding with. We post recent pics on our site profiles, so we expect the same courtesy.

[ALilOEverything]

Okay, after this thread I decided to have a public picture of myself that was taken last night. We don't get a lot of response to our ad and I've always known having public pictures has a lot to do with it. We did have a couple private ones. So I took a picture that hubby took of me last night before the social and made it public. I'm almost feeling a little overwhelmed. It's so funny because people who wouldn't give us the time of day before are now asking to get to know us more. I guess a picture IS worth a 1000 words.

[JettyCouple]

That's great...congrats. Very nice, by the way. Now, if you want more responses, post one of the hubby, too. Ladies like to see what the male half looks like, as well.

[ALilOEverything]

thank you yeah, that's the plan. Actually we had one of each of us in our private pictures. I want to take a new updated one of him tomorrow and just get rid of the private ones.