Penis size of playmates has me discouraged

[Mr&MrsSwing]

This will have to be somewhat of a quickie...
My husband and I have been swinging for a year now, and have had several experiences both with couples, and alone with singles. While my experiences have ranged from mediocre to horrid, his have been mediocre to excellent. I guess what I'm trying to say is I have been disappointed by the sizes of penis' I have encountered. I start getting intimate with the male half of the couple (or the single male) and I am excited; for the most part they were all attractive. Then I reach down to feel their penis, and am SO disappointed by its size I am almost immediately turned off. For the sake of the experience I try to get back into the mood, but for me anyway, a small penis just does not do it. I feel as if trying to swing with a man now is like russian roulette, because I won't know the size of their erect penis until it is too late... And by the time I feel their penis, I feel like it would be the most supreme insult to say "nevermind...stop". I also feel a little guilty asking about the man's penis size before we even get intimate because I have had my fair share of men with erectile dysfunction from nerves, I can't imagine how much more magnified it would be if I said "by the way, is your dick big enough?" I am to the point of changing our profiles on the net to 'looking only for females for FFM' since I just don't know if I care to put forth the effort of looking for a man with a decent penis. Any other women have similar experiences/complaints?

[LikeMinds321]

Mrs Swing ~

You didn't say what length size (or girth, if that's equally important) is disappointing to you, but I think it would help to mention that here.

I see no problem with mentioning in your profile what size penis you want. I've seen a number of profiles mention this and am thankful they do. It lets us know if we should take the time to contact them.

Also, on the ad site we use it has a place for men to list their penis length. Men don't have to give this info, but my husband chooses to because this way we don't worry about that being an issue for people who contact us. They know the score.

I consider penis size like any other preference. If it makes a difference to you, you should let others know.

LM

BTW - I've never encountered a penis I didn't like. I guess I'm a lucky lady.

[Better Half]

There seems to be at least a few single men out there who would not hesitate to send you a photo of his pride & joy in full excitement. That way you could preview ahead of time. It would definately help avoid an uncomfortable situation for you.

[good times]

I agree with what LM said, and would encourage you to clearly state your preferences and be specific. I really don't know what you can do, other than that though. I have to admit that I have had many people tell me that I am above average in the size department, but I have never really thought of myself that way. So were I to see an add that said something like "must have large penis" I would probably not even feel qualified to respond. I can't help but think that many other guys would probably feel the same way.

I also wonder if the men that would respond to such an add would be guys one would want to play with. The reason I say that is that most of the guys that we have come across that were impressed with their own equipment, enough to advertise it, were pretty lousy in the sack. I always get the impression that they figure that their size is such a gift to women in its own right, that no other skills or techniques are required.

[discoandvyper]

/me takes his hamster dick and goes home then.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Mr&MrsSwing

This will have to be somewhat of a quickie...
My husband and I have been swinging for a year now, and have had several experiences both with couples, and alone with singles. While my experiences have ranged from mediocre to horrid, his have been mediocre to excellent. I guess what I'm trying to say is I have been disappointed by the sizes of penis' I have encountered. I start getting intimate with the male half of the couple (or the single male) and I am excited; for the most part they were all attractive. Then I reach down to feel their penis, and am SO disappointed by its size I am almost immediately turned off. For the sake of the experience I try to get back into the mood, but for me anyway, a small penis just does not do it. I feel as if trying to swing with a man now is like russian roulette, because I won't know the size of their erect penis until it is too late... And by the time I feel their penis, I feel like it would be the most supreme insult to say "nevermind...stop". I also feel a little guilty asking about the man's penis size before we even get intimate because I have had my fair share of men with erectile dysfunction from nerves, I can't imagine how much more magnified it would be if I said "by the way, is your dick big enough?" I am to the point of changing our profiles on the net to 'looking only for females for FFM' since I just don't know if I care to put forth the effort of looking for a man with a decent penis. Any other women have similar experiences/complaints?

Now, I do know that on Swing Lifestyle some women ask for dimensions. Maybe this is something you shoud do.

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally Posted by Mr&MrsSwing

This will have to be somewhat of a quickie...
My husband and I have been swinging for a year now, and have had several experiences both with couples, and alone with singles. While my experiences have ranged from mediocre to horrid, his have been mediocre to excellent. I guess what I'm trying to say is I have been disappointed by the sizes of penis' I have encountered. I start getting intimate with the male half of the couple (or the single male) and I am excited; for the most part they were all attractive. Then I reach down to feel their penis, and am SO disappointed by its size I am almost immediately turned off. ........

I also feel a little guilty asking about the man's penis size before we even get intimate because I have had my fair share of men with erectile dysfunction from nerves, I can't imagine how much more magnified it would be if I said "by the way, is your dick big enough?"

Why feel guilty about making sure you have a good experience? Hell, if you're not having a good time (to the point that you describe it as horrid ), you either need to ask for what you want or stop swinging. But, be specific. How big is big enough? I've never been disappointed by a playmate's size, but I've definitely been disappointed by someone's technique. It's not fun. So, if you can figure out how to make things fun for you.....DO IT!

Pepper

[driveajeepnaked]

MM Swing:

I would definitely put something in the profile... You could say something like, "Even though I'm not a "size queen" I'd really like to enjoy at least #"

Yes, list the size... penises have a strange self-image sometimes, and think they are bigger/smaller than they are...

I was recently shopping on-line with my future daughter-in-law for shower favors, and stumbled across a key ring that had a small tape measure on it. What a practical gift, we thought - then noticed that it's length was only 6 inches... I said, Gee, that's too small to have much purpose... She looked at me, with a funny look on her face - and we both burst out laughing !!

Seriously, I should have bought a few, just for good friends, who also aren't size queens... hehe

V

[JustAskJulie]

I'm wondering not about the size of your swing partners but about the size of your husband. I would think that if he is of good size (ok, big) then it would be hard to find someone else who lives up to that, and therefore easy to be dissapointed in size.

Perhaps a good change to your mindset would be to give them a chance to prove that they are more than their penis size and please you regardless. I know I've had some guys with small dicks that used everything they had and I was never dissapointed.

[Menage_a_Trois]

I guess my next question would be - are you also not getting anything out of the oral experience with your play partners? I've been less that satistified before myself in the size department HOWEVER, it's been my experience men who are not as endowded tend to compensate in the oral department. Just an observation - what is awesome about the lifestyle is the variety and the change in everything.........so maybe putting yourself in a state of mind that you are on an adventure and you just never know what you will see might help.

The Other Mrs. Menage

[Mike and Jan]

I don't see anything wrong with making it clear in your ad that you want a larger than normal penis.

Some men sure make it clear they want large boobs.

But, you might give some thought to letting the 'ad' readers know that it's not because your husband has a small one so the other half of the 'ad' reader doesn't shy away.

[Mr&MrsSwing]

Thanks for all your replies, I think I am going to post my size preference on Swing Lifestyle. And actually Julie I think you may be right about my husband. I am not sure what is big for the general population, but he is about 7.5 inches and about that same size in girth. All I know is he completely fills me out and beginning sex with him anytime is somewhat of a chore in the beginning because it takes a while to ease it in. I guess that is what I am used to. But i think I may have also experienced smaller than average men in the swinging department. One was maybe 3.5-4 inches. My pelvic floor muscles are strong, I try to tighten them when I am with a smaller man. Sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't. I will just learn to be a bit more vocal now and advertise my desires a bit more. Thanks everyone

Mrs