Size intimidation: How do you relax?

[WesternSwing]

Welcome Solomon. I am personally in the "average" range by all studies, so I guess you could say that since 60% of all men fall in the "average" range, 2 of every 10 men we meet will be noticably bigger than me, and 2 of every 10 men we meet will be noticably smaller than me. So really, you are probably in the middle yourself being less than 8". You're in good company. If I let that worry me, we'll never have any fun.

That said, Exhibit #1: my wife was married to a man before me that was below average penis size, and I understand they had great sex. She had a long-term relationship with a guy before me that had a well above average sized penis, and I understand they had great sex. My penis is in the average zone in size, and we have great sex. See what I'm getting at? It wasn't the size of the cock that made the great sex, it was the guy it was attached to.

My wife doesn't even like pictures on profiles of just the guys cock. She holds fast to the idea that as long as we click in other ways, whatever your cock size is will be just fine.

She has had guys with bigger dicks than me both before we met and since we've been swinging, and she still loves me and loves sex with me more than them. Why? Because I think most women will tell you the size isn't as important as the person. Performance or skill aside, sex with someone you love will ALWAYS be more fulfilling than sex with someone you don't. My wife and I have great sex, but she didn't marry my cock, she married me. If it was just cock size she would have stayed with the guy before me. Get my drift?

It's like tits. Is sex better with a woman with bigger tits than it is with a woman with smaller tits? No. Tit size (big or small) may be something that you are attracted to, but bigger tits doesn't make her a better lover and doesn't make your orgasms any better. Big tits doesn't make her a better match for you, doesn't make you love her any more, or make her love you any more. Exhibit #2: My ex wife's boobs are naturally two cup sizes bigger than my wife's. If that was enough for me to love her we'd still be married. And the guy left me for purportedly has a below average sized penis. I mean come on... she left me for a guy with a smaller dick!

We know a couple who are great people and very experienced in the swinging world. He is very well endowed. Like my wife says, if cock size was what it was all about then why would she want to swing. After all, probably only 1% of the guys out there are bigger than him. There is a 99% chance anyone they swing with will be smaller than her husband.

I hope that all made sense. So don't worry about it. If you are a happy couple the biggest cock in the world couldn't tear her away, because relationships aren't built or torn down on cock size. She's not going to leave you for a guy with a bigger cock any more than you'll leave her for a woman with bigger tits or a tighter pussy.

Mr. WS

[reed&diana]

I was going to post a reply but WesternSwing said it before I could.

There will always be someone better looking, has a bigger cock, has bigger tits, but it's the connection that counts. If you love someone, it doesn't matter what the physical attributes are, it is all in the head. As someone said, the mind is the most important erogenious zone.

Oh, I guess that I did post a reply anyway. Oh well.

[HotMoCpl]

Size? I'm NO WAY on the small side and my wife has always told me, if a guy has only four inches and a lot of technique.....ITS GOOD! The reason I brought up swinging to her was because I know she like to sample ALL sizes. The size of another mans tool won't impress me one way or the other....I'm not gonna ride it. SHE is! flamethrow

[SwingLord]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I figure this is as good a time as any to ask board members:

Are bigger cocks able to get as hard as cocks that are 5-7 inches?

Somehow, I always get a picture of a horses cock when I think of a man over 9 inches. When I saw a horse mounting a mare, it's cock looked pliable. Of course, I never got to touch it to know and I sure wasn't going to ask the neighbors who owned the horses.

Also, I've wanted to ask if WOMEN are intimidated by a large cock?

My first thought if I saw a very large cock would be, "Well I'm not getting fucked by that guy tonight." I've had trouble getting a 7 incher in me. Sometimes it goes, sometimes the same cock doesn't fit.

I feel I'm "relaxed" but I'm not always able to accomodate my playmate. Any other women have this problem?

LM

At first my wife was intimidated by my buddy Paul's 9 incher. But she'd been curious for so long that her curiosity got the better of her. So did our Paul's 9 incher.

[sugar&spice]

By now you probably got that "size intimidation" experience past you. You got exceptionally great advise here. Acknowledging a potential problem prior to an encounter is always the first step towards defusing it and seeing a possible solution. Remember that in swinging, ultimate success lies in how well you both grew closer through the outcome (whether considered positive or negative). Hope you understand that no matter what the outcome was for you, there was also one for her (and it's not always the same for both). It will always be that way (different issues with you or her) with each encounter (whether it someone new or someone you have played with before). The challenge, intrigue, and exploring new frontiers adds spice to our lives. Treat each encounter as a unique situation, discuss possible issues (fears, problems, expectations, etc) prior to and then have an "after action report" to build up on the excitement or difuse/correct any new unexpected issues that came up. Strive to make your bond grow stronger with each new encounter. The sex, communication, and relationship will get better and better and better (that's why we swing). Welcome to the Lifestyle.

[Some4mealot4her]

Agree w/ most posts...I'm above average I hope...all this "average" talk...what the heck is AVERAGE? 6"? I am a shade under 8" long fully erect (everything shrinks w/ age!) and a shade over 2" in girth. My wife and I click like nothing else...Period.

Still, I love watching her take in and on even bigger manhood because it's not what I WANT...but what SHE wants. And I like watching her get fucked good and hard, by men who know how to make the bigger boat in the ocean make the bigger and better motion! Once she was gulping a friend of mine's 12+" incher and when he inserted it and we switched...she (and we) found out what her tolerance was. Anything over 10" and she can't physically get it all in her.
She likes getting fucked hard by an above average to large male cock. She can 'feel' the 5.5" and less still but like it was said before...what's the point. She has conditioned herself to "take it on"...and now she wants to explore 4 men and two women. It's all good. It's just sex. Not love.

Hey DYNAMAR!! Indiana?? We're just east of FORT WAYNE!