Does size matter to the guys.

[wiscpl]

I have a question for the guys here. When you are swinging with other couples does the size of the man your woman is with determine if you keep swinging with them?

Reason I ask this is we swung with a couple whom we seemed to get along great with. After our first encounter we learned from his wife that he had asked about my size. She said while he had me in the girth department I was a bit larger in length. (I'm only slightly longer than average) From then out he didn't seem interested in swinging with us which showed in our second and final encounter.

Ladies your opinions count as much as the mens. What do you think?

[BradAndJanet]

It doesn't make a difference to me, as long as J's happy with it.

-B (who assumes we're talking penis size here, )

[Roxysbayou]

Size does not matter to me either. As long as you know what to do with, who cares.

[jen]

The size of his heart counts.

For Bob123...the size of his wallet does not. The size of his attitude about his wallet does.

The size of his character counts.
The size of hs brain counts.
The size of his attention span counts.
The size of his sense of humor counts.

These things and many more do count. In no particular order.

Of course, all of these things count in or out of her favor as well.

Under assumptions of the size of a particular zone counting...whose counting?

[wiscpl]

I'm happy to see people are expanding this to more than the size of a tool (Insert "Tool time laugh here") Specifically I meant the size of his penis. Do you think this makes some guys jealeous?

[jen]

Anything can cause jealousy. In anyone. So yes. And I still have all three life lines

[Perseus]

Originally posted by wiscpl
I'm happy to see people are expanding this to more than the size of a tool (Insert "Tool time laugh here") Specifically I meant the size of his penis. Do you think this makes some guys jealeous?

Jealeous or humiliated... Small minded (or small ego'd) either way... Especially in a swinging environment. Those feeling don't belong in the lifestyle IMHO....


Cheers,
Perseus

[OhioCouple]

Size doesn't matter to me in the respect of either length or girth. I've got a pretty good grip going on down there.

What does matter is how they use it. I really can't take much over 6 inches without it becoming painful, especially when the guy is aggressive with it.

As for the jealousy issue. I think men are very sensitive about their penis size and tend to judge themselves against others. I've often wanted to be a fly on the wall in a men's restroom that had a row of 6 urinals, all in use, just to watch how they act. I can see it now....Staring straight ahead, never looking up down or around!

Funny story. We were in Martinique several years ago and walking through one of their city parks. Hubby had to go to the restroom and proceeded to go into the men's outdoor facility. Within in seconds he came flying out, grabbed me by the arm and led me to a wooded area so that I could cover for him as he urinated. Seems there was a fellow in there at the urinal next to him (there were only two) that couldn't keep from ogling his manhood. So, I've actually had to take a grown man potty before!

[tinceltoes]

Size does matter to me. When my husband and I go out, we do the usual routine on visiting cpl. first then go from there on the next visit to a motel. I am a person who likes both oral and intercourse but lately with the past 3 men I only got oral because the men were too small to perform otherwise down below. I guess I was lucky to get that.

I always think after going through 3 men and their size I have a curse put on me so my self-esteem is down because I think I will get the same all the time. I can not just sit there while on the first visit have the male pull down his pants and show me what his package looks like. I do not like the idea of reading measurements online because numbers are deceiving. Just like a pic. Ug!

What is a swinger wife to do with this problem?

Tinceltoes

[turnuptheheat]

the past 3 men I only got oral because the men were too small to perform otherwise down below

Too small to perform?
I don't get it. By whose definition were they too small? What is too small to you?
Are we talking 6" but you required more or were they unable to raise a stubbie at all?
I hope you regain the self esteem, but wonder how their's is after being "too small" to get some?

[tinceltoes]

When you have men who are no bigger than 5 inches and girth size of a hotdog, I can not enjoy myself. As for how the men feel, I am not them so I can not tell you.

Thanks for your input.

Tinceltoes

[Chris&Amelia]

Well, I'm of average size and girth (or so I've been told), about 6 inches long. Most of the guys we've been with have been more or less my size... but I guess that's the definition of "average".

The average adult penis, according to the Kinsey Institute, measures just under six inches when erect. Most men -- about eighty-seven percent -- are between five and seven inches. Dr. Alfred Kinsey found that the largest reported penis was a bit more than nine inches erect.

Guess it could be worse... you could be this guy.

Or this guy.

Anyway... we haven't had any encounters with any "small" men of of yet, so we can't comment on that. But we can comment on guys with big penises.... Amelia doesn't like 'em. It hurts her during intercourse (especially if the guy wants to thrust hard or deeply), and in such circumstances, if she has intercourse with him at all, it'll only be with her on top. And large penises make her gag during oral sex... not pleasant at all.

[oriel]

The subject of size concerns becomes especially interesting when you consider two important facts.

1. Because of foreshortening and the angle of viewing, most men perceive their erect penis as being smaller than it is. This is especially so when compared with another man's, which they view at a more favorable angle.

2. There is greater disparity in the unerect sizes of men's penises than the erect sizes. I remember this was graphically illustrated on a TV program called the Good Sex Guide in Britain some years ago. They showed a 3x3 grid (so 9 in total) of flaccid penises of all shapes and sizes and (they couldn't actually show this) claimed that they were all +/- 1 inch of each other when erect.

Food for thought...

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Well I have 5". I also have 3 kids and a satisfied (by me) wife. So I suppose it's doing what it's supposed to do

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by OhioCouple
As for the jealousy issue. I think men are very sensitive about their penis size and tend to judge themselves against others. I've often wanted to be a fly on the wall in a men's restroom that had a row of 6 urinals, all in use, just to watch how they act. I can see it now....Staring straight ahead, never looking up down or around!

That's exactly the way it happens. But it's not because we're afraid we might see someone who has a bigger chunk of salami. It's because we're afraid of the reaction we might provoke if someone takes our ogling to mean that we'd like a slice.