Does size really matter?

[cplswng]

You see, there you go...shooting holes in my theory...haha.

[danc694u]

Shhhhhhhhh !!!

Don't tell everybody LOL With so many guys (and some couples) liking the big ones. It leaves more to choose from.

You can call them left-overs or whatever. But, I call them...mmm mmm good

My wife and I are new to this lifestyle and are very excited at the possibilities. Here is my deilmma. I am average 5 1/2 to 6 only. If we swing with a couple whose husband is much larger, will she enjoy me as much as my wife will enjoy his larger size? I feel I am a great lover otherwise. I also want to note that I am not very thick either.
Please advise as this concerns me immensly.

[SnittyKitty]

Your measurements are identical to mind, and my wife could fit a horse!!!

It is extremely important that you understand that you're going to meet some stud monster out there. If that didn't cross your mind, you're in the wrong hobby.

Every couple is different. My wife likes the thick stubby variety, not that she doesn't mind an occasional "horse". Oral sex rules in this household. If you can't do that, then you have something to worry about.

I can't speak as to why you're swinging. I do know it's about being comfortable with being who and what you are, including your gifts and shortcomings.

And did it ever dawn on you some gals like you just the way you are! Size isn't everything. Unless you do porn for a living!

Then all of us would need 8 inches.

It isn't about a number. It's about what's in your mind!

Unless it's danc694u. He's certified nuts!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by SnittyKitty:

And did it ever dawn on you some gals like you just the way you are! Size isn't everything. Unless you do porn for a living!

Even in porn size isn't everything.. you have to be able to....

1. Get it up on command
2. Keep it up while being watched by a room full of sweaty guys, under extremely hot lights, while being told to stop fucking right when it's getting good.
3. oh yeah.. and Cum on command.

LOL. And you guys thought you wanted a career in porn...

[Alura]

Julie, you are just too cool.

If I didn't have the perfect wife already, I'd want one just like you!

Cheers,
Husband of Alura

[lycioos]

The snitty kitty has a point about the size thing. I happen to be a little bitty thing. I have small breasts and a small opening. My husband is average in size and even then he has to be gentle with me or it is just too much for me. EVEN after having had 4 children. I have come to realize that Isatisfy my husband with my itty bitty breasts and that is all that matters. Everyone else can go climb a tree for all I care and my husband satisfies me. In fact, if he was a bit smaller, he could probably do so even more. It's not about quanity, its about quality!!!

The wife

[Flori_DAMAN]

Its not about quantity, its about quality. I hear that so many times it is getting old. There are so many variables in attraction and tastes that it would be impossible to count.

A guy with a good cock that knows how to use it has both quality and quantity. If a girl doesn't like big cocks then who cares huh. A guy that is insecure about his cock size will likely subconciously demostrate his insecurity. That in itself may be unattractive. On the other hand a man with a small one may try to overcome it with acting macho and coming off like a bonifide idiot with a Napoleon complex.
Personally I have a very large cock. My wife likes it but she loves cocks that are about an inch or so smaller. She refuses to swing with guys that are my length out of fear of being hurt.

Cock size in swinging can be compared to how much money a guy has when a gal is looking for a mate. She may make that her no. 1 priority and end up with a totally miserable life but a big house and beautiful luxury car, condos and diamonds. But what the hell. Its how happy you are that counts.

As far as how you use it goes heres my feelings. You may think you know how to use it but you may not. Every woman has her particular likes and dislikes. If you arent asking her what she likes you are missing the boat in a lot of cases. If you have true talent you have an instinct but many women have very very particular likes. If you don't ask her how the heck will you know?

Many men stick anything they can into a vagina quickly and rub it like they are trying to start a fire. My wife HATES that. She needs a lot of external play. Some woman are totally opposite of course. Many women will not say "hey man you aren't doing it right". They are afraid of embarassing you. Ask her with every step on your first encounter. Don't interrogate her just whisper a question or two occasionally. Thats what has worked for me anyhow. John

[babycakes3216900]

I can only state my opinion by my experience. Size might count to some woman but as for myself the power behind it and tenderness counts. I really don't think the bigger or longer or thicker you are makes a difference if the guy works it right....same senario with big rack its the seduction and working it right that counts

[SnittyKitty]

Big Rack! I like that! Never heard it put like that before. The rest of your comments...right on! What I enjoy, is simply ask the gal what she likes! I know there is this mentality of sex like moose in rut! But two weeks ago, I got a request for slow, soft, tender...what I affectionately call crock pot style...slow & simmer. It works...this little thing call communicating.

[coupleohio407184]

I must say that we pay a lot of attention to swing add's, and see a common issue. Couples looking for a single male, and we see a lot, what one that is well hung. Coupes, and a lot of times the ladies right the add's, discribe the man as well hung. I would have to say that most couples involved in swinging have a man that is hung, above average. I can also tell you, when in a real swingers "photo chat room", the couples with well hung men seem to get a lot of attention. So tell me if ladies don'y enjoy a well hung man now and then.

My husband has a very thick cock and I enjoy it very much. When I measured it fully errect it was 7.5 inches around. It is only 6.5" long but wow does it feel good when it is in me. When we are with other couples the men normaly have longer cocks then him but much thinner and it never feels that good. I mainly like the thinner ones for anal sex. How do the other ladies on this board feel about the girth to length issue?
Do you all feel like I do that girth is more important for vaginal sex than length?

[oceans]

Everytime I have been with a guy that is longer that 7" it was a bad experience because it hurt me. My husband's is 6.5" but very thick and I get the best pleasure from him, his length seems just right. He is so thick that when we swing I do the other guys for the anal becuse I love anal sex but I cant take my husband in the back door. I can take one far longer analy than vaginaly. Size to me matters only in the thickness. I am so glad I married a man with such a thick one.

[Navi]

My penis is a little bit less than 6" long (it seems to have gotten shorter during the last ten years). I use to think I was average size until I read this thread. Now I feel so puny.

I've been only with Asian women, with the exception of one Latvian. And they all seemed tight, which is why I never thought I was small. The oldest woman I've been with was 35, which I do not know if any relevance. Do they get looser when they get older?

My wife is pretty tight still at 29. That is why I need to get her off first to be lubricated before starting to fuck her. She hasn't been with anybody bigger. She's teased that she wants to fuck someone with a big dick. I think she says that because she likes to feel slutty. Frankly I think it is sexy to see her with a huge dick. I bought her an 8" dildo with about a 2" girth, but she doesn't like it. Maybe she would like a real guy, though - something we yet to find out.

[JustAskJulie]

Navi,
Have you put on weight over the last few years?

I have read that for every 20lbs you gain you lose an inch off of your penis size. That's quite a bit. Definately a reason to stay in shape