Small cocks

[Bilingual4U]

In my experience, over many years of swinging, I have found that MOST of the guys have small cocks leaving me quite unsatisfied!

My husband is 6.5", thick and circumsized. The swinging ladies we have been with love this. It makes me angry that they are having a ball and I am frustrated.

Bisex as an option has kept me involved and I love that.

Any other gals have a comparable complaint?

[4Beauty2C]

I have been there myself quite a few times. Hub is well endowed and most of the men I have come across are small or can not get it up. We ask upfront now if they are over a certain length and if they are capeable of sexual penetration/getting it up. If they say no, we move on. I have been burned too many times .

[Carol_Danny]

Am I the only one that thinks penetration is just a very small part of Swinging? I'm just an average guy, but have never had problems or complaints, and we have been with guys of all sizes. Even the smaller than average guys have easily been able to satisfy my wife, as penetration isn't the most important thing to her.

Bilingual4U's husband sits in that average category, as are most men. That's why it's called "average". Luckily, we have never judged our partners on the size of their penises. Doing that just causes you to lose out on some great sex!

Actually, I lied. Carol doesn't like guys too big as she is quite petite and she finds them uncomfortable. But, there are so many other things you can do with sex than just penetration.

-- Danny

[curiousagain]

I would think part of the allure of meeting someone new is the unknown, the exploring, the affirmation or changing of fantasys. But, if someone has a much smaller than average vagina or much larger than normal penis, there ought to be some warning to prevent harm and major dissapointments, though.

I have a friend with what would definitely be called a porno penis and he finally had to get to the point of showing it to the ladys first and asking them if they were sure they could take it as most couldn't. BTW, he's a very skinny white guy, go figure.

While I don't have what I would call a "porno penis" I have been keeping discriminating women happy for quite a while now. About half my FBs complain that it makes them sore for a day or two afterwards, but they keep coming back.

Does anyone ever ask anyone how large or small their vagina is? I think if I was at a meet and greet and began being asked exactly as to size and such I would just end the meet right there. But, everyone has their reasons for doing what they do and I can't fault them. We all have a few questions that have to be asked at a meet and greet, that is part of what they are for.

I would hope anybody that has been having sex with various partners, much less swinging for a while has learned to think on their feet (or back or knees), be flexible, and imaginative enough to always make sure their play partner experiences the most possible pleasure.

Have you tried any SMs that have been in the lifestyle for awhile. You don't stay in the lifestyle as a SM very long if you don't have the tools and the talent to get the job done. And remember, in the vanilla or swing world, a hung man is like a beautiful woman. Irregardless of their personality or marital status they pretty much have their choice of partners and anyone wanting their time will have to take a number. If you make it to the head of the line and don't meet their criteria, it's "no soup for you"!

[Coupleinidaho]

Although my hubby is 7" and thick, I cum the hardest (like a rocket) when he goes down on me and does the "come-hither" motion inside of me with his finger, rubbing my g-spot. Just because a prospective male swing partner isn't as well-endowed as my hubby (or has a small penis) wouldn't stop me from getting satisfied. The only issue in regards to penis size that I WOULD have a problem with is if the guy suffered from micro-penis. But that's an abnormality, not something you would run into on a frequent basis, if at all.

I can just imagine if couples asked prospective female swing partners if they have had children vaginally, as in, how stretched out are you? But I guess to each his/her own. Good luck!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Bilingual4U

In my experience, over many years of swinging, I have found that MOST of the guys have small cocks leaving me quite unsatisfied!

I just read your profile and discovered you are 81 years old. I don't believe I've ever heard of someone swinging at that age. I doubt I'll have a desire for a penis at that age. :rollseyes

My husband is 6.5", thick and circumsized. The swinging ladies we have been with love this. It makes me angry that they are having a ball and I am frustrated.

Most cocks I've met have been 6-7" so I'm surprised to hear in all your 45 years of swinging (this info I took from your profile) that most men were way under 6.5 inches. I have to agree with others who have said there is more to consider than cock size when seeking satisfying sex.

Bisex as an option has kept me involved and I love that.

Okay.

Any other gals have a comparable complaint?

Nope. But maybe in another thirty years I'll have a different story.

LM

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by 4Beauty2C

We ask upfront now if they are over a certain length and if they are capeable of sexual penetration/getting it up.

my response would be: "I make no guarantees until I've seen you naked."

As a guy firmly in the average range length-wise and more in the beer can range as far as girth goes, I have learned to ignore the size issues. If a person only wants a big cock, I am not for them regardless of my size. After all, I want them to have sex with ME. My cock will be involved - I promise - but lets focus on chemistry first.

Good chemistry makes for good sex.

If there is no chemistry, the sex is going to be average at best. And if their is no chemistry, I may not be able to get wood. That's not always the guy's fault... Just so you know...

I would think a guy would have to be pretty desperate to play with a couple who grilled him that hard before heading into a room. Maybe I'm too sure of myself, but I would walk away knowing I would very likely find someone to play with who wanted more than just a guy who checks the right boxes...

Spoomonkey

[looking2swing]

I have come across several men that were not comparable to my husband, whom is more than well endowed. However, I have found that the actually penetration is a small part of swinging. I have the most fun playing with each other. I must use the old saying that it is not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Coupleinidaho

Although my hubby is 7" and thick, I cum the hardest (like a rocket) when he goes down on me and does the "come-hither" motion inside of me with his finger, rubbing my g-spot. Just because a prospective male swing partner isn't as well-endowed as my hubby (or has a small penis) wouldn't stop me from getting satisfied. The only issue in regards to penis size that I WOULD have a problem with is if the guy suffered from micro-penis. But that's an abnormality, not something you would run into on a frequent basis, if at all.

I can just imagine if couples asked prospective female swing partners if they have had children vaginally, as in, how stretched out are you? But I guess to each his/her own. Good luck!

This is me too. My best orgasms come through oral and/or that wonderful "come-hither" on my g-spot I don't always prefer men that are overly endowed because like Carol_Danny said it can be uncomfortable unless the guy is paying attention.

I don't think I could ever ask someone up front and reject them only on the size of their penis. Like Spoo said if you have chemistry and just have fun trying different things it can be a great experience.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[dodgechevy]

male here talking, okay people sex ed time:

the average (okay people read those words AVERAGE, as in the majority of males all around) tend to be 5 1/2 to 6 1/2. Now how much of that is actually necessary? 3 inches. Why? because the majority of a females nerve endings are at the base of the vagina. Your average vagina is only 8 inches long. The deeper you go the less you feel. Of course not all vaginas are the same. Some women have smaller vagina's and some have bigger ones. Women with larger vagina's needer a big size penis to feel better.

Hell while im add it ill give some more info for the guys. If you are overweight expect to have a smaller penis size for 2 reasons. 1 the excess fat can start covering part of your penis, requiring you to really ram it in to have her feel the rest. and number 2, when you gain weight you release more estrogen then testosterone which causes you to get the lovely man boobs and the shrinking of the penis. now here is the good news. If you lose the weight, your body will start producing more testosterone making your penis grow to its actual size. i forgot how much, but i believe it was like an inch per 30lbs.

and that my children is the end of the lesson. now to work on my grammar skillz :-)

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by dodgechevy

If you lose the weight, your body will start producing more testosterone making your penis grow to its actual size. i forgot how much, but i believe it was like an inch per 30lbs.

Let's see here...

Based on this information, if MrLM gets down to a weight of 80 pounds he'll be toting a 9" penis.

LM

[Sweet_Candy]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Let's see here...

Based on this information, if MrLM gets down to a weight of 80 pounds he'll be toting a 9" penis.

LM

Thank you for helping me spill my coffee while laughing so hard I fell out of my chair.

[4uswingfriends]

Swinging is new to me but cock is not. No matter what any woman says or claims penis size does matter. My fiance is 8+ and 6.5 circumference so we have never had a problem. I am worried that when we find a couple that fits with us I may be disappointed. I am used to him but I really want to find a female to play with and a decent spouse to swap.

I think I need something close to my fiance's size. Isnt it rude to ask especially when your making new friends.

We just cant find a great couple that doesn't just want to hop in the sack right away.

[xxoticangel]

Size does matter to me but only if it is too long. Being only 5'1" anything more than 7" is just painful unless the guy is very gentle and watches his depth, which really decreases the fun since I prefer hot sweaty passionate sex to slow tender sex. When I get messages/responses from people that say they have 9" I just laugh and tell them no thanks.

I have known some "size queens" during my life also and must agree 4uswingfriends that if a woman really enjoys size nothing else is going to satisify her. If we are talking with potential playmates and they mention size we let them know up front that hubby is an average 6" and let them decide.

[curiouscouple4f]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

Size does matter to me but only if it is too long. Being only 5'1" anything more than 7" is just painful unless the guy is very gentle and watches his depth, which really decreases the fun since I prefer hot sweaty passionate sex to slow tender sex. When I get messages/responses from people that say they have 9" I just laugh and tell them no thanks..

Dito
I agree, I'm also 5'1" (in shoes ) Anthing much larger than my husband who is average length, a little larger than average girth would hurt. 8" and up would be a no thank you.

"The Mrs"