Should I worry That I Don't Messure Up?

[Jimmy123]

While my wife and I haven't made the jump yet, I wanted to get opinions on one issue that may come up....

I have seen multiple post rearding dick size and that it is not that important to women, but I only messure up to 4.75 length and about the same girth. I desperately want to see my wife with someone much bigger, like 6.5-8". Should I be worried that she might desire the bigger ones more than mine? Thinking about it is a turn on, but would like to know if anyone here has had that experience.

When we talk about it, she loves to think about a big bare cock reaching the back of her pussy... this sounds great to me too, and I would love to watch her take a larger one but is there any reason for me to worry about it?

Response by email would be appreciated as I will not have access to this site until tomorrow. Email me at (dfin626@hotmail.com)

Thanks

[Darkblue]

Dont worry, remember its not the size that counts but what you do with what you have.
As for the wife,if she wasnt happy with what she has then i am sure you would know about it.. Part of the fun of swinging is seeing your partner enjoying themselves, our male friend isnt as big as i am but his wife still only wants him,(were all soft swingers at the moment) so stop worrying about something that you cant change your wife loves you and you alone and not just your "dick" bigger isnt always better.

Sit back and relax and enjoy yourselves..


Steve

[2jersey]

Jimmy, given your length, you are shorter than about 90% of the male population. Your girth, however, is greater than about 30+% of the male population. So, when you average things out, you aren't 'tiny', just 'below average'.

I have never quite understood the oft repeated comments suggesting that "the important thing is what you do with it". Frankly, there are only so many things you can do with 'it' - in and out, faster or slower, that's about all... However, there is much you can do to stimulate the woman's mind and body, and this involves skill and incorporates body parts other than your penis (during foreplay, and during intercourse).

To your main point: yes, it is possible that your wife will experience different physical sensations with a large penis - and these sensations may be more pleasurable. It is also possible that the thought of a large penis will be more stimulating to her than the actual physical contact - it all depends on how she is wired (to some women, size doesn't matter).

Do you and your wife love and trust one another? Are you each emotionally secure and communicative? Do you have a pleasurable on-on-one sexual relationship? If the answer to these questions is "yes", you may be ready to proceed.

[Mike and Jan]

Hey, look at it from another prospectous.

My wife has nice 'large' breasts. I've played with those breasts for 34 years now.

But, when I'm looking at other women I find I'm more attracted to nice small breasts.

She doesn't mind at all and knows that a lot, if not most, men prefer her larger ones. It's simply my wanting to enjoy something different, not my wanting someone else.

Swinging isn't about looking for someone you like or want more, it's about experiencing someone new and different. Or experiencing things you just can't experience with only the two of you.

So, her experiencing a larger cock is merely that. Different! And you might just find a couple who haven't been able to fulfill the wife's desire for anal because he's just too large.

[Mike and Jan]

perspective! Man, and I call myself a writer! LOL!

[prettylady]

I maybe new to swinging, but sex is not new.
Do you know where the "G" spot is? you are plenty big enough to reach that.
I love to feel a man inside me, but I find the banging against my cervex painful. so anything bigger the 6" is not exciting to me. I love to be talked to, right in my ear, soft, sensual, and yes even dirty Combine that with caresses and you can put me through the roof. That is what gets me going. My guy can bring me to orgasm by touching me and speaking the right words.
You dick in only one weapon in an arsenal. Be a "god" of war, not the guy with nothing more then a pistol.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[Jimmy123]

much thanks... I feel much better

and, your right about the "something different". My wife also has very nice large tits and sometimes I do get attracted to smaller ones. She knows guys typically like big tits and she has nothing toworry about... but the different thing is right on track. She has only been with me and I have only been with one other woman besides her so that is pretty much it.

[WesternSwing]

As Yoda once said “Size matters not... Look at me. Judge me by size, do you?”

Mr. WS

[KenRachel]

Well, I rather like a variety of sizes. Long, or thick are good with me. In fact my favorite is to have them take turns, feeling the difference.

Rachel

[MontrealParty]

"If you're not built like a horse, you'd better have a tongue like a rattlesnake."

[residentpervs]

Ok, I'm a little late in posting my reply... sorry for that. The male half of the first and only couple we've swapped with so far is hung like the proverbial horse... I'm right smack in the middle of average (around 6"), and that first time, seeing my wife take a guy with an 11" cock, well.... you can probably imagine, it was more than a little intimidating. But, when I had *his* wife moaning and screaming her way through a series of orgasms a half hour later, lemme tell ya, that was a helluva confidence booster! I'm not nearly as concerned about size as I used to be... yeah, it still tugs at the back of my mind now and then, but as long as you're not getting complaints, don't sweat it Hope this helps a little more... good luck, happy hunting, and play safe !!

[singleagain]

Originally Posted by Mike and Jan

perspective! Man, and I call myself a writer! LOL!

Well Ok, but you did give your prospectus in the previous post, now didn't you?

[dwaynda]

if you are to enjoy the lifestlye you have to be comfident in you relationship with your wife. the same can be said on her part also, does she worry that you may find a woman who's pussy you find great pleasure in. your relationship must be strong and sure. the lifestlye is for the fun and excitment of the moment not to take the place of what you both share already. i wouldn't worry about it at all, just enjoy yourselves and take if for the fun and excitment of the moment that is meant to bring. be sure of yourselves before you try the lifestlye.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by residentpervs

Ok, I'm a little late in posting my reply... sorry for that. The male half of the first and only couple we've swapped with so far is hung like the proverbial horse... I'm right smack in the middle of average (around 6"), and that first time, seeing my wife take a guy with an 11" cock, well.... you can probably imagine, it was more than a little intimidating. But, when I had *his* wife moaning and screaming her way through a series of orgasms a half hour later, lemme tell ya, that was a helluva confidence booster! I'm not nearly as concerned about size as I used to be... yeah, it still tugs at the back of my mind now and then, but as long as you're not getting complaints, don't sweat it Hope this helps a little more... good luck, happy hunting, and play safe !!

We have some friends that have been in the Lifestyle for many years and he is also very well endowed, easily 10". I thought "wow, how could anyone 'measure up'?" But as Mrs. WS put it, if it was all about penis size then why would they be swinging? She obviously is married to a guy in the 98-percentile, so only maybe 2% of the population is as big or bigger then him. So if it was all about size she would have no reason to swing. I had to think to myself... "Self, she's right!"

Mr. WS

[sapphire68]

I think you would be fine as long as your relationship is an open, honest and secure one. My husband is smaller than all the men I've ever had and he knows this and feels he can't satisfy me (although he does!) and wants me to be with bigger men. He has no fear that I would leave him for another man. I'm doing it just for the sex and hopefully the man will be too. I have everything I want with my husband and no desire to leave him and two children for a man that has a bigger di@k. I think most women would feel this way.