If size doesn't matter...

[Alura]

Several ladies of this forum have said, "It's not the size, it's knowing how to use what he has."

Perhaps you ladies could tell us exactly what a man who "knows how to use it" does?

Husband of Alura

[m9sept74]

GREAT question Alura!! I'm anxiously awaiting a response from the ladies. What are we going to do if this is one of those things that you just can't explain, but must be demonstrated.

[JustAskJulie]

In my opinion the correct way to state that wouldn't be knows how to use "it".

It would be "knows how to use everything he has". There's a lot more to getting a woman off than just sticking a dick (of any size) in her. If a guy understands that, then it really doesn't matter what size his dick is.

[walrus0115]

Hell, I'll bite on this one until the ladies chime in. I'm a married regular guy who belives he satisfies his wife and other partners quite well. While I am endowed with an average member, good sexual health and knowledge make it very desirable.

First, "how to use it" is an improper term. You're not "using" your penis anymore than the woman uses only her vagina. Herein lies the meat of the matter. For a man to be a truly good lover he has to first understand the female anatomy. Basically we're both the same. Head, shaft, sack. Clitoris, vagina, labia. They all start out the same, a little hormone here, a little hormone there and viola, one-eyed-monster.

Knowing that they are both basically the same organs will help you to have better sex. The head of your penis is a wonderfully sensitive area just like the clitoris. So if it feels good to have that stimulated then vice-versa. While yer at it, the shaft needs a little attention, so on to the vagina.... Oh, but don't forget to play with those balls when giving a blowjob ladies... so remember that labia... Get them all together for a hoedown and you've got yourself an orgasm.

I always try to put myself in the womans shoes during sex. (hehe no comments about that please.) What feels good to me usually feels good for her. What I mean is that if I like it when a girl sucks on the head of my penis and plays with my balls at the same time then she would most likely like it if I sucked on her clitoris and played with her labia at the same time.

Of course I've only dealt with the genitals here and I could write a whole book about breasts. I always look at sex like dancing. You gotta move all the parts, keep a good rythm with your partner and don't stop until the song is over for both of you. And sometimes you just have to grind together until you're sure that your pubic hair has turned to diamond from the pressure.

If there are any men out there that don't fully understand the female anatomy I would highly recommend the Discovery Health Channel. They have some awesome shows about human sexuality and how it evolved. We've even evolved sexually so that it is more likely that pregnancy will occur during simultaneous orgasm.... look it up!

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by walrus0115:
Herein lies the meat of the matter.

LMAO!!
Not sure if it was intended, but a great double entendre, Walrus.

BYW, you guys have mail.

Dan

[ 03-09-2002: Message edited by: CanadianCouple ]

[nikki&robin]

LMAO....Oh my god Walrus....that was....perfect!!

[gambit]

This is probably one of the most frequently asked questions on the net, and that's a shame, because it's really a pointless question. Penis size is important if and only if you think it is. If you have sex with men and you desire a large penis, then penis size is important to you, and only to you. If you feel your penis should be larger, then penis size is important to you, and only to you.
Many women report that too many men are hung up on the size of their penises. The vagina is only eight to thirteen centimeters long, and even a small penis can touch every square centimeter within the vagina.This article is short and to the point. Do not worry about the size of your penis.

Let's look at it this way. You don't worry about the size of your feet, do you? They are relatively well proportioned to the rest of your body and serve the task for which they were intended. Whether you believe in evolution or God or something else. Your feet serve their purpose quite well. The penis is the same way. It is "designed" to fit in a vagina and assist in the propagation of the species, period. Wishing to have a penis which is an inch or two longer is purely vanity.

Many women say that they too prefer larger penises; however, they too are often speaking from vanity rather than practicality. Once they have experienced the pain of a forcefully thrust penis hitting their cervix they soon desire a more moderately sized penis. In fact, most woman and men, for that matter, don't even know how large a "normal" size penis is. They just know that it should be larger. This is a sure sign that they don't know what they are talking about.

So don't worry about the size of the penis. Just have fun with it. He he he he lol!!!

[Balerics]

Very good post, Gambit, but the question, which was, I think, aimed strictly at ladies, was not the one you answered.

Alura's question was not, "How do you feel good about your cock, no matter what the size?"

Many women have written on this board, "It's not the size, it's knowing how to use it."

The question was, "What does a man who 'knows how to use it' do?"

Balerics

[MrYaWanna]

How does a man know how to use it? It being his sexuality and his body in this response.

I've always thought and since learned, that you have to look and listen. A woman will tell you by the way she moves what she wants and whether you are doing the right thing. As other posters have said, think of what you do. If a woman is almost touching you in the right spot what do you do? You move yourself so she is touching the right spot. Women are no different. Some women are vocal, work with that. You'll know when you are doing the right thing.

That and variety. Don't just sit there, if she stops moving or making noise move on. Again, would you like it if a woman did the same thing forever?

Of course you'll also know when not to move on. There is that magic time when you know she's headed over the top and unless you are teasing and prolonging things stay put.

For me it's all about pleasing my partner. If that works I'm a happy boy

[MattMann]

This question and the size question speak to a pronounced need we males seem to have to do all that we can to please a female sex partner. Is that because we care so much about women's pleasure above our own? (I mean women never question whether they are equipped to please a man sexually or seek out long, complicated instructions on the varied and complex maneuvers required to bring their male partners to a satisfactory sexual experience - usually it is pretty easy to do) Or do we really want to make ourselves feel good about our ability to attract and sexually satisfy women (preferably a wide range of women over a lifetime) because we focus in so much on the way women perceive us to measure up our own perceptions of where we fit on the scale of being a "real man"? It really seems that winning the favors of women is the ultimate goal of every male achievement and quest. As they said in Scarface: "First, you get the money, then you get the power, THEN you get the women!" Is that a sad commentary on our inability to escape our biological programming or a statement of the immense power women wield in a free society with their sexuality?

[EternallySingle]

There is no answer because no two women like exactly the same thing. the only sure bet is to keep your eyes and ears open before, during, and after sex. Listen more than you talk, and talk when she appears to want to listen. Don't get so hung up on what worked last time that you get into a rut. And when all else fails, pretend you're in the backseat of your father's car after the homecoming dance and let your fingers do the walking while your lips do the talking.

[2New2it]

Yes, I can't begin to count the number of times I've seen ads from women and couples who say..."unless you are unattractive and under 6", please don't respond."

Feel-good statements are okay, but reality doesn't always agree. Such is life.

[wrnakedru]

from one another- - or from a prospective employer.

Each are seeking a 'multi-tasker' who is a 'team player' and 'attentive to detail', 'produces' 'positive results' 'with little instruction and/or supervision', 'is stimulated by a challenge' and 'recognizes when extra effort is needed'.

Where the variance comes in the analogy between 'career' and 'sexual pleasures' is that these things are ALWAYS EXPECTED by an employer.

In a marriage and/or commited sexual/emotional relationship - success comes from DESIRING to GIVE ALL of the above with NO EXPECTATION regarding the return as motivation.

More would succeed if, instead of aiming for a 50-50 deal, we sought to GIVE 95% and only 'EXPECT' 5%.

Truth be told, there is a constant fluctuation as to who is in which role.

wrnakedru

[EternallySingle]

I've had one-night stands with women I wouldn't give the time of day to because of either their looks or personality, and I'm sure there are women who can say the same thing about men (and some women). When all you want is sex right then and there, penis size, bra size, hair color, race, age, what cologne is being worn, and what food they are eating at the time is way more important than how they act or what they think. Given this train of thought, size is VERY important to people when looking for sex partners online. It is one more thing someone just looking for a quick lay can use to help choose between two guys that have their attention.

Of course, in the real world, most people aren't going to choose to have a committed relationship just because of their penis or breast size. Well, some do, but those relationships don't last long.

[PrtyinDuo]

A woman will tell you by the way she moves what she wants and whether you are doing the right thing.

MrYaWanna...Dito Not being overly endowed myself I have learned this fact to be ever so true.

Enjoy!!