Want to try DP, but not with hubby in my ass

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by F16AV8R

I cannot tell you how much I appreciate all of the thoughtful posts and advice you great people have provided here. I think I used the term "circus-sized" as opposed to stating actual measurements because no one would believe it until they have seen it. Frankly, I have never seen a penis this large before and it is more of a problem than a blessing. In fact, it has been a big problem. I indeed want to give all of myself to my husband. I love him. I am willing to try the recommendations you have suggested but I am not talking about a 9 or 10 inch penis that is a little extra thick here. It is massive and although I am not really in pain per se when we have regular sex, the internal pressure from so much being inside of me is distracting at times. I think we'll try a few more times and I'll give it the old college try. If it doesn't work, oh well, there is so much more to our relationship that is so wonderful I can go without the DP. It is indeed fun and very pleasurable having vaginal sex with him when we go slowly at first and have had a few drinks. If he is not insistent about going all the way in, it can feel incredible. When he gets excited though and trys to pound in deep, the pleasure quickly turns to pain. I want to try a penis anally and wish it could be him. If he were shorter and not as thick, we could do it. Again, we'll give it the old college try. Still, the mere length and girth of his penis gives me serious doubt we'll get much past the head of the penis. I think if he were to allow a smaller penis to take me anally (lets say 8 or 9 inches) he to would enjoy our MFM sandwich. I have read all your posts and again, appreciate you great folks putting advice on here but I think until hubby and I can work out our boundaries and limitations, my DP will have to be put on hold.

Good luck to you! We have to say that we're glad your hubby is more important to you than the DP. Frankly, If you can't take him vaginally without discomfort now: You won't be able to take him vaginally when you have another penis in you from behind, even a smaller than 8 inch one. It still takes up room in the vaginal area on the inside. Again: Good luck, and we're happy you're making the right decision for your relationship!

[DBL D]

Is there anything like a "Penis Reduction" surgery? Just what happens in nature that would allow such a thing to happen? Is this evolution in action?

I KNOW, It's Not Funny!

Keep trying gal. People can take much larger things into them than they realize. Your anus is a muscle and therefore it can be stretched. Your vagina is the same. You don't just get s t r e t c h e d o u t if you do it properly. If you can learn to use your kagel (sic) muscles for your pussy, then you can learn to stretch that "other" muscle too. You have to be dedicated to it though.

When Fem D decided that "it was time", we just did it and boy was she tight. Guess what? After over 2 years of including it regularly in our personal play, she is still tight but knows what to expect and how to get there easier. Now, I'm not a super big guy...but I was bigger than she ever thought she would be able to handle till that fateful evening. I know that's how she felt because we had tried it a few times in the early years of our marriage. Strong desire to do something can really help you get to where you want to be.

Good luck to Both of you! And make a request that he not be too hard on you for your desires. Gotta start somewhere.

Male D

[TNT]

Our take on this...

Anal sex is something that is discussed between us on a regular basis. I (Teresa) have a definite problem with it due to an unintentional mishap we had one time well over three years ago. Up until that point we had been progressing quite nicely with it. Over time we are slowly getting back to where we were then but it has been a long road. It's something that Ted greatly enjoys and something at this time I just haven't been able to participate in with him. Luckily he is a patient man and I feel no pressure whatsoever from him.

Knowing how much he enjoys this and wants to do it, I have no problem with him having anal sex with someone else in a swinging situation. I would not feel inadequate or feel left out with him getting something from someone else that I just can't do at this time. I want him to have the things he wants whether it's me or someone else giving it to him.

On the flip side, he would have no problem if we were to meet another man who had a smaller dick than him and I wanted to try anal with the other man. In fact, we are constantly on the look out for a man with a smaller dick as anal/vaginal DP is something we want to try and I definitely need someone smaller than Ted for the anal part.

F16AV8R, take your time, talk with your husband and find a compromise that you both will be happy with. And should we ever have the chance to meet maybe you and I can work out a trade as I've had the "circus size" (vaginally) before and found it very enjoyable .

Teresa