Size intimidation: How do you relax?

[solomon]

Hello,
For the sake of discreetness, I go by solomon.
I am 22 and my wife 20. We have been married almost 2 years in June and have had one 3some experience with another female and we loved it.
Currently we are in the process of trying out swinging with our female lover's male friend and I'm kind of nervous about it.
I have a question to all the couples that have done successful swinging:
Males: When you see that the other male has more of a package than you, is that intimidating?

Females: When the male has more of package than your husband, does that change how you feel about your husbands package at all?

I wouldn't consider myself a small fella, but I've always wanted like an 8 inch and thicker penis. My wife was a virgin when I married her and I'm the only male that she has ever come in contact with sexually, so this is very very new to her and she is very excited, but I am a little nervous b/c of the description of the male that we are meeting tonight.

I did enjoy the threesome with the female, and I'm going to enjoy this 4some with the couple, but how do you relax and take your mind off of all the negative thoughts?

[CandTinLorainCo]

Welcome Solomon, hope you both enjoy our site, and good luck.

Originally Posted by solomon

Males: When you see that the other male has more of a package than you, is that intimidating?

Yeah... not that big of a deal just intimidating. You can get past that. Your SO though maybe scared shitless and if I were you, probably be a good idea to go really slow!

Originally Posted by solomon

Females: When the male has more of package than your husband, does that change how you feel about your husbands package at all?

Thought the same thing you are... T informed me "it aint what you have or have not, it's all in how you use it" she say's a "dick is a dick"

-C

[solomon]

About the answer to the female question, I have heard that and I've been told that I know how to use what I have.

thanks for the advice and answers. It is very much appreciated.

[biblonde]

Hubby used to worry about that when we first got into this but has no worries now. It is all about how you use it and not just the size! I've had bigger and smaller than my hubby and well size didnt impress me much. And let me say the ladies just love my hubbies average size!! Dont let it concern you. Your wife will enjoy other men but she will always enjoy you the most. You most likely know all her buttons and good spots and well there is that emotional connection also. Best of luck in your adventures and enjoy yourselves!!

[kevin&danielle]

Solomon, I have also always wanted and 8 incher and thicker lol. Think of it this way, if you were with a woman that was tighter or had bigger breasts than you wife would you have fun? Most likely. Would it change your opinion of you wife’s goods? Definitely not. Don't worry about it and go have some fun. Come back and tell us about your encounter.

Take care,

Kevin

[confunktion]

Agreed with all posts above. These other men will never be what you are to her. Me and the Mrs. have had experiences with couples where the man was more well-endowed. I liked that, because I wanted to see what Mrs. Funk would do with it. Needless to say, she had her fun, but we went home together, and that's what it's all about. Just relax, communicate, and have a lot of fun!

Mr. Funk
Adequately equipped with expert technique.

[Dynamar]

Single... swinging... and seeing all kinds of penises...

Would rather have "average with good skills" than "hung like a horse" any day of the week. And twice on Sundays! facelick

[intuition897]

I won't lie. The fact that the guy has a big cock may be big turn-on for your wife. But rest assured that this is a novelty. Got any toys in the toybox? If you do, I'll bet you didn't go out and buy a dildo or vibrator that was smaller than your own equipment. Part of the fun of it is the fantasy or just the sheer size of the thing. It's a challenge After the fun, the toy goes back into the toybox and she doesn't feel any differently about you. Now this might not seem like a great argument because I'm either relegating your playmate to the part of "walking dildo" or trivializing the fact that it's NOT made of silicone, but it's a very real cock...attached to a human being. I guess all I'm trying to say here is that the 'big package' thing is merely a novelty. It's on the gotta-try-it-before-I-die list and some women find they love it, some can either take it or leave it, and other women would rather not do it again. As a woman, I can tell you that even if the guy had an absolutely perfect package and knew how to use it, I know that the experience would pale in comparison to the fun that Mr. and I would have after we're back home in our own bed!! Why? Because no one knows me like he does. No one gets past my emotional barrier except him. I make love to him, and the more I enjoyed my experience with the other guy, the hotter it makes him. And his arousal is contagious. It turns me on like a 1000 watt light bulb to know that watching me with this other man has this kind of effect on him.

This is why it doesn't matter about size. The only time it actually matters is when you don't have an emotional connection with your partner like this. That's why the 'big cock' is often a prerequisite for male play partners; if they didn't have that...well their personality is only going to get them so far. There needs to be physical chemistry. That's why I'm really not jealous when another woman is more beautiful than me. She needs to be to hold my husband's attention because that's all she's bringing to the table. She can't offer him the same kind of closeness that I can.

Another thing: I actually prefer a medium sized, more manageable penis. The monster cock is kind of a visual novelty, but otherwise it's nearly unusable. Mr. bought me this HUGE dildo for my birthday one year. When I say huge, I mean it was shipped in a box big enough for a VCR. Now where the hell am I going to put that?? Ok, I've managed it a few times, but I had more than couple of drinks in me to help things along. This is a little bit TMI. Sorry

Bottom line: don't worry about it. Just relax and enjoy your wife's pleasure. Enjoy watching her discover another man's body. If this is the only other man she's been with besides you, think of how exciting this must be for her. Think of how lucky you are! She's sharing this experience with you. It's a very unique and intimate moment between the two of you.

Hope I've helped some. Good luck tonight!

Originally Posted by solomon

Hello,

Males: When you see that the other male has more of a package than you, is that intimidating?

Honestly, for me, I have never been intimidated by a man with a larger package than myself, and we have been with a few of them . (I am average)


In fact, it's kind of just the opposite. When we meet someone for an MFM I Hope the guy IS well hung (Read: bigger than me). If a guy pulls out his crank and it is smaller than mine I think "what's the point" . Mrs Naughty likes a thick well hung guy (who knows how to use it) and I like seeing her with one. It's a win, win situation . Swinging is a treat and my hope is, that is exactly what she finds when we swing facelick .

When we are back home in our bedroom I still please her the same way I always have, regardless of the "Hungness" of those we have played with.

I am sure you will find the same thing .

[Vantabulous]

Originally Posted by intuition897

The fact that the guy has a big cock may be big turn-on for your wife. But rest assured that this is a novelty. Got any toys in the toybox? If you do, I'll bet you didn't go out and buy a dildo or vibrator that was smaller than your own equipment. Part of the fun of it is the fantasy or just the sheer size of the thing. It's a challenge

You can tell me. You've been talking to Mrs. Van, haven't you? You don't have to "sugarcoat" it...

I'll say this. The "beginner" sizes are a lot bigger than what you all think they are. Nuff said...

(Mrs. Van was positively aghast, though I did note a distinct twinkle in her eye. Perhaps it was just me... )

Van

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by Vantabulous

You can tell me. You've been talking to Mrs. Van, haven't you? You don't have to "sugarcoat" it...

I'll say this. The "beginner" sizes are a lot bigger than what you all think they are. Nuff said...

(Mrs. Van was positively aghast, though I did note a distinct twinkle in her eye. Perhaps it was just me... )

Van

Yeah, I think Mr. got a big kick out of the look on my face when I opened my present. Shocked is an understatement.. lol

[HotMoCpl]

Its so hard to say what another woman really feels when she rides a bigger tool then what her S.O. has. I know mine has had much bigger then mine, but also affirms that if it gets hard and is at least four inches, it'll work for her. As for me? If I ever get to see her ride a bigger package then mine, I think I'll get as much thrill as she does.

[BradAndJanet]

She likes big dicks and I like seeing her get one. Big hard cocks are erotic. No problem with intimidation here and I'm just an average guy. I remember this one guy....long as your damn arm. Impressive!

-B

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

I remember this one guy....long as your damn arm. Impressive!

-B

No! Say it isn't so.

Did you give it a handshake?

LM

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

No! Say it isn't so.

Did you give it a handshake?

LM

I only wish. He was the boyfriend of a girl friend of mine and my girlfriend (not to confuse the two women ) and I had a little impromptu swap one afternoon after ingesting some illegal substances (this being whilst I was in college, of course )

I was blissfully tonguing a clit when I glanced over and saw him enter my girlfriend. It was a magnificent sight; he was at least 10", which I had heard from my girl friend, but seeing it in action was quite impressive.

Unfortunately, my girl friend sorta freaked out at the sight, thus ending my second swinging experience.

I don't know what ever became of him...

-B