Does size matter to the guys.

[BodyScape02]

I have learned that women for whom "size matters" are those who fall in the categories of "the only STD you can get from her is windburn........ect

What a bunch of Bullsh*t!!! It sounds to me like you're being defensive over your own size and attacking your partners by blaming them for being too big.......

Granted, women do come in all shapes/sizes but there is no connection between their preference for the size of a man. It's a personal choice, not a physical one.

[wiscpl]

Looks like we got a little off the beaten path here. I'll refrase my sentence.

Guys, if the man next to you has a bigger one than yours are you going to let him be with your wife again?

[BodyScape02]

dear Bear and bunny.... Female half of Bodyscape02 here, and let me just say...What a load of "Penthouse fourm" crap your post was.

You remind me of the Aesops fable about the fox and the grapes. Insulting those of us who prefer a man not of your diminutive size. First you insult the women who would not prefer to play with you and then you create a particiarly unbelievable senario of you with another woman that ends in an insult to her husband that you have to point out ...is samller than you.


Let me say Band B that I prefer men of 7 inches or more becasue I love the challenge of eating them...and I adore the way they feel anally. That has nothing to do with the size of my "cylinder"!

What I am sick to death of is the lying about your size that goes on. It is understandable that a woman would be upset when she is expecting delivery of a luxury SUV and finds out at too late that you are delivering a 'mini cooper" it's not the make that is at issue.

I am polite up front about my preferances and have not enjoyed the two times I have suffered through a threesome because I was too polite to walk away when the issue becaem exposed( ah hem) . They were not fun to be with and were in the threesome for what I consider their own pleasure. I guess it goes along with being a liar.

Notice I have not once insulted your size I just prefer what I prefer... I have an incredible lover and think his size is perfect...why would I want...Less. In integrity or size?

So go push your pencil somewhere else and let those of us who appreciate and can handle a thick candle ...enjoy the meal.

~Cat

[BodyScape02]

Sorry for all the typo's in my post... I was quite irritated and trying to hide my typing from prying eyes... makes it a little difficult to do a spell check.

In so far a s the origional question posted ( which it appears we have strayed from)

Guys, if the man next to you has a bigger one than yours are you going to let him be with your wife again?

I find the term "let him" a bit interesting. WE as a couple are a colaboration. We decide as a couple and discuss everything. That comment sounds as if you decide for her( which I hope is not the case).

[MattMann]

You remind me of the Aesops fable about the fox and the grapes. Insulting those of us who prefer a man not of your diminutive size.

I hate to be a nitpicker, but that DID sound like you were insulting his (and the rest of us who are "only" average size) size. If average is diminutive, then is large just average now? Don't take my pointing this out as an attack or taking sides. I'm just bummed because I'm in the "under 7 inch" club of undesirables now (and I just missed it by an inch or less, darn the luck!)

As for the rest of the story, I can't speak to the veracity of it, but I find it hard to believe there was any blood drawn as the result of his length and/or thrusting.

And to answer the previous question, yes I wouldn't mind larger men having sex with my wife, in fact, I rather enjoy seeing it and her reaction just for my own mental notes about size, girth, techniques and the reactions they receive. I find these debates on size interesting and am glad to have honest opinions from the women about their preferences. I won't even pretend to be so secure that I don't even think about my size compared to others, I think about it a lot and I am sure most men do, but I also think that is natural and to be expected. Just my full 2 cents (isn't .02 just two tenths of a cent?)

[BodyScape02]

I hate to be a nitpicker, but that DID sound like you were insulting his (and the rest of us who are "only" average size) size. If average is diminutive, then is large just average now?

The male half here...she didn't mean that as a blanketing statement aimed at all men... She was directing the insult at the gentleman in she was responding to. I guess he really hit her button and rash things can be said when a woman feels insulted or a man for that matter.

[NinjaBabe]

To me, size does not matter. I am a plus sized woman and if the man can not perform for me there, there are other ways we could make each other pleased. I don't mind having the simple pleasures of love making. I please the man I am with the best way that I can. And if he pleases me the best way that he can then I have no complaints. But I have no problems with the size of a man's tool.

[wiscpl]

Bodyscape02 wrote

I find the term "let him" a bit interesting. WE as a couple are a colaboration. We decide as a couple and discuss everything. That comment sounds as if you decide for her( which I hope is not the case).

I don't know about your relationship but I know in ours we each decide who we swing with. If just one of us is not interested in one or both members of the couple we respectfully tell them we are not interested.
Example, If She has a great personallity but he seems like a jerk Mrs wicpl will say no way. I respect her choice, it's part of what makes us great together. (You can switch roles in this example if you wish.)

Now, I bet you are going to ask me if I would let my wife swing with another guy who was larger than me. H E doulble hockey sticks I would. Bring him on I say!

[St. Augustine]

He says: You know, this is something I have thought about again recently. My girlfriend and I have talked about size and to her any larger than me would hurt, hell sometimes even I have done that when in one of the more penetrating positions. I think I would be more secure in myself if I was a little bigger. I don't know about the other males here (or anywhere else for that matter), but I think size means more to us from the standpoint of other men. One of the worst taunts I remember from back in school was to be called needledick and the like from your male peers. I think that is what makes size so important to us, the fact that we have been rideculed about it in the past. It's much easier to remember the bad memories than the good ones I suppose. Sexually I don't think it matters at all, for as has been stated here, the majority of the nerves in the vagina are located within the first two inches of the opening. Some of the best orgasms my girlfriend has is when I just use the top two inches or so of the tip. I realize that like every male however, each female is different. I have used this technique in the past though with phenomenal results each time. Personally I have always felt below average even though I'm told 6" is typical. Either way it goes I can't change it, so I don't worry about it that much. What got me thinking about it again was that infomercial about the pill that supposedly increases size up to 25%. I hate being an insomniac at times.

[M&B]

Hehe. I like that. Finally, a club that would have me that I would join!

I cannot answer the original question because our swinging status is "On Hold". I am not so sure that I could answer it truthfully, otherwise. "Letting". Seems kind of strong.

On the other hand, I can see Scape's point. She likes what she likes. If I am not in that club due to limitations, and remember, God don't make no junk, then, I can still respect her preferences.

You know, I have been told over the years by (some) women that guys prefer women with huge boobs. And yet, that is not who I married. Would I like to be with a woman/many women with humungous mammaries? Sure. The bigger the better, the more the merrier, etc, etc, etc. Do I cut out any possibility of pleasuring small breasted women? No. Hell, any port in a storm!

If ever I was told, afterwards, that I was, er, uh, inadequate, I would chalk that one up as a one-timer. Adios y vaya con Dios. At least I tried and at least you let me in. Ah, but that is the rub, isn't it. You DID let me in first.

So, in that case, should I say thank you or I am sorry?

[bear_n_bunny]

Well, based on the vituperative responses to my earlier post, made by individuals as sensitive to their "size" as they claim I am, I rest my case.

And just so you ladies know, what I posted was based on reality; the world as it is, not what you would like everyone else to think it is. I was straight up about my size, and my comments about women with large vaginas was based on hard (no pun intended) experience, not any "insecurities" on my part. As I said before, most of my 40-odd partners (from the first one, when I was fifteen, to date) I've had in my life had no complaints at all. Quite the contrary in fact. It was only a small number who did, and all of them had, big, loose pussies on them. And to me, it was not that I was "too small", it was that they were too big. Deal with it.

Example; when I was fifteen, I got laid for the first time. When I entered the girl, I recall thinking, in my naivete, that she must have been fucked a lot, because she was so loose. I remember when we were done, as she left the room, there was a little trail of blood drops on the floor. She said she had just started her period, and again, in my naivete, I believed her. This was an unplanned casual encounter, and the girl and I were never intimate again. Fast forward a few years to a local bar, where I ran into this same girl again. We had a nice conversation that evening, where I discovered that that had been her first time as well (talk about amateur night in Dixie..., hence the blood. She also made it clear that her preference was for guys with big cocks, such as her boyfriend who was playing pool across the room, since she was so big down there herself, a fact that I could definitely attest to. Neither of us took it anything being wrong with me, or her, for that matter. It was just a fact of her anatomy, and that was that.

And I've never read Penthouse, so I really don't know what was being referred to, and really don't care.

Oh, and the incident about the blood on the condom was quite true. If you had ever been with a woman who has gone without sex for an extended period of time (this excludes women who during their dry spell used a dildo regularly), or penetrated a woman deeper than she had been, either ever or for a long period of time, you would know this to be true.

And as for the "what if the other guy has a bigger one than you, will you let him be with your wife again" question, that is entirely up to her. If we click with the couple, and he does right by her, it's no skin off my teeth. I've had it happen, in fact. Watched my swing partner get plowed by a guy who had a much bigger cock than I did. Except when the party was over, *I* was the one she gladly came home with... And another thing is (and here is another unpleasant truth I'm sure some of you won't like..., I've lost count of the women who have told me over the years that most guys packing that Dick of Death are lousy lays. Most seem to think all they have to do is just show up, and the women will melt into little puddles of orgiastic ecstasy at the sight of their magnificent member.

Unfortunately, when it comes time to get down to the rat killin', as it were, most of them just ram it home with no finesse, no technique, no class. And boys, I'm just going by what I've been told by one hell of a lot of women over the years, both in and out of swinging. (And watched, for that matter, such as the aforementioned guy who plowed my swing partner. He just climbed up between her legs, shoved it in, and whamwhamwham. Needless to say, I heard later about how underwhelmed and unimpressed she had been with his performance, and she was a woman with a pretty good sized vagina on her to boot.) To be sure, these ladies all seemed to have the smaller, tighter fixtures, and hence were faced with the same sort of mismatch I referred to earlier, except in reverse.

The moral to the story is that people do indeed come in all shapes and sizes, and when it comes to genitalia, these same variations apply just as much to women as it does to men, whether some on the distaff side want to admit it or not.

I'll say no more about this, as my point has been made, and those of you with your knickers in a knot over it can go back to squealing in outrage to your heart's content...

[St. Augustine]

She Says: Size to me isn't important. I keep telling my other half that I have no problem with his size. We have talked about it and as he stated in his post above, I really feel that if the man was too long it would be very painful for me. I don't have a lot of depthness in that area and if the man was longer than the average it would hurt too much. My man and I have tried different positions and we have learned that he can not go the full length as it hits up against spots and hurts. As for thicker around I am not sure what that would feel like for me as my man fills me and makes me feel wonderful.

Why men are so concerned about size has always disturbed me. Size isn't all that important. Even if the woman you are with is, what I've seen labeled, as large.. what you do with it and how you use it makes the size unimportant.

I was married for 18 years to a man who is smaller than average. Not only short but very slender. I spent all those years with a man who was not average, but didn't know what to do with it either. His idea of sex was to wham, bam, thank you mam, roll over and go to sleep leaving me with an emptiness and sometimes crying. For years I thought I was frigid. Needless to say, sex for me, was not fun or enjoyable.

After my exhusband and I separated I met my other half. I had my first orgasm when we had intercourse for the first time. He is average and he is enough for me. He knows what he is doing and has great stamina. I always have multiple orgasms when we make love. Great experience for me.

For me, ability is what is important. I would hope that my other half would believe me when I say I don't wish him to be bigger. I love you buddy.

[M&B]

St. Augustine. That was so sweet. Wow.

[lovers]

"As for the rest of the story, I can't speak to the veracity of it, but I find it hard to believe there was any blood drawn as the result of his length and/or thrusting. "

I can say that from personal experience, it does happen. We were with a couple once and Ken (my husband who is over 8" long) had that happen to him. The woman's husband had a really thick 4 or 5 inch dick and he mentioned that it sometimes happens when she is with well endowed men. I've also had that happen to me with a guy who was 10".

If you haven't had it happen to you, consider yourself lucky. It took me a week to get over it, and a week without sex makes me really cranky.

[teknurse]

I get to be a member of a club! The under 7" club! Honestly tho, that was my biggest fear when we started swinging, running into a couple who's female half was only interested in flagpole fucking. The first guy that my wife had intercourse with besides me in 13 years had one of the biggest damn dicks I've ever seen. It's not that it was all that long, but as big around as nothing I'd ever seen on a guy, porno films et al. To foreshorten this lengthy tale, he wasn't all that great according to my wife, it was just something she wanted to try. She asked me if she could, I gave my willing consent, and I'm the richer for it. I held her hand while she did it too. It kind of annhiliated my worst fear about swinging the first time out. We're going to the same club in again this weekend for our anniversary, anyone interested?

Allen&Tami