Does size matter to the guys.

[sportz]

Thanks for your honest and thoughtful replies. I agree that the men in the videos are above average in size. I've seen a few penises in my day and haven't had the misfortune to be with a guy as large as those I've seen in videos. I did have a guy who was small in comparison to me, and we did finally just give up because it wasn't doing anything for either of us. It was more girth than length that was the problem, though. The girth is more important to me than the length, within reason. To me, though, size does matter to some extent in my ability to get pleasure from the intercourse itself. The sexual experience as a whole, however, depends on the total person I am with, not just his penis.

[yawanna]

What is a swinger wife to do with this problem?

I so hear you tinceltoes

After we've met folks and decided that we would like to go further, and so would they, there is always ample opportunity for me to check out their package, which I do. A little grope, grab, something..to get a sense of what might be down there


I can think of twice that the man was less than averagely endowed, and one husband who's wife told me he was just 3" and would I be okay with that? NO..I wouldn't. Not their fault...just not my inclination.

[ionsawmill]

Originally posted by yawanna
there is always ample opportunity for me to check out their package, which I do. A little grope, grab, something..to get a sense of what might be down there

That's okay, so long as you don't mind some guy (or gal) squeezing your breasts to check if they're real, pulling your hair to see if it's a wig, or fingering you on the dancefloor to make sure you were "tight enough".

[MtnLite]

I have to admit that size does matter to me. I've found that the larger guys have an easier time staying hard when I orgasm. I give a real tight squeeze when I come and I have found that larger guys can hold their own better.

Originally posted by wiscpl
I have a question for the guys here. When you are swinging with other couples does the size of the man your woman is with determine if you keep swinging with them?

Ladies your opinions count as much as the mens. What do you think?

Size doesn't matter to me, only that my wife enjoys herself. I won't say that I didn't feel a bit insecure and worried the first time I seen my wife, with a man that was very well endowed. But I never let it bother me, and was glad she enjoyed herself.

But yes I have seen where size has been an issue. Though I'm not well endowed 71/2" and thick. Once the man only wanted to watch me please his wife, and wanted my wife to preform oral on him while he watched, as he did nothing to please her. She quickly joined me and the other lady. And left him to watch. He didn't mind.

On another ocassion my wife was with the man, and he felt he was well endowed. He kept asking my wife if she liked his big c##k? She told be she was enjoying the sex, but after a while she grew tried of this, and told him, that if he thought he had a big one, he better check me out. She said he quickly lost interest. I never knew what was going on, as I was in another room with his gf, When he came into the room and stood and watched awhile. I never thought anything about it. Before long my wife came in, and said we better go. The evening ended, and the lady apologized for her bf. The couple wasn't married, and I don't know if that had anything to do with it. Later the lady called us and wanted to meet again. My wife told her things didn't work out the first time, and she didn't think they would, the next time either. Then the lady told my wife, she wanted to meet alone. My wife agreed. We had a great time. I think she did it to make up to us for such a bad time. My wife said, she was sorry for saying what she did, but she's just not into "talking dirty" and did tell him the truth.

[2New2it]

While my wife is content with my average thickness 7", the whole idea of having sex with other people is enjoying something different. To that end, size does matter to a degree.

The largest cock she has had was about 9"-10" and thick. That was many years ago and she said it was extremely painful because of the length. Her ex-husband had a very thin 5", and she never reached orgasm by penetration alone. She said she could barely feel it when he entered her and their sex life was miserable.

Our male playmates have all been in the average category, of 5"- 6" and she has had varying pleasure from them. One, with a thick 5", was very pleasureable and because of that she would like to find a man with a thick 7". Unfortunately, the perfect cock is not always attached to someone you want to get into bed with.

Since we are not interested in couples, I don't think it's unreasonable that she tries for "the thick one" when searching for a male playmate. After all, he is there for her extra-curricular pleasure, while I am the man she wants to live with.

FWIW, I agree there is a huge difference in the size of women's vaginas. I was once with a woman that had difficulty taking my average thickness and it was much too long for her comfort. She was an average size woman who had borne children, so that was not a factor. My ex-wife was huge and there was almost no friction to stimulate me...or her. My current wife is tight to perfection and she must do her exercises religiously, because she can do things with her pussy that I didn't know were possible!

[magnum]

Originally posted by Willbfun
Size doesn't matter to me, only that my wife enjoys herself. I won't say that I didn't feel a bit insecure and worried the first time I seen my wife, with a man that was very well endowed. But I never let it bother me, and was glad she enjoyed herself.

But yes I have seen where size has been an issue. Though I'm not well endowed 71/2" and thick. Once the man only wanted to watch me please his wife, and wanted my wife to preform oral on him while he watched, as he did nothing to please her. She quickly joined me and the other lady. And left him to watch. He didn't mind.

On another ocassion my wife was with the man, and he felt he was well endowed. He kept asking my wife if she liked his big c##k? She told be she was enjoying the sex, but after a while she grew tried of this, and told him, that if he thought he had a big one, he better check me out. She said he quickly lost interest. I never knew what was going on, as I was in another room with his gf, When he came into the room and stood and watched awhile. I never thought anything about it. Before long my wife came in, and said we better go. The evening ended, and the lady apologized for her bf. The couple wasn't married, and I don't know if that had anything to do with it. Later the lady called us and wanted to meet again. My wife told her things didn't work out the first time, and she didn't think they would, the next time either. Then the lady told my wife, she wanted to meet alone. My wife agreed. We had a great time. I think she did it to make up to us for such a bad time. My wife said, she was sorry for saying what she did, but she's just not into "talking dirty" and did tell him the truth.

Hey there, I wonder, you said that you are not well endowed being 7 1/2" and thick.

What do you or your wife consider well endowed? I am 7.75" pushing 8" and I have been told I am well endowed and thick.

The couple I swing with, the wife, thinks I am big.

Just courious.

Magnum

[leftcoastcouple]

Hey there, I wonder, you said that you are not well endowed being 7 1/2" and thick.

What do you or your wife consider well endowed?

Thanks for asking the question that was on my fairly-thin-and-not-quite-six-inches-on-a-good-day mind, Magnum.

Mere mortals like me have to just suck it up and not dwell on remarks like the one made by Willbfun. I only wish I had his thick 7-1/2" to suffer with.

Good thing I married a woman who, given her own internal size, is convinced I'm "big!"

[Amy and Mike]

Hi, this is Amy. Most of my girlfriends talk about size as though it's important, but I can say that I never really noticed a difference. Most guys I've dated, and some were pretty tall guys, seemed about the same size. It was never something I ever even really thought about. I would say 6 inches or a little less. As far as Im concerned, bigger would just mean more painful. Mike is no bigger than average, but even that can hurt without enough lubrication. I don't orgasm through intercourse, even though I enjoy it very much. So to me its more about the guy knowing how to bring me to orgasm rather than his physical size.

Magnum,

I know this is a touchy subject. And yes I have had a few women comment on my size. And I'm not trying to boost in any way. The fact is, I have seen a couple of guys with 10" or more, and I look small compared to them, as maybe 5-6" might look small compared to me. So I might say, I am a little over average, but don't feel like that is big. The minute I start thinking I'm big, someone's going to pull out 9-10" and and that won't bother me.

As far as what me, or my wife consider big. I would say over 9 inches. My wife has been with one guy 10+ and couldn't take the entire length, and he was very gentle and tried not to cause her any pain. And she thought he was one of the better lovers, she had.

[gsu22]

10+?!? DAMN!!!!! I bet that's a sight. I'd be happy with 7 or 8.

[txbev71]

My hubby and I have been reading this post and he is of the mind that he doenst really care as long as I am having a good time ( he says it much cruder than that ) he is fine . His opinion is important in who we play with as much as mine is its 50 / 50 he can say no I can say no for us its the only way it would work.
As for me I cant really say size has a big say on if we see them again ..if used correctly I can have a good time with a pinky finger

[JBirdsxs2]

I think I am Joe Average and can be fairly confident in this because of a few trips to Hedo. Anyway my wife loves my dick and I dont feel like anything much smaller would be fun for her. So if I could see before hand I would definatly choose my size or larger.

[djjwp]

I would not be bothered. I have six and I have taped her depths to only 7 with a toy. She has told me to fill her all the way up hurts. Surrender Humm... the sadist in me would love to see her have to take 10!

[Newbies46514]

Originally Posted by tinceltoes

Size does matter to me. When my husband and I go out, we do the usual routine on visiting cpl. first then go from there on the next visit to a motel. I am a person who likes both oral and intercourse but lately with the past 3 men I only got oral because the men were too small to perform otherwise down below. I guess I was lucky to get that.

I always think after going through 3 men and their size I have a curse put on me so my self-esteem is down because I think I will get the same all the time. I can not just sit there while on the first visit have the male pull down his pants and show me what his package looks like. I do not like the idea of reading measurements online because numbers are deceiving. Just like a pic. Ug!

What is a swinger wife to do with this problem?


When you have men who are no bigger than 5 inches and girth size of a hotdog, I can not enjoy myself. As for how the men feel, I am not them so I can not tell you.

Thanks for your input.

Tinceltoes

I'm really kinda shocked to find a comment like this on this board... I'm wondering, are you in this for the pleasure principle for everyone or just for yourself? You say that you don't know how the men feel...You sure about that? My perception of this is that you're getting these guys hard, taking a peek and then passing judgement on whether or not they are big enough or good enough to be with you, and if you find them lacking, denying them even the chance to even try to pleasure you. How can you say that you don't know how they feel?!

Did you ever think that it's not them that has a problem, but you? Before I got married I was with one guy who was 91/2 inches, and one guy who was 11 and almost as big around as a pop can...but I was also with guys who were no where near those sizes. But did I say oh no, I'm sorry, "Don't want no short dick man", hell no! I found ways to move and things to do while they were inside me to compensate for both of us and let me tell you I learned how to have a damn good time!

Just how would you feel if you were with a man and he said to you, 'I'm sorry, but your pussy just isn't gonna be big enough to satisfy me, I've seen women built like you before and I just know this isn't gonna work. But hey babe, as a consolation, you can blow me. So how would you feel? And another thing, yes, I do think you're jinxed, you need to learn to appreciate people despite their 'short comings'. :rollseyes

You know, if you like big dick, great! But maybe you should ask about the goods before you get down to handling them. Now if you've been lied to, then yes, you definately have a right to be totally peeved and I appologize for the above and I'll write a rant on men, lying and getting over their insecurities...but there isn't really anyone on this board that it would apply to anyone specific since most seem quite secure with who and what they are.