"Is He Hung?"

[Weezie]

This might relate to another thread, but I had to come here and get this off my chest. We have had several new couples contact us online thru profiles we have posted. We chat with them online to see if there's a connection first. One of the very first questions asked is, "is he hung?". Does this seem a bit crude to y'all? Seems like all they care about is size (even the size of my breast or the tightness of my vagina), not that we are lacking by any means. This just turns us off!

[Firemaster]

Since we are new to the site.. and to the lifestyle. I can say that I would not ask that. I haven't talk to anyone yet, since I don't really know how to start the conversation. But I agree that is very crude, and unattractive.

Thanks
D and B

[Brit_Pair]

To us, it seems crude, but then that's our take on the issue. Others may not be bothered in the same way. All that really matters is what you think. If you encounter anything that doesn't appeal to you, then base your reaction on how you feel, and not on what might work for others.

[IndyGirl2004]

Oh it's crude and rude. I bet it's just young horny teenagers. If it's really adults, then heaven help us!

[wrnakedru]

A question like that right off the bat from others would sure tell me that it's highly unlikely we're going to have enough in common that I would be interested in meeting them.

In fact, [just me and my smart mouth] I would be tempted to answer something along the lines of "Oh, sorry. Didn't realize you were trophy trolling. Actually, we're here because he has such a teenie weanie, I'm trying to find satisfaction somewhere."

Of course, hubby might not be amused at me putting out word like that regarding him. [especially since it is NOT true]

But I agree with you, folks that are actually 'measuring' their attraction to potential playmates based on this are just short-sighted. [sorry, my bad!]

wrnakedru

[Alura]

I'll agree with Indy Girl and go with the "teenager" theory.

If there are adults in the life style who would ask that, we doubt they'd have sufficient "good points" to become playmates.

On the other hand, it's really not so different from asking how much you weigh or how tall you are, is it?

Mr. Alura

[leftcoastcouple]

Sounds pretty typical--in reverse--of what you see posted on AFF. There's tons of ads stating things such as "Don't bother to respond unless you're at least x inches," etc.

Yet, I've not encountered it in the numerous emails we've received through there, regardless of whether we were the party approaching or being approached.

Crude--and shallow--indeed.

[IndyGirl2004]

You could always say "screw you" but I don't think that'd be quite the correct response, do you?

[Alura]

Originally posted by IndyGirl2004
You could always say "screw you" but I don't think that'd be quite the correct response, do you?

Our late business partner, Suzy, used to say, "Fuck 'em? Nah, that's too good for 'em! DON'T fuck 'em!"

Mr. Alura

[MIbbwcpl]

I think that is really out of line, but best to know early on someone is like that than to get all hot and bothered...just about to jump in and have some fun and find them telling you 'no way, you're too ____.' .

[sharp1]

very crude

[Vjklander]

Crude by golly, but at least you're not wasting your time.
And you got a good laugh. That's more than can be said for a lot of the comedians running around today.
J

[lookin_forfun65]

They'd get the ignore button fairly quick after that type of crudeness. So far, we haven't encountered that, but we're still in the newbie category, so now I will be prepared for it.

Wish I could come up with a humorous response.....

[Spoomonkey]

I don't mind people asking - if they don't mind me lying...



Just kidding - I'm okay, I guess... But while I am aware that a big penis can be fun (NOT by personal experience) - obviously chemistry, spark, passion, and all those other things that connect people make an encounter unforgetable.

Besides - with the advent of "cyber-skin" why bother meeting real people at all? For the price of that first dinner meeting, "trophy trollers" (thanks wrnakedru!) could go out and get a nice fakey and never have to bother getting to know real people at all...

Spoomonkey

[b_and_sc]

I HATE those kinds of emails and instant messages!! I find it a huge turn off. We were contacted by a couple who asked if we'd like to do a web cam chat so we agreed and when we showed up, it was like she expected a Gyn exam.....ugh

bon