Size intimidation: How do you relax?

[LikeMinds321]

I figure this is as good a time as any to ask board members:

Are bigger cocks able to get as hard as cocks that are 5-7 inches?

Somehow, I always get a picture of a horses cock when I think of a man over 9 inches. When I saw a horse mounting a mare, it's cock looked pliable. Of course, I never got to touch it to know and I sure wasn't going to ask the neighbors who owned the horses.

Also, I've wanted to ask if WOMEN are intimidated by a large cock?

My first thought if I saw a very large cock would be, "Well I'm not getting fucked by that guy tonight." I've had trouble getting a 7 incher in me. Sometimes it goes, sometimes the same cock doesn't fit.

I feel I'm "relaxed" but I'm not always able to accomodate my playmate. Any other women have this problem?

LM

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Are bigger cocks able to get as hard as cocks that are 5-7 inches?

The ones I've seen... no problems.

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Also, I've wanted to ask if WOMEN are intimidated by a large cock?

My first thought if I saw a very large cock would be, "Well I'm not getting fucked by that guy tonight." I've had trouble getting a 7 incher in me. Sometimes it goes, sometimes the same cock doesn't fit.

I feel I'm "relaxed" but I'm not always able to accomodate my playmate. Any other women have this problem?

Yes... I'm a little intimidated. Always like to think of myself as a "never say never" kind of girl, so I'll try. I'm very tight, and sometimes bottoming out is a problem, but if I don't raise my hips and legs too much in the missionary position, then that helps.

[intuition897]

Something that I don't understand: why is it that guys are so hung up on length? I mean, really, what am I going to do with 10"? Look at it and say, "Wow. That's really big. Too bad you're only going to be able to bury 6 or 7 inches of it." That other 3 or 4 inches make it seem like the act is incomplete or something. Give me girth any day, baby! facelick

Their length, or the length of the guy his wife is playing with?

I'm not really hung up on either but it is a simple fact, for us, when we play Mrs naughty likes some length as well as the girth. And I like to see her get what she likes facelick .

Give her a well hung guy (length) with the girth to match and Watch Out!!

Of course he doesn't HAVE to be that way (lucky for me ) but it doesn't hurt either .

We know it's not ALL about the size, but it is a factor.

There is a point where he is too big. When we are on ad sites we don't go out sending messages to guys with the biggest cocks we can find, you know the ones; Scary Big . But More than average is definately where we troll the waters.

Of course when we "swing vanilla" we never know until it is "Go Time" but if he pulls out a well hung member she isn't like "Damn it!! "

Its more like: " "

[clit pro poet]

Heck, it's a little like being out on the river. Everybody warm up, keep their oar in, stroke together, row the whole course, navigate the bridges and turns, finish up in the same boat, then feel so good it's almost wicked!

[Everlearning]

Originally Posted by clit pro poet

Heck, it's a little like being out on the river. Everybody warm up, keep their oar in, stroke together, row the whole course, navigate the bridges and turns, finish up in the same boat, then feel so good it's almost wicked!

Well put!!! After all, isn't that what it is all about. Finishing in the same boat(everyone happy and pleased) makes it a true success.

[Vantabulous]

Originally Posted by intuition897

Something that I don't understand: why is it that guys are so hung up on length?

You go, Girl!

Originally Posted by intuition897

Give me girth any day, baby!

Gotta go, Girl!

(With Mrs. Van, I always thought that my wearing 17 condoms was merely a concern about birth control. Now, I wonder... )

Van

[clit pro poet]

Funny afterthought about the rowing thing -
The smallest member of the crew (and the only one facing forward) is called the cox.
Whoodathunkit...

[goddessoftoyz]

i just have to say here, just like every guy is different every woman is different. some woman can handle a monster cock, some only want the small ones. I personally dont care how big it is as long as they know what there donig and know how to use it. But the point is everyone is different and we all handle dicks differently. .

And per the original question do not be intimadated there is no reason for it, if you know what your doing and how to use what you've got there should be no worries at all. facelick

[Air&Patty]

Originally Posted by solomon

Hello,
For the sake of discreetness, I go by solomon.
I am 22 and my wife 20. We have been married almost 2 years in June and have had one 3some experience with another female and we loved it.
Currently we are in the process of trying out swinging with our female lover's male friend and I'm kind of nervous about it.
I have a question to all the couples that have done successful swinging:
Males: When you see that the other male has more of a package than you, is that intimidating?

Females: When the male has more of package than your husband, does that change how you feel about your husbands package at all?

We are still in the discussion stage - but this topic has come up. One of my fears is not that she will enjoy a bigger package better than mine, it is that after she has experienced it she may not enjoy sex with me as much as she used to.

We have played around with toys that are considerably bigger than me so hopefully that isn't the case. I want her to have the best possible experience and if she would like to try a someone who is well-hung, more power to her. It may even be something of a turn on to watch her with someone like that.

-Air

[vbrunkenobi]

Some great posts here. Talking with my wife (I am between 7-8) that sometimes I am too large for her, usually when I am extremely turned on. During those occasions, it actually hurts both of us a little bit. I have learned to adjust my sexual performance to the situation. More often than not I am at just about 7 and that ends up being perfect for both of us. No when I am at the other end (8), I have to keep myself from entering her fully and she is not able to take me all the way orally.

I have to agree that largeness is more a novelty. It can actually be a curse sometimes. As for intimidation, well, knowing what I know, I would have to echo those above and reassure you that for the larger sizes, it is all novelty and a hell of alot less useful. I hope that this helps you and yours. - Mike

[cuteIDcouple]

My Wife and I are fairly new by about three months and one of the fears I had was the possibility of hooking up with a guy that was bigger than I am.

I'm only 5" and wished I was thicker but my biggest fear was that if I were to have sex with her right after a big dick she would be loose or something along that ... or as in some have stated here that my size wouldn't feel the same anymore.

Well I have to tell you she has had a guy 8" and thick enough she can't get her fingers to touch when holding it ... she has had this guy on a regular bases ( I loved seeing that BTW) and I have told her I prefer to go 2nd in fact I would takes seconds after a big cock ANY day.

I found that she is swollen and so sensitive that sticking my finger in her will get her off ... so it is way more exciting to have that added sensitivity ... oh and she got to experience her very first orgasm with intercourse while doing this guy and now she gets off every time with me as well as multiple orgasms .

The other thing to keep in mind ... just as others have stated only YOU will know what really gets her ... I do find that I have to be more creative and maybe work harder than a guy with a big package but that is part of the fun .. the bigger guys usually only know how to push it in and out and mostly rely on their size .. they have never been able to experience trying to shoot for the g'spot or moving it around trying different things.

I would rather see my Wife with a bigger cock any day ;-) ... OHHHH YA

[RUfor2]

Alot of it depends on your wifes reaction too.

If she is kind she will just have fun. The emotional bond is the strength.

We were with a couple once that his wife kept telling my wife......
"It grows I promise"
I felt sorry for the guy, ruined it for me really.

RU

[Jonna84]

The best sex I've ever had was with a man who had quite an average (maybe even bit smaller than average, who knows) dick. It was not big but he really did know how to use it. And isnät sex much more than just a dick and pussy? We have mouth and hands too..

[glasspro]

I am worried about the same thing! I am 25 my wife 23 she was also a virgin. can anyone tell me, my penis is about 5" hard and not real fat. Is that about normal or will just about every guy in the world be bigger?