Does Penis Size Really Matter to Women?

[jim-n-nicole]

lcc, When I read back through this thread it seems most women said size wasn't the most important factor and some even said long was painful.

I think size is a bigger issue with men than it is women. Being large actually has drawbacks - some women limit how deep they can be inserted and in what position they can be used. Takes a little away from the moment if you have to constantly worry if you're hurting her.

I'm not saying there aren't women who only want larger, there are. But in my experience they have not been the majority.

Jim.

ps - in my previous post, I was not insinuating that width is not a problem because they are loose...just that the love canal will expand in that direction to accept various sizes. It is not as easily expanded for length.

[Vespertine]

Well said, Jim!

[leftcoastcouple]

Originally Posted by jim-n-nicole

lcc, When I read back through this thread it seems most women said size wasn't the most important factor and some even said long was painful.

I think size is a bigger issue with men than it is women. Being large actually has drawbacks - some women limit how deep they can be inserted and in what position they can be used. Takes a little away from the moment if you have to constantly worry if you're hurting her.

I'm not saying there aren't women who only want larger, there are. But in my experience they have not been the majority.

Jim.

ps - in my previous post, I was not insinuating that width is not a problem because they are loose...just that the love canal will expand in that direction to accept various sizes. It is not as easily expanded for length.

Understood. I'm just talking stereotypes, and you can't deny it's a rampant one!

And, for every woman who'll worry that a large penis will "limit how deep they can be inserted and in what position they can be used," there's at least one (probably more) who'll argue that size IS an issue--just check the previous threads.

Basically, I was playing devil's advocate, partly in reaction to the appearance of yet another penis-size question (If it wasn't perceived as a problem, it wouldn't keep coming up!).

And the "loose" example was mine and mine alone, and my wait of baiting a related argument with the hope of stimulating debate over the point. I didn't mean to imply that anyone else had suggested it. And, I still think it's a valid point and question.

No malice intended, honest. Cheers, and happy Sunday.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by leftcoastcouple

And the "loose" example was mine and mine alone, and my wait of baiting a related argument with the hope of stimulating debate over the point.

Most women won't get into a debate of this nature.

You see, we're perfect creatures with no flaws. Our vaginas stay in a perpetual virginal state.
We have to worry about breast size, leftcoastcouple, so I think men and women are fairly matched in the "size" debate. Mayhaps women have it a little worse?-- Have you noticed the rise of breast implants? When men get penile extentions as often as women get breast implants maybe the debate would be more politically correct or evenly matched.


I'm just nibbling your bait.

[sensuality]

Very good comeback

[tina78]

I definitely prefer a larger guy...not gigantic, mind you, cause those hurt...but bigger and thicker is always better in my book. My partner (thank the Lord) is very well endowed - about 8" long and 6" around. I've been with guys who were shorter, but if they're at thick, that works just fine. The smallest I've been with, and I'm not kidding, was no more than 3" long and 3" around, and let me tell you - I couldn't feel a damned thing!

As I mentioned in my post about our first experience the other night, I really felt like I got the short-end of the stick, pun intended. With my partner being as large as he is, I've really gotten used to enjoying a good size and I knew the chick he was banging that night was feeling pretty good, seings how I was with her hubby and he was about 1/2 the size of my guy. Sorry guys, but I want a nice, big, thick dick...and at the next party we go to, I'm going to make sure that's what I get...there's gotta be a fair exchange next time, lol!

[St. Augustine]

Decided to put my 2 cents worth into this one! lol

Mike is average size. I on the other hand am pretty small and tight in the vaginal area. I have never delivered a child naturally, both my children were c-section. I am fortunate the Mike is a very sensual lover. He knows how to use his average sized equipment in all the right ways and gives me maximum pleasure and orgasms.

I sometimes think about if Mike are with another couple and the guy is well endowed that I'll freak and run from the room screaming. Cause as average sized as Mike is when he does deep penetration it hurts. All I can think of is what kind of pain will I feel if the guy is big! Do I have to have the guys get it hard and demonstrate to me how huge it is before we consent to being with the couple???

Cathy

[crestviewcpl2]

Hey leftcoast that was awesome, I love the fact that some think that they need bigger and thicker to feel anything. I find it very disconcerting to read, only men with 7 inch and thick need apply. Love to see someone write them back with a Kegel instruction manual attached and say, here honey you must need this. I've been with many different sizes and bigger doesn't mean better nor does it mean they can last, or please. I'll take a man who knows how to make me feel good in all ways than one who thinks just penetrating is the end all to end all. Big isn't bad, smaller isn't bad, its the lover that makes the difference and to exclude ANYONE over size, big or small isn't in the best interest of enjoying yourself. As a woman I hope my kegels help, but I do know more than one way to make a man feel satisfied so if one part isn't working I'll sure as hell use another.

[curiousagain]

Wow!! This keeps coming up (no pun intended). I would think women are by penis size sort of like men are like breast size. Everybody has their own preference and the shape is as if not more important than the size. Too much is well, too much. I have a friend that had that problem when dating. Over half the women that tried, couldn't even get it in. Some were terrified of it.
Makes you realize there can be too much of a good thing.

Yes, Virginia, vaginas are different. I am 7 length and a little over 6 circumfrence and have seen a couple of times I couldn't hardly get it in and have had a couple of times where I wasn't sure I had it in!! Some can take it in any position and some can only take it in certain positions. So, ya never know.

I did a google search and here are a few links, get a cup of coffee, sit back and have a few laughs.

http://www.neo-tech.com/penis/

http://www.condom.com/ne-104-l.html

http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/art...gi?artid=33342

http://www.neo-tech.com/penis/

http://www.edu.uni-klu.ac.at/~amikla...k/answer19.htm

http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/p...e_survey.shtml

http://www.coolnurse.com/penis_size.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/size.htm

http://www.askmen.com/love/vanessa/vanessa4.html

http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/p...articles.shtml

http://www.sexinfo101.com/kb_penissize.shtml

http://www.average-penis-size-chart.com/

http://encyclopedia.thefreedictionary.com/Penis%20size

http://www.sizesurvey.com/

http://www.free-condom-stuff.com/fcs...rage-size.html

http://penissizedebate.com/page40_ideal-penis-size.htm

http://penissizedebate.com/index.html

http://www.condom.com/thirdleg.html

http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/w...nis_size.shtml

Play safe and play careful, it's a big world out there
Curiousagain

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Yes, Virginia, vaginas are different.
Curiousagain

!!!

Oh that's too funny!

[PAyoungCPL]

I would say im average in everyway down there. about 6 and average width. nothing to brag about but then again cant wine to much after hearing about 3". Since i cant go buy an extra inch at walmart i have found other ways to ummm lets say improve current parts. (that would be great though, hi i want an extra inch and they just say asile 12 by sporting goods.) So i made a little trip to the local piercing studio and got both mini me and my clit licker pierced. Both are great acceries for helping the ladies get the big O.
I would do anything for the extra inch or two though.

[robnbarb]

Well I will add to this.

When I wanted to approch the wife about the lifestyle, I got this idead that if I presented her with plenty of porn of well endowed men she would get horny and want to. To my surprize that did not work.

We discussed it later and came to the realization that penis size was my issue. My fantasy is to watch her get fucked by a realy well endowed man with both length and girth. She admits she is intimidated by a large cock.

Now does that mean size is an issue, not really. When we start choosing we won't make that a deal breaker. but the point is all this time I, the man, have had the size thing going on. No I am not gay or bi, I am quite straight. I just get turned on by the idea of her getting fucked by a big man who knows what he is doing (ie being gentle).

I myself am of adverage legnth and width, but know I statisfy her just fine.

I suppose my point here is to prove its more of a man's issue that a woman's.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

We have to worry about breast size, leftcoastcouple, so I think men and women are fairly matched in the "size" debate. Mayhaps women have it a little worse?-- Have you noticed the rise of breast implants? When men get penile extentions as often as women get breast implants maybe the debate would be more politically correct or evenly matched.

I personally don't think so. The size of a woman's breasts have nothing to do with the intensity of a man's orgasm. It has always been eluded to that a woman orgasms harder with a larger penis. True or not, that is what men are made to believe. Tits have nothing to do with direct sex organ stimulation like a penis stroking in and out of a pussy. Tits are a visual compared to a physical sensation. You hear some women talk about how they enjoy the feeling of being "filled up" by a large penis. You've never heard a guy say "Her tits were so huge I musta' cum a gallon!" You see in swingers ads "Don't respond unless 8" or more". You never see an ad reading "Must be D-cup or greater."

Some men might be initially more attracted to a woman with larger breasts, but when it gets down to the nitty gritty it doesn't make a difference on the quality of the experience.

Originally Posted by leftcoastcouple

OK. Is that really how it is? Or are we just too politically correct as a society to insult a woman by calling a spade a spade

No, I think you're right. I commented on the same thing to my wife about a year ago. Just watch FOX and all the comedy shows. There are plenty of jokes regarding a man's minimal size and inability to satisfy a woman. You never hear a joke about a woman's tits being too small.

Some people are just way too sensitive.

Mr. WS

[djjwp]

I'm 6" and average in width. I know if I put any toy over 7 into the boss, she tells me it hurts right away. We men are all in love with the idea of being 10" but we need to step back and realize that they were built to match us. Some are deep, some not, some are wide, some not. They are just like us and it's our duty to get out there and find as many matches to our equipment as possible!

Still, I would love to see her taken by someone hung like a horse!

My question, those ladies who can take the biggens, do they ever have to go into the uterus to get all the way in? Don't laugh, I have no idea if that is even possible. just putting it out there.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

I personally don't think so. The size of a woman's breasts have nothing to do with the intensity of a man's orgasm. It has always been eluded to that a woman orgasms harder with a larger penis. True or not, that is what men are made to believe. Tits have nothing to do with direct sex organ stimulation like a penis stroking in and out of a pussy. Tits are a visual compared to a physical sensation. You hear some women talk about how they enjoy the feeling of being "filled up" by a large penis. You've never heard a guy say "Her tits were so huge I musta' cum a gallon!" You see in swingers ads "Don't respond unless 8" or more". You never see an ad reading "Must be D-cup or greater."

Some men might be initially more attracted to a woman with larger breasts, but when it gets down to the nitty gritty it doesn't make a difference on the quality of the experience.
Mr. WS

I don't think that the size of a man's penis really makes a difference in regards to the intensity of an orgasm. At least to me, it doesn't. Clitoral stimulation is the more important factor to obtaining an orgasm (IMHO- I can't speak for all women). If you'll notice from my earlier post in this thread:

By Vespertine- Penis size is irrelevant to me. Men don't have to have a large penis to be a good lover. I've known several men that were well endowed that couldn't please me and have had lovers who were size-challenged rock my world.

Though, I have seen those type of adds that you're aluding to (not many, but a few) : Don't contact unless you're at least 8"..blah, blah, blah....
I've never understood them. *Shrugs* But when it comes down to each individual it's all a matter of opinion and preference. I think those women are limiting themselves and might be passing up a potentially great lay by a man who's only 6". But it is what THEY desire. So, who are we to judge?
I've also known men who are specifically out there looking for big breasts. It's all personal preference.

I still think it's the guys who make more of an issue out of penis size. I think that's why the comedians joke about it- because it is a common male insecurity. Just like I think that guys make an issue over breast size too.

Hopefully, we can get that stimulating debate going that leftcoastcouple was hoping to have.