Does size really matter?

[Corinne]

Hello,
let me introduce myself first, I am a 31 year old, happily married woman, my husband is 35 and we started swinging about 3 years ago. We have met couples, had a 3-some (mfm) and also "fly solo" so to say.
Lately something has been really bothering my husband, and that is the size of his penis. He is about 5 1/2in erect, and he is getting a real inferiority complex about that, to the point that at our last mfm he had problems keeping it hard, because the other guy was about 8in.
I have to say that my husband is a wonderful lover, he has never left me unsatisfied in any way, and none of the women he's ever been with complaint, but well...you know how men can be!
I have recently started chatting with a guy who is quite big, he would love to get with me, but also have a 3-some or 4-some with my husband involved...he absolutely refuses. He says he has no problem with me meeting up with the guy, but is this really such a big ego thing for men?
Of course I won't force him to do anything he wouldnt' be comfortable with, but is there anything else I can do to make him feel better?
Maybe some of you out there (guys and gals) could write some words of encouragement for him, that he is not the only one who isn't a stallion?
Well, reading through this babbeling I don't know what you could actually tell me! lol
Thanks for all your help in advance,
Corinne

[danc694u]

I'm usually the "short man" in the room when we swing with a couple or group. But, I've found out there are other things to worry about, other than my dick length. IE thickness goes a long way in making up for length And the tongue, can make the night one to remember if used correctly.

It's entirely a male thing. Not much you can do there, except hang with it. I wouldn't recommend surgery, especially after reading follow ups from people who had the surgery. Maggie gave up 3 extra inches when she met me (as opposed to her ex), and she's still here 2 years later. So of course that does do something good for the ego of us short folks Me in particular.

If you're looking to help ease his mind. Try some ALUM...Then see if he still thinks it's too small.

[ken -N- lea]

I am not the longest stick in the woodbox either but have had very few complaints (1 from a lady married to a horse, my wife complained he was to big. Also he couldn't get it in or keep it up. Guess who had more fun that night LMAO )I agree with other posts here, the way you use it is more important than size but i may be prejudiced. Just tell him or show him that others have this problem and we don't find that it is a PROBLEM
Ken

[pelagic argosy]

Well, I'm going to give an opposing view. While I've had good sex with many men who were average, I prefer very large men. I find that, besides the difference in feeling, there is a very sexy visual aspect involved. Also, I think larger men have less sensitivity in the head of their penises, and tend to last a good bit longer. All the marathon men I've been with have been bigger than average. The only downside is as someone mentioned earlier, some large men have trouble keeping it up. Not too many though, I'm too good.
Mrs. Argosy

[MattMann]

I think it really depends on the woman. I'm your standard, average six-incher, so I've wondered if my wife preferred the sometimes larger men she was with, (she always seems irritated when I ask about such things as if they weren't important to anyone but me), she said big wasn't all it is cracked up to be, and she much preferred mine because it "fits" her so well. I asked if she had to pick one besides mine, she was at a loss but eventually picked another 6-incher, because of the way it was used, not the girth and length specifications it had to meet.

You can read various surveys from women stating size isn't their number one quality in a good lover (but a good bonus) or you can read anatomical advice that the woman's most sensitive area is the first few inches of the vagina and the external clitoris and that, although it stretches to accommodate any size, a vagina is only 5 inches deep or so. But really the only way to not be jealous of the donkey dong over there is to have a partner who truly wants you for you and can therefore only be truly excited by you. You'll never know if she is lying about the big ones not being better than yours just to spare your feelings, but it's probably true.

Connie, you didn't say how you truly felt, IS he too small? Or are the big ones nice, but they can't compete with a full-time lover who knows your body and what you like so well?

[Corinne]

Thanks for all the input. I know the problem is really a psychological one, the same problem when I see a woman with a great body and I feel selfconscious about mine.
Matt, no, I don't think he is too small, but I won't lie and say that I don't like bigger ones too. Just as I would never weed out any women with bigger breasts than me (even though that is hardly possible)he would never weed out a guy because he has a bigger dick than him. but I can tell that it irks him, so that makes me hesitant to pick someone much bigger than him.
Well, I guess I just have to keep talking to him, and let him know that he is a great lover, hung or not, and hopefully we will be able to have some more adventures soon!
Thanks again,
Corinne

[Stratecpl]

Matt??? "Connie" Hasn't added her two cents to this post LOL...but since I'm here I guess I will...LOL I judge by performance mostly..I have had 10 inchers that were 4 stroke wonders and I've had 5 or 6 inchers that were AWESOME...I have had the big boys 8 and over that were very skilled and also the little guys that were duds...it's the MAN..not the dick size that makes the lover..it's mental as well as physical...experience, attitude...all that counts...

I have found that a thick Dick..haha..feels much better to me than a skinny one..regarless of the length

My personal dick (Ron) is perfect..for me...he's about 7 and half to 8 fully erect and very thick with just a slight bend to the left which hits my "spot" bullseye dead on from just about any position...I do believe we were made for each other..LOL

So, big..small...it's all in the man behind the meat....IMHO

Connie

[MattMann]

Ooops, I meant Corinne, obviously. Heh, Sorry, honest mistake, really!

[danc694u]

I guess I can't complain about what I have. Although, I'd like to wake up Christmas morning with an extra 2 or 3 inches.

Lord knows I spend a lot of time at our local "toy store". I've even suggested getting an "extension" But, I get axed on that idea every time LMAO

I personally think that the current "Male" mentality comes from many differant things.
#1 Childhood comparisons
#2 Reading too many magazines geared toward "Real men"...Hell most men I know are about the same size I am, I like to think I'm a real man.
#3 Watching too many porn movies with HIGHLY payed and UNUSUALLY large men.
#4 Pissed off women, that always know where to stick the knife the deepest LOL

If I remember correct, it was "Long Dong Silver" who complained about the size of his tool, and it was BIG. He never was able to completely get it inside. I can certianly see that line of thinking too!

Only being able to get half or less of my length in, would be like cooking steaks, then cutting the meat off the bone. Then just knawing on the bones while everyone else, eats the meat.

[Brian]

Hey,,,,I thought the whole point of this was to have your wife/girlfriend enjoy something "different". I would get plessure watching her with a guy who is bigger than me. I guess I thought that was the whole point, seeing her pleased!!!

I dont know if Cornnie should meet with this well hung guy until they work it out. Just do guys with similar sizes until he figures out its not a big deal.. .. .. Just my thoughts.

Am I missing something????

[danc694u]

Originally posted by Brian:
Just do guys with similar sizes until he figures out its not a big deal.. .. .. Just my thoughts.

Am I missing something????

You missed something. What's she supposed to do? Ask for a look at the equipment first? Which she would naturally get from an online response, without asking. LMAO

Of all the socials we've been to, I've only had a few actually check out the goods, before going back to our/their room. Which leads me to believe, it doesn't matter as much as we men think.

But, I do get asked about my oral abilities quiet a bit. Wonder where that comes from?

[Brian]

Yeah, but its still all about the pleasure thats shared together, right? I guess at a social it would make a diff. I guess stick to the net until its not a big deal anymore.. .. .. .. .

[FromFlorida]

Originally posted by danc694u:
I guess I can't complain about what I have.
#3 Watching too many porn movies with HIGHLY payed and UNUSUALLY large men.
#4 Pissed off women, that always know where to stick the knife the deepest..
it was "Long Dong Silver" who complained about the size of his tool, and it was BIG. He never was able to completely get it inside. Only being able to get half or less of my length in, would be like....

It is terrible what society has done to people. It has been a double edged sword. I can remember when women were oogled at for their breasts.Men ( generally ) liked big breasts. Ok. That bothered women very much, to the point of now having the breast implants. Because they felt that they were not big enough for the men. Now... the shoe is one the other foot, men feel inferior because of their size. Sad, but true. Society had drilled this into us. It is sad to me to see this going on, I wish it would stop.
My first husband was 9" and it wasn't worth it to me..the size didn't do anything. He was concerned for himself, not me. Besides..it was a bit too long and sometimes painful.
My husband now is much better, smaller a little , but much better. To me it is how you use it, not the length that counts.
I really don't know why some women prefer longer ones, really...i mean, you only have so much room.
And from what i hear, the men with the longer ones can't fit them all the way in, making it miserable for them. Not enjoyable that much to them either. Now..if i was a man, i would happy to be able to use what i had.
I always tell my husband how good he is .. :p making him feel happy with himself.
This is just my opinion...but i think love and praise go a long way.
Female half of FromFlorida

[Jem]

Size definitely matters to me...but not in the way most guys think.

My honey is no bigger than average. However, I think this is *great*. There is one time and ONE time only when I like a large one (and even then, not *too* large). That is the woman on top position. I admit, a large one can feel VERY nice in that one position. Nicer than a small or average one in fact.

However, it just plain HURTS me any other way. So whenever my honey feels down about his size, I just say "Okay. You could be huge and I could be loving the woman on top sex. But then you would never get to be on top. You would never get to have it doggy style. And you would DEFINITELY never get to have anal sex!"

That makes him pretty happy about his size pretty quickly. Yeah, he sometimes gets bummed that other (bigger) guys can make the woman on top position feel better to me. But those other guys never get to do so MANY other things that he gets to do with me because they are just too big!

[anandjeff2]

It is psychological. Jeff is the average 5 1/2-6 inches and he can do wonder with it.Also can hold off for quite some time as well..so i dont agree with the statement that big lasts longer. Women have been pressured for many years to be skinnier to have larger breasts, to have a certain colour hair.it is no wonder we are so insecure about our bodies..men see all the staories about huge penises and feel they got gipped. No matter what they worry even thought they see that they can pleasure their women pretty darn good. But society says women want more (even though I havent talked to anyone who agrees) so the men feel they must have more..same thing with baldness it has become a taboo thing you MUST buy a toupee or get hair transplants..its all for the sake of a buck..if they can create an operation that would be highly sucessful in enlarging the penis they would make a fortune..so they are working on the market now..

Makes you think though..jeff and I go out to strip clubs and even thenhe lieks the real skinny girls with tight butts(yet he assures me that Im fine at my size) it can get to you if you allow it to.

An