Does size really matter?

[Blondx2for4]

We are new to this as a couple and my wife has never complained about me, my penis size or the way I use it. We have a awesome sex life and have no complaints.

But, for some odd reason, I have this complex about the size of my own penis when it comes to swinging.

Now, I'm an average white guy sporting about 7" when I'm really excited, and an average thickness.

The woman of the other couple is African American, and her previous partner was a really well hung male (like a 3rd leg) She doesn't seem to care about size, and has stated that she likes everything about me (her current partner is the same size as me) but I'm always wondering in the back of my mind what she will do with me inside of her (we haven't gotten that far yet)

Of course, this "concern" has caused me anxiety and a lack of strong lasting erection the first two times we soft swapped.

Does size really matter to women in this lifestyle, or am I just overly concerned with this stupid idea?

Thanks,

Chuck

I know I'm a dude but I have read on this alot and I think the consensus is size is not that important to MOST.

Also just because a woman has sex with someone with a huge cock does not mean that a lesser size one will no longer do anything for her.
If that was the case I would be in BIG trouble !

We have been with men who have been huge and even in the same sexual event my average warrior has gotten mrs naughty to her happy place just as well as King Kong.

I think all of us men who fall into the "Average" category are a little self consious once in a while about our size. But I equate it to how some woman are self consious about there body when they look damn fine!

[CB_n_Red]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

Also just because a woman has sex with someone with a huge cock does not mean that a lesser size one will no longer do anything for her.
If that was the case I would be in BIG trouble !

You and me both!!

But no complaints yet.

I did have one playmate cop a feel early in a meet up. I just commented that no, it's not over-sized, but it works just fine. She was happy with that, and it did. Just a shame the same couldn't be said for her SO who failed to perform at all, in spite of being better built than me. Red was not a happy kitty

With hindsight we wondered if we had been brought in solely for me to satisfy her.....

Oh well. We chalked it down to experience.

CB

[WesternSwing]

You know, I had never thought about it with any other women because I never knew the size of the men before me, and they never complained about my average size unit... Then, my now wife and I moved in together after we had been dating for some months and a picture of her ex-boyfriend of two years fell out of a book as we were unpacking in our new apartment. He was asleep on a bed and his dang thing was flopped up to his belly button!

But in the end, size doesn't matter much to her at all. Her ex-husband was below average, her next serious relationship was WAY above average, and she has had boyfriends all the way in between. She (and I think the majority of women) are more concerned with the craftsman rather than the tool. As long as the tool is large enough to hit all the right spots that is all that matters. And when it comes to husbands, it's not the cock, it's who it is attached to that makes sex with the one you are married to better.

I posed a question to a self-professed size queen a couple of months ago. I asked her "would you rather have a guy with a huge cock that is average at oral sex or a guy with an average size cock that huge orally." She didn't even hesitate to answer the guy with the average size cock. Reason? She said in reality any size cock can get her off just fine, other aspects of sex are just as important as size, and when it came down to it was simply the visuals of a large cock that made it erotic. Kind of like tits on a woman. Regardless of your preference (big or little) the sex isn't better, just the initial visual or attraction can be more erotic. Most all the women I know say the same about cock size.

You will always have a small percentage that say size is all that matters, but as long as it isn't your wife, what's to worry about?

And you know what? The fact that you are smaller may be one of the things that attracts her to you. You are different then the previous playmate. What would be the fun if everybody was the same?

Mr. WS

[Denver2some]

Mrs. Denver2some here ...

Personally, I do not really care about a man's size. My husband is larger than average, but I have been with men who are smaller and larger ... and the size never determined my level of interest or satisfaction. In a swinging situation, I am happy if the man (1) can achieve and keep an erection, and (2) has some skill and is attentive.

I think I speak for a lot of women when I say that an attentive lover with a smaller size who is an interesting person wins hands down over a guy with a large penis who is basically "coasting" on having a huge one ("look at my wonderful penis") and not making any effort to please.

Sure, it can be novel to have an encounter with a really, really large fella every now and then ... but most women will tell you that really, really large can hurt if you aren't careful!

I hope this and the other replies here help ease your concerns. Have fun!

[Sweetdevil]

Blondx2for4,

I am an African-American amle who is a little less than eight inches and average thickness; so I think I am average too.

I do beleive that size does nmatter to a point, a different point for all women.

I do know from my experiences grinding a woman clitorial area, moving with the purpose to touch and feel a woman in all the places a man can, while stroking to achieve mutual pleasure, will make the man a good lover as far as penetration.
I did all the above when I was younger and in shape, flexiable and aerobic conditioning.
Now I am not! LOL.
So I must get up and get back in shape so I can go back to my younger days and just not bumpin' n grinding!

[TxCouple98]

some guys love a woman with big tits.....so i don't think there is anything wrong with a woman loving the idea of a guy with a big cock! with that said does the woman with big tits make the sex that much better than one with smaller ones....maybe...maybe not... does a guy with a big cock make the sex that much better than one with a smaller cock...maybe..maybe not.

[4HavNfunHung]

The effectiveness of size asside,

Isn't there something pretty hot about a woman craving big cock?

[oncewere]

at four and a half inches size does matter, especially if your partner has strong Keggle muscles. It's kind of like money. Money isn't important.... as long as you have money.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by 4HavNfunHung

The effectiveness of size asside,

Isn't there something pretty hot about a woman craving big cock?

The general concesus of this thread is that size is not as important to effectiveness as the owner of the cock's skills. A bad lover with a big cock is still a bad lover and probably will not get a woman off. A big cock doesn't make a man a better lover any more than big tits make a woman a better lover.

Every woman I've ever talked to about this subject has said primarily the same thing. As long as the sword is of adequate size (meaning big enough to stay in while strokin'), it's the swashbuckler that makes the difference. The majority have said a big cock is more of a novelty than a neccessity.

Mr. WS

[SexhoundDog]

I totally agree with Western Swing. I'm probably average or a tiny bit bigger length and bigger than average circumference, and it's fine for my wife. Just as we men have certain traits that we call "eye candy", so do women. She definitely enjoys looking at a big hard cock, but other than a little curiousity, it makes no difference to her.
I've always felt that if you can make a woman feel full, you don't need a big dick. If you know how to use what you've got, you can stroke all around to hit all the spots.

[Denver2some]

Blondx2for4 ,

I mentioned I'd replied to this thread to my husband last night, and he asked me to share his perspective. His perspective is, having "lots of length" actually may be a negative in a couple of ways. He says he loves the feeling of being inside a woman all the way, pelvis to pelvis ... and really long guys are going to have to hold back or risk hurting the woman. And I knew exactly what he meant: not only is that feeling of having balls slapping against me very nice, but sex is a lot more fun when I'm not thinking in the back of my mind, "Oh man, I hope he doesn't get too carried away here."

Denver2Some

[2New2it]

My 7" length sometimes hurts my wife and while my average thickness works for her, she really enjoys them very thick.

[easygoin]

coming from a dude asking the same question before...ive been told that size does not matter and you can bet that when they tell you that here its the most honest answer..everyone here is great and would not lie you may get the "professed size queen" every now and then but for the most part im with mr naughty as i am avg as well and havent had complaints...

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

A bad lover with a big cock is still a bad lover and probably will not get a woman off.

The majority have said a big cock is more of a novelty than a neccessity.

Amen WesternSwing!!!

I was reading through this thread and thinking the very same thing.

Mr Spoo's main goal is to always pleasure me . . . and his techniques and talents go way above any others!!! I am a happy, happy monkey!!


I do have to add that my Mr is definately above average in length and well . . . width facelick way above!!!!

Mrs Spoomonkey