Well endowed--Yea right!

[morgan78]

Okay.. has anyone ever had this happen to them?????



We have been on a swingers site where we mostly meet couples and some singles.
Seems like everytime we find someone ( yes this has happened more than once) when we go to play, I find that the male half of the couple is NOT so well enowed as he said he was! What do you do?
We went ahead and played with this couple. Of course my hubby is about 8.5 ( for real cause I myself measured) and I am used to his cock in me. Needless to say the female half of the other couple was having a GREAT time. The male half of the other couple was so small he couldnt keep it in no matter what possition we were in. I got very frustrated but didn't say anything to him.
After we were done, we got along just great. They really are great people.. very friendly, we are around the same age..we enjoy alot of the same things out of the lifestyle. So what do we do when they want to play again, but I really don't care to play with him? How is a good way of telling them, that we want to be friends but not interested in him playing with me?

Also.. girls.. how do you handle a guy like this when you are sleeping with him? I'm not hung up on size, but when it is smaller than 3 inches.. and cant tell he even has one.. I just dont know what to say or do..etc.

[wolfnblu]

oh my....smaller than 3 inches??? :::thud::: Sorry I have no answer for you.....was the oral any good? did you even try oral? And hey, if you're into anal sex, he might be just the perfect size for that! (hey, I'm trying to look on the bright side)

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by morgan78

Of course my hubby is about 8.5 ( for real cause I myself measured) and I am used to his cock in me.

Since your husband is this large, it isn't going to be very often you find a man as well endowed. Most of us just aren't that big.

"Well endowed" is an ambiguous phrase at best, meaning different things to different people. However, there are still probably very few people that would say 3 inches=Well Endowed.

If you aren't happy playing with them, you'll just have to tell them. You don't have to tell them why, just that you "aren't feeling compatible".

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by morgan78

Also.. girls.. how do you handle a guy like this when you are sleeping with him?

Sleeping with him Or are you referring to just the play time you had with this couple. We don't "sleep" with anyone but each other.

Now that said. We did have a similar experience early on in the lifestyle. We never got around to having to tell them we didn't feel there was any chemistry because they had relationship issues and backed out for a while. We also have another couple that we have become friends with and have had a little oral play. We are struggling now because they keep hinting about getting together and taking it further but there wasn't any chemistry between her and Mr Spoo. We unfortunately haven't figured out how to tell them gently since we really want to remain friends.

If you like this couple other than the sex I would suggest trying like we are to express this to them. There just doesn't seem to be a sexual chemistry but we'd like to continue to hang out.

Also, if size does seem to be an important factor for you then you might want to consider changing your ad to express your preferences more clearly.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

If you aren't happy playing with them, you'll just have to tell them. You don't have to tell them why, just that you "aren't feeling compatible".

First off, I've been pretty content with every penis that I've had the pleasure to sleep with. Size isn't very important to me. Skill is.

I did have one experience that was terrible... :rollseyes

We were both very young, so this guy didn't really know how to work with what he had yet. He was very small... probably 3", but also very small girth too. I honestly couldn't feel him inside of me. I found his finger to be more arousing than his penis.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Size isn't very important to me. Skill is.

I agree 100% with you Ves. The two couples I was referring to in my thread about chemistry had nothing to do with size or not having a fun play time. It was just .... well "chemistry". Not enough of a spark so to speak to be interested in round two or three.

But definately if the man has skills ...... That's the important part. I've had well endowed men that didn't do a thing for me because quite frankly they didn't know how to use it and had no oral skills either.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[morgan78]

Yes, we did play.
We done all the normal swap stuff.. touching, kissing, oral,..etc.

I guess this is when " faking the big O" comes into play? LOL

I'm not a shallow person, and I do enjoy all sizes of cocks, but this time just took the cake! The poor guy thought he had it in!!!! Needless to say I tried placing it in, but come back out.

At least one good thing.. I LOVE watching hubby with another woman!!!

I guess sometimes friendship means more!

[winterfun]

I love well endowed men. My baby is average and he works pretty hard to find that just right person for a special encounter. We met a really nice gut this weekend who was 10" x 6 ". I love those special get togethers, but you more often than not don't get the big one. Be happy with the entire encounter, and try not to focous on the misfortune that god gave him.

You said he was a nice guy, he probably thought you were great also.

[HotMoCpl]

Myabe you shouldn't answer ads that advertise "well endowed male". For me personally, if I wasn't honest, I'd be embarassed to eve show up.

[corkwan]

just a thought, but have you considered the performance anxiety aspect?

i know that my cock will range in size depending on how excited i am. i would say there is at least a 2-3" range in length, and probably the same in girth. these small penises you encounted, how stiff were they? part of the problem could be the guy is nervous, and worse than that, sees how big your partner is and feels inadequate. all of this makes the penis do a turtle.

as much as women go on about making sure they have enough foreplay, the same goes for men. they need to be stoked up, reassured that a woman wants them, and that they feel comfortable in the situation. any looks, of, 'oh my god, is that it' are sure to induce turtle like behaviour.

anyway, if size really is the most important thing to you, then i'd say the other people are right in that you should be very explict about that in your profile.

[kevin&danielle]

We met a really nice guy this weekend who was 10" x 6 "

Wow that would definitely make my

penis do a turtle

[sir_dragonfire]

size matters, varies betqween ladies. The thing I never understand is why lie? It's not like they will not know when You have sex. Stupidity @ it's best.

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by sir_dragonfire

... The thing I never understand is why lie? It's not like they will not know when You have sex. ...

Good point, but by then it's almost too late and his lie has worked well enough to get a foot (or a cock?) in the door.

-B

[DBL D]

Well, we definitely have called off further encounters with a couple because the male just wasn't "compatible". The problem was that we all seemed to get along so well. When we told them we couldn't play with them again the male really pressed us so we told him that it was his small size and nothing else.

Now he didn't misrepresent himself in an ad or anything but just like us stating our preferences, maybe a male who is small should just say that in theirs. We think average is 5-6" and anything above 7" or so is well endowed.
(Whew, I made the cut!)

But that's the way it goes sometimes...

Male D

[northindycpl]

We have played with a couple where the male was small. Very small.

Going into it, I remember the wife telling me that her husband wasn't as large as mine. (we played with her first alone, and then met her hubby)

In my mind, I remembered from health class that the average dick is like 4 inches, so I didn't think much about it.

Truth be told, by the time he got hard, I am not sure that there was more than maybe an inch and a half for actual penetration.

It bothered me, only for a few minutes.

He was the perfect size for anal, infact, it was so easy to have anal with him. Remarkably, it was very good to perform oral on him. I could actually deep throat without gaging at all. (Well, let's just say it was deep molar ) It was almost as effortless as drinking my Cosmo through a straw.

Since the 4 of us played in the same room-same bed, it seems like it really doesn't bother me that much. There is more to sex than actually fucking, and he definately made up for lacking size/girth with enthusiasm!

Whenever I reach the point where I want to get 'it', I simply took my turn with my own husband. It has worked out well for us.

BTW, I don't understand why there is a need to lie either. And it isn't just men that lie. I have had women tell me they are DD cups and in reality they are maybe a C. If you have the need to lie to your soon-to-be swing partner, make sure it is something that can't be easily measured on first glance.