Safe time to send pics out

[akamgaxoxo]

Hi Guys! As you all know we are a very new cpl to all of this, and we have just put our ad out there. Great responses so far and even potential meet up coming here soon. However we are a little frightened by putting our pic with our ad. At least for the time being. My hubby jokes that he doesn't want to be accidently fixed up with his dad!! haha
Our question is, when is it safe to put up your picture? G rated is our preference. Or is it better to leave a picture off and go with the flow until someone is interested in you? Should we send the pic off to their personal email account instead?

[HotCoupleGnS]

We don't have any face oics on our ad. We have a picture with our faces blurred out. We send the same face pic w/o the faces blurred out to their personal email addy. We also have some X rated pics on our ad, but again no faces on them.

[akamgaxoxo]

I kinda like that approach myself...I think it is my hubby that is the most worried. Tonite I will show him what you guys did with yours...Thanks!! :-)

[HotCoupleGnS]

You are welcome! facelick

[sensuality]

We have pics of us together that we made private...and we don't attach them to e-mails.Private pics are a bit harder to copy,I even tried to print them to see what happens and the page comes out blank.But, watch out for free members and what are called looky loos!...we had one guy copy and send us one of the pics he could see{it wasn't private and thank God it wasn't of my face} just because we wouldn't allow him to see anymore pics until we saw a pic of him.So, he got pissed off Psycho!So, we've since blocked free members.Our opinion is,on Swing Lifestyle it is soooo cheap to join...if they can't or won't pay the fee,why should they be allowed to see anything else???
Just our opinion!

[akamgaxoxo]

Ha that is funny, we just signed up 2 days ago and are still in consideration as to if we want to pay or not. For us it's a matter of budget (we are on one income) but I worry about that looky loo thing too! Plus there still is so much out there that is for free....I think we will take the Blanked out face approach for any we post with our ad and if we feel comfy maybe we'll talk about sending it in email....

[HotCoupleGnS]

We don't worry about free members. B/c it is cheap, even psychos can be paid members. We were paid members, but our membership time ran out. We will be paid members again, but we're aren't aure when. This swingling lifestyle sure does add up!

[Handyman69]

As far as free members go on Swing Lifestyle.....we are. We are paid members on swappernet but can't justify paying every site we go to. I guess we lose a few that skip over us because of that but still get enough replies to keep us busy getting to know the couples. I skip over ads with-out pictures as I guestion there interest and don't have time.
John

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by akamgaxoxo

My hubby jokes that he doesn't want to be accidently fixed up with his dad!! haha

Funny. Very funny. My dad is recently divorced from my stepmother and he did an ad on AFF, and had me scan and upload some G-rated pics of him for his ad. I was worried about him seeing our profile on there, but, since he is looking for single baby-boomer women he probably never will because we won't come up on a search or "recent matches" list. If he finds out? No big deal. He is open-minded enough that my now ex-stepbrother and sister-in-law even brought their "girlfriend" to Thanksgiving dinner one year.

We have had G- and PG-rated pics on our profiles from day one. It's not a big deal to us. I'm not a politician, and the way I see it if anyone we know sees our pics I'll ask "why were you looking there?"

Mr. WS

[sensuality]

Good Lord...
I hope I didn't offend anyone about the whole free member thing
And...yes,paid members can be just as psychotic But, it is still pretty cheap to join...so, that's my whole stance on this thing

I recently blocked free members because every nut we've had to block or deal with has been a free member. I understand that being paid doesn't mean much, but at least it's an extra step & expense for them.

[BradAndJanet]

There are all kinds of ways to go here and it's really up to what you personally feel comfortable with. Think about the worst case scenario, i.e. what would happen if someone saw it or copied it? If you can live with that, then go for it.

We've had no pictures, G-rated pictures and R-rated pictures. We got more mail with the pics, and it didn't seem to matter if they were G or R. Of course, we never actually met anyone who wrote us (which is a whole other story ), so it's hard to tell if it increased the quality of the responses.

-B

[ionsawmill]

Don't feel safe just because your pictures are "private". Anyone with some computer know-how can get around those things. If they can see it on their screen, they can find a way to download it or screen-capture it.

Also be careful about what's in the background of your pics. A view of a local landmark can be a tool for a stalker to find your hometown. I've even seen (too many times to count) pictures of people's relatives on the walls in their pictures. Is your car in the picture? Can you read the license plate? If so, anyone can track you down.

I have only obscured pictures on profiles and ads. Our only non-obscured photos are on our website, behind password protection. The adult pictures are behind two different passwords and anything showing sexual contact is behind three layers of password protection. We only give out passwords to people we've gotten to know well enought that we consider them a viable swing prospect, and then only in stages. People get our G-rated password first. If they don't turn into psycho-freaks, then they get R-rated pics. We change the passwords regularly, as various contacts do or do not work out.

A word of caution: if you put pictures on a personal web site, put something called a redirect file in the directory with the pictures. A folder full of pictures can easily be accessed by cutting the end off of a URL, so the redirect can be set to send people back to your webpage. It keeps someone from rooting around in your directories looking for stuff. A simple redirect file contains this text.

Just name it "index.html" and put it in the folder with your pics. In fact, it's a good idea to have one of these in any subdirectory that doesn't have an index file.

Having said all of this, at some point, you just have to make a decision how important it is to you to keep your anonymity. If you're serious about staying anonymous, don't even take pictures, much less store, post or email them.

[akamgaxoxo]

I love all the info that you gave Ionsawmill and will be sure to show this to the hubby as he knows all this info and computer dealy! Thank you for the insight!

[ionsawmill]

No problem. I've had a website up for about 2 years now and I've (fingers crossed) never had any problems. I also haven't shown up in any of the major search engines, which is another thing you want to watch out for. Email me privately for tips on staying out of the search engines (Google, Altavista, Lycos, etc).